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In This Issue
Waiting Children
Suggested Reading
Upcoming Events
Open Houses
Wednesday's Child
Star of the Month
Dying High
Inhalant Abuse

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January 18
 
FAM's Got Talent!
Waterbury, CT
April 2012
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Inhalant Abuse Workshop
Prospect/Wtby area
Spring 2012 TBD
 
Open House  schedule available on our website

Prospective foster and adoptive parents are welcome at any Open House listed on our website.  Please call one of the regional coordinators listed at the bottom of this newsletter or email

us for more information or to schedule an individual appointment. 

Click here for the most current listing of open houses across the state.

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WTNH Channel 8 airs a weekly segment featuring CT children available for adoption and families formed through adoption.  Click on the logo  above to see recent video segments hosted by Ted Koppy. 

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Good News Garage (GNG), a program of Lutheran Social Services is one of the first nonprofit social enterprise car donation programs in the U.S. The mission of Good News Garage is to create economic opportunity by providing affordable and reliable transportation options for people in need, including foster youth. Since its founding in Burlington, Vermont, in 1996, GNG has awarded more than 3,800 reliable vehicles to individuals and families in need.

 

Good News Garage repairs as many donated cars as possible in order to provide them to low-income individuals who need transportation to gain access to employment, shopping, school and medical facilities.
 
You may donate your car online or call Good News Garage toll-free, at 877.GIVE.AUTO (448.3288). All vehicle donations are eligible for a tax deduction.

 

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Volume 3, Edition 12                               December 2011

Greetings! 

Happy Holidays!  We hope you all are ready for this joyous season.  Although we all prefer to think about the joys and fun generally experienced this time of year, for foster and adoptive families this may be a time for "mixed blessings." We know that for many of the children we care for, this can be a difficult or sad time where they truly miss their families and their traditions. Check out this publication about helping kids in foster care (or adoption) get through the holidays put out by the Center for Child Welfare.  You may even want to share it with older youth.  

Look for information regarding our new event coming this April, FAM's Got Talent!, a pageant/talent show open to all youth ages 15 through graduation from high school (or age-out) residing in a foster or adoptive home and interested in participating in a really fun talent competition.  As soon as the details have been nailed down we will send out a special edition of the newsletter with sign-up information.  We are very excited about offering this great opportunity for both boys and girls to develop and hone skills like confidence and public speaking, as well as showcasing all of the amazing talent in our "FAM" family.   
 
And if you have time over the next few weeks, consider reading this publication by the Child Welfare Information Gateway called Understanding the Effects of Trauma on Brain Development  which presents information on the neurobiology of brain development in both typical and traumatized brains and managing your expectations.  Professionals might want to check out the publication, Supporting Brain Development in Traumatized Children and Youth also published by the Child welfare Information Gateway.
 
And, lastly, be sure to tune in for, A Home for the Holidays,  airing tomorrow evening.  This is the 13th annual showing of this film promoting "foster care adoption."  
 
What a great way to tell the world about the joys of adoption!
 
In closing, all of us at FAM and all of our partners, wish all of you, who work so tirelessly on behalf of the children, a blessed holiday season.  In the words of an anonymous Irish poet:
 
              May love and laughter light your days,
              and warm your heart and home.
             May good and faithful friends be yours,
             wherever you may roam.
             May peace and plenty bless your world
            with joy that long endures.
            May all life's passing seasons
             bring the best to you and yours!
 
Peace to all of you.
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 star of the month
 
Each month one of our member agencies feature a "star" whose service to children in foster care deserves special recognition.  Stars receive a small gift from FAM and a certificate of appreciation from the nominating agency.  This month our partner, Girls, Inc. of Southwestern Connecticut, is honoring one of their own.
 

 

 

 

 

To: Stacey Daddona

 

On behalf of Girls Incorporated of Southwestern Connecticut I would like to thank you for your dedication and service to Waterbury area girls for over 12 years.


As you know, our mission is to inspire all girls to be strong, smart, and bold. Girls Inc. of SWCT serves girls from many diverse backgrounds and socioeconomic statuses. Since many girls in foster and adoptive care participate in Girls Inc. of Southwestern Connecticut's quality programs, in 2011 we established a relationship with Foster Adoptive Mission.  

 

In the time that you have volunteered for and been employed with Girls Inc. of SWCT you've not only modeled our mission on a daily basis but have also helped countless girls find their voices; be creative; discover their talents; explore science and technology; succeed in school; develop leadership skills & independence; become healthy through dancing and other physical activities; have fun; and grow into confident young women.

 

It is due to your continued inspiration and dedication to the Girls Inc. of Southwestern Connecticut girls that I have recommended you as Foster Adoptive Mission's Star of the Month for December 2011.


Thank you for all that you do to inspire today's girls to be strong, smart, and bold and become tomorrow's healthy, educated, and independent young women.

 

Sincerely,

 

Anna M. Henry

Chief Operating Officer  

Dying High
                      **Warning: Graphic Video**
Recommended viewing by the Connecticut Inhalant Task Force, this video was shot at Waterbury Hospital and White Plains Hospital.  It deals with the difficult subject of youth substance abuse. 
Dying High
Dying High
Inhalant Abuse

Recently I attended a training presented by the CT Inhalant Task Force on inhalant abuse.  It was very informative and FREE.  I would highly recommend attending one of these half-day trainings to all parents, but especially foster and adoptive parents.  Our kids fall into one of the highest risk groups for inhalant abuse (exact numbers were not available).  Below is a brief overview of some of the information presented. 

 

Inhalant Abuse is defined as the deliberate inhalation of fumes, gases or vapors for the purpose of intoxication. Highs generally last no more than 15-35 minutes.  Users report feelings of euphoria and often risk daring feats involving violence, extreme risks, property destruction, and other behaviors indicating a loss of judgment while under the influence.

  

Did you know...

·         Nearly 22.3 million Americans have used inhalants at least once in their lives

·         12 year olds are more likely to try inhalants than marijuana (3x higher) or cigarettes. Most youth who try it will do so. Over 29% of eighth graders report having tried it.  In fact, 12 and 13 year olds comprise 45% of all inhalant abusers.

·         Of the persons who die from inhalant abuse, nearly 34% do so the first time they "sniff"

·         There are over 1400 products on the market that can be used as an inhalant

·         Although helium is NOT an inhalant deaths have been reported from its use due to embolisms and ruptured lungs caused by pressurized tanks.

  ·    Abusers will commonly refer to the abuse of these products as bagging, chroming, glading, or huffing. 

 

How will you know if your child is engaging in this behavior?  Although it is difficult to spot inhalant abuse, be sure to look for:

·         Chemical odors on clothes or breath

·         Paint stains on face & hands

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·         Oil or paint stains on backpacks

·         Red spots around nose or mouth

·         Frequent nosebleeds

·         Scarves or rags with chemical odors

·         Supplies of air filter masks

·         Missing or 'always empty' spray cans, etc

 

What are the effects of inhalant abuse?

·         Physical addiction

·         Salt/electrolyte imbalances

·         Damage to the liver, kidney and bone marrow (sometimes reversible)

·         Severe headaches

·         Breathing problems

·         Weight loss

·         Nausea

·         Seizures and tremors

·         Brain damage: diffuse cerebral, 

Empty inhalant containers; such as: lighters, aerosol spray cans, whipped cream cans, computer keyboard cleaners, etc.cerebellar and

brainstem atrophy

·         Nystagmus: the rapid, involuntary oscillation of the eyeballs

·         Deterioration of the myelin sheath

·         Loss or dulling of the senses, including: vision problems, loss of hearing, sense of smell

·         Slowed and slurred speech

·         Muscle coordination impairment, unsteadiness of gait

·         **Sudden Sniffing Death** - an unshockable, irreversible rhythm that is fatal.  This is unpredictable and can happen any time a person abuses inhalants.  Sometimes it is associated with the user becoming upset or panicked. Therefore, it is very important to stay calm if you suspect your child is under the influence.

Key Messages for children: Inhalants are poisons, toxins, pollutants and fire hazards.

·         Products are designed for a specific purpose

·         Follow directions on the label

·         Dangerous when used in unintended ways

·         They contain poisons, toxic chemicals and gases

·         They pollute

·         They were never intended to go inside your body

·         They are a fire and explosion danger

·         They are created from petroleum, that is, "crude oil"

Avoid creating a "how to" primer for experimenters and substance abusers. Instead, ask your child what they know about inhalants.

Avoid discussing...

·         Inhalants as a drug (Unless you are targeting a group where there are primarily inhalant abusers or children knowledgeable about inhalants)

·         Euphoric effects--Avoid talking about the "high"

·         What products can be abused

·         How to abuse these products & paraphernalia

Above is a very sort primer to get you started.  This topic deserves your attention.  FREE trainings are offered periodically across the state.  FAM will host a presentation sometime this spring.   Email me for more information or to be added to the invitation list. 
Contact Information

 

Northwestern CT Regional Coordinator:     Deb Kelleher  203.706.0101   Email 

 

Meriden/Greater New Haven Area Regional Coordinator:  
                                                                         Ashley Minihan 203.394.8506  Email 

 

Greater Fairfield County Coordinator:        Selina Daniels 203.583.9374  Email 
  
Central/Southeastern CT Coordinator:        Alana Jones 860.710.1593   Email