Greetings!
Welcome to the March newsletter that's just making it in the nick of time. I have been struck by the apparent presence of aggression in the news and in daily life around me, which led me to the topic of 'Transforming Aggression.'
Here are the reflections and practical suggestions I wish to share with you on how we might intentionally redirect and transform aggression in our lives. I'm curious to hear your response.
I continue to develop my work in the field of 'Transitions.' Great news - you can still claim your seat at the 'Transitions' seminar in Kansas City on April 11, 2010.
Visit the brand new Spiritual Life Coaching page and check out the "Who & What Is..." section for further updates.
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Sudden Explosion: Redirecting Aggression
Piercing screams, stomping feet, chasing, hissing, growling, fur flying! Suddenly, out of nowhere, I found myself in the middle of the worst cat fight I have ever witnessed. Certainly the worst one to date in  my own house. I kept yelling 'STOP' until I was able to lock Oskar into one room calm down Miss Kitty. The third cat, Mr Tibbs, was still growling, hissing and screaming somewhere in the house. I was stunned. What had happened? I finally caught Mr Tibbs. Blood - Mr Tibbs's front paw was bleeding. His right paw prints stained my beige Berber and Duvet cover red. How could they fight this viciously? What on earth caused this aggression? When all cats had cooled off a little, I realized that Miss Kitty, whom I had deemed the culprit, appeared to be innocent. She had simply been caught in the crossfire. That's even worse I thought. It left one of my two handsome, well-behaved, docile, loveable and playful boys as the aggressor. They are, after all, brothers from the some litter who have been with me for nearly two years. They clean each other's ears, eat and play together daily. How could I help? I needed more information. I combed the Internet and consulted with vets and cat experts. Now, wouldn't you know it? In the feline world, the behaviour my cats exhibited is generally known as 'redirected aggression.' Well, doesn't that sound applicable to many human situations? READ ON.
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Intention...Provoking Reflection
Human aggression is usually understood as the intention to inflict physical, emotional or verbal injury on another human being or a group of human beings. This definition suggests that our aggressions are motivated by our intentions. How clear you on the concept of intentions? I mean not just intellectually, but as a truly incorporated and integrated notion that directs your daily living? Here are just two references to learning more about intentions. Each of them approaches the subject from very different angle: Lynne McTaggart is involved with Intention Experiments and Dr. Wayne Dyer presents ideas on the Power of Intention briefly in this video clip. Of course, they both have published books on the subject as well. Now, many of us consider ourselves conscious individuals. How active a process is intention setting for you? I'm curious to hear on what you tend to focus your intentions. I'd also like to know how you
set your intentions. Despite your 'best intentions,' have you every redirected your a  nger, frustration or aggression to a person who did not deserve that treatment? Or, do you ever get caught in the crossfire when aggression is suddenly redirected toward you? What do you do then? Are you able to stay centered then? Here is an excerpt from the amazing German writer and polymath Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) on the transformational power of intentions as they apply to the treatment of ourselves and others. I have come to the frightening realization that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration; I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and if I humanize or de-humanize another. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.What feelings and responses do these words evoke in you?
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I welcome your contemplations on intentions in the context of transforming aggression. Or how about sharing your experience or understanding of how intentions affect
your daily life? I'd be delighted to hear from you.
Love and Light
Martina
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To All Maritimers and East Coast Residents
You are invited to attend my workshops on Transitions, Getting UnStressed & UnStuck and Listen! What Do You Hear? in Halifax at the annual conference of the Atlantic
Therapeutic Touch Network.
When: May 27-29, 2010 Call: 902-454-2919 or 902-567-2432 Email: Atlantic TT Network URL: www.atlanticttn.com
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