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January e-Newsletter

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Waiting Children
Suggested Reading
Upcoming Events
Open Houses
Wednesday's Child
Transracial Parenting
Letter to My Son
F.A.S.T. Program

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Upcoming Events
Please visit our events calendar on our website for a complete and up-to-date listing of ALL events that we will be appearing at.  The events listed below are those we are hosting or play a significant role in.
 
 
Ring of Hope
Prospect Public Library Prospect, CT
February 15 
 
FAM's Got Talent
April 2012 Canceled  

 

CCA Conference on Kinship Care   
Location: TBA
May 11


CAFAP Conference  
Farmington, CT
May 18-19th


Bells Of Hope
CT Faith Communities
November 2-4th

Open House  schedule available on our website

Prospective foster and adoptive parents are welcome at any Open House listed on our website.  Please call one of the regional coordinators listed at the bottom of this newsletter or email

us for more information or to schedule an individual appointment. 

Click here for the most current listing of open houses across the state.

Wednesday's Child
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WTNH Channel 8 airs a weekly segment featuring CT children available for adoption and families formed through adoption.  Click on the logo  above to see recent video segments hosted by Ted Koppy. 

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Car Donations Making a Difference
Good News Garage (GNG), a program of Lutheran Social Services is one of the first nonprofit social enterprise car donation programs in the U.S. The mission of Good News Garage is to create economic opportunity by providing affordable and reliable transportation options for people in need, including foster youth. Since its founding in Burlington, Vermont, in 1996, GNG has awarded more than 3,800 reliable vehicles to individuals and families in need.

 

Good News Garage repairs as many donated cars as possible in order to provide them to low-income individuals who need transportation to gain access to employment, shopping, school and medical facilities.
 
You may donate your car online or call Good News Garage toll-free, at 877.GIVE.AUTO (448.3288). All vehicle donations are eligible for a tax deduction.

 

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Volume 4, Edition 1                                       January 2012

Greetings!

January has flown by in a whirlwind of warm days and just enough snow to make it fun!  Before we all know it, May (National Foster Care Month) will be upon us with many terrific opportunities for networking and conferences designed to educate foster and adoptive parents as well as staff.  Check out our calendar and be sure to save room on your own calendars for the CAFAP Conference and the Connecticut Council on Adoption conference.  As soon as the ink has dried on their brochures we will be sure to post them for you on our website!

This month we are focusing on a particular topic - transracial/transcultural parenting.  Please let us know if you enjoy this format and be sure to send along any suggestions for future topics.

Best wishes in the New Year,
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Resources for Transracial/Transcultural Parenting
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The focus of this month's newsletter is transracial/transcultural parenting. Families who parent children from another culture or race may face added challenges that may require them to educate themselves on issues unfamiliar to them. From cooking new dishes and caring for hair and skin unlike their own to learning how to handle issues pertaining to prejudice or privilege - there are many reasons to become knowledgeable. Below you will find links to a number of resources for families considering or currently transracially or transculturally parenting. Although you may not agree with every author's point of view, the object of including these resources is for families to be provided opportunities to formulate their own educated opinions. There are many books available on this subject, some of which are included in our suggested reading list. Further, the Adoption Assistance Program is available to make recommendations for further reading and has a lending library where some books may be borrowed by families. We welcome your comments and suggestions on this provocative topic!  Enjoy~ 

 

Ashley and Khalid

From the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Child Welfare Information Gateway website. This article contains provocative questions and ideas for families considering transracial/transcultural adoption.  

http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/f_trans.cfm 
 

 

Transracial Parenting in Foster Care and Adoption: Strengthening Your Bicultural Family - a great downloadable booklet featuring information commonly requested by families considering or already parenting transracially/transculturally as well as many practical suggestions.

http://www.ifapa.org/pdf_docs/TransracialParenting.pdf  

 

Recent National Public Radio article and podcast discussing Chinese New Year and its meaning for adoptees and their families
 http://www.npr.org/2012/01/26/145905361/american-parents-chinese-kids-kick-off-new-year  

 

Interesting article featuring lots of quotes from real families.
 http://www.adopting.org/inter.html  

 

National Public Radio synopsis of an interview featuring Adam Pertman, Executive Director of the Evan B Donaldson Institute as well as many call-in listeners with their views. The radio interview is available by clicking on a link on this page.
 http://www.npr.org/2011/05/11/136208967/transracial-adoptions-raise-parenting-dilemmas   Radio link:
 http://www.npr.org/player/v2/mediaPlayer.html?action=1&t=1&islist=false&id=136208967&m=136208957  

 

Evan B Donaldson Insititute publication with recommendations for families adopting transracially/transculturally.
 http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/research/2009_11_culture_camp.php  

 

Website with links to information for families raising African American children, Asian children and Latino children.
 http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/transracial-adoption.php  

 

Harvard Law School Journal publication written by a young woman whose brother is transracially adopted.
 http://hjrej.com/volumes/20/morrison.pdf  

 

Perspectives of transracially adopted people. Here you will find links to publications and abstracts on books.
 http://www.childwelfare.gov/adoption/adopt_people/transracial.cfm  at the beach

 

CAFAP links to post-licensing training, including trainings relevant to transracial families:
http://cafap.com/cgi/site/training.pdf
  

 

Online training information for licensed CT foster/adoptive parents:
http://cafap.com/cgi/site/training.pdf
  


Letter to My Son
Read a mother's poem to her son

 

Letter to My Son

 

You look in the mirror and what do you see?

You notice the differences between you and me

You once asked when you were very small

Mommy, why are you yellow and not brown at all?

Words caught in my throat.

Not wanting to fail you,

I found it hard answering a question so tall.

 

Fate sent you to me, in answer to God's call.

I knew when I saw I saw your sweet baby face

Your tiny little fingers, your sweet baby smell,

That I could not resist you,

My heart started to swell.

 

The moment you arrived,

You captured a place.

In our family

In our hearts

In our little part of the whole human race.

 

I couldn't help but love you,

You were my little boy.

I fed you and rocked you

And helped you feel joy.

 

Now that you're older, my smart, curious boy,

You notice so many things.

You ask so many questions.

You challenge my skills.

Sometimes you're so smart, it gives me a chill.

 

"What color is God?

Is God brown?

Is God yellow?

Is God Father or Mother?"

You're my deep little fellow.

 

A thought so profound

Can we even resolve?

We decided together

God is all the above.

 

God is every color in the universe

Our God isn't limited to color or gender.

God is bigger than that,

An "incomprehender."

 

As you grow older, I struggle to know what's right.

I lay awake often, deep into the night.

Like moms the world over,

I dream of a good life for you

And desperately do I want to provide you the tools

To grow up with pride in your culture and race,

To look in the mirror and see in your face

The beauty,

The intelligence,

The good I see there.

A boy who can be at ease everywhere.

 

I hope when you grow up you say to yourself,

"I like who I am.

I 'm good, I'm the best.

I see all of the different facets of me

I know I am free to be the best I can be.

My life experiences helped me develop strength.

And this will help me all through my life's length."

 

I feel great pride when I think of my race

And, also, whenever I think of my place

In my family and church

My school and neighborhood, too

I feel I belong.

I feel happy here, too.

 

I have all of the tools

I need for success

My family life has been more

- not less.

 

Love,

Your mother


~A.B. (name withheld at author's request)

 

Learn About the F.A.S.T. Program
F.A.S.T. Program 
Did you ever wonder what services are available to you as foster and adoptive parents?  I never really understood what FAST meant when it was mentioned by providers as an option for help for families with children with behavioral issues.  As an adoptive parent, this service would have been beneficial to learn techniques to help parent my three children.
 
Here is the goal when utilizing Community Mental Health Affiliates FAST Program:  In home child and family assessment, behavior support, crisis intervention and respite.  The Foster and Adoptive Support Team (FAST) support foster parents and the child in managing challenging situations.  We assess the child's and family's strengths and needs. 
Services are offered to foster parents on a referral basis and we support and offer coaching to help when behavior is hard to manage; weekly respite hours may be offered, education and support regarding children's behavioral needs can be provided, and help with implementing an individualized home-based behavior management plan.
 
The services can last 3 months and extended to six months when needed, with prior approval.  Emergency coverage is 7 days a week serving the greater Waterbury, New Britain and Torrington areas.  If you are interested in this service, please contact your social worker.
 
Sue Plowman

Contact Information

 

Northwestern CT Regional Coordinator:     Deb Kelleher  203.706.0101   Email 

 

Meriden/Greater New Haven Area Regional Coordinators:  
                                                                         Ashley Minihan 203.394.8506  Email 
                                                                         Laura Rainey  Email
Greater Fairfield County Coordinator:        Selina Daniels 203.583.9374  Email 
  
Central/Southeastern CT Coordinator:        Alana Jones 860.710.1593   Email