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Volume 1 Edition 12 November 2009
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Happy Holidays!

As you all know, November is National Adoption Month and this month's newsletter celebrates adoption and family ties.  We hope you enjoy reading the articles on families we interviewed this month.  
 
A few weeks ago, FAM invited many of you to see The Blind Side at a local theater.  The movie was truly inspiring.  We recommend that anyone interested or affected by foster care and adoption see this movie if you missed our private screening.  The Tuohy family, featured in the movie, was this year's recipient of a National Angels in Adoption Award.  Once you see the movie, you will understand why.
 
FAM would like to express our appreciation for all of the unsung "angels in adoption" across CT.  Every one of you who works with children in foster care, whether you be a family member, a social worker or another member of the foster care and adoption team, deserves our admiration and our thanks.  You give of your hearts, minds and souls so that children and families might heal and flourish.  We don't say thank you often enough.  Know that you have been in our thoughts and hearts throughout this past month.
 
The FAM staff wish you and your families the very best of holidays. 
 
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 Yogi
Live Your Dreams!
 
 Arthur Lee Rose, Yogi, to friends and family, is definitely a man who relishes all life has to offer.  An accomplished dancer and professional singer by trade; Yogi has an air of joy about him.  This former foster child is the picture of happiness, contentment and success.
 
Yogi was born in Tuskegee, Alabama, the fifth of ten children born to his mother.  When he was a year old, the family moved to Waterbury so that his single mom could live near family.  As Yogi describes it, "We lived in the poor section of Waterbury.  But I never felt we were poor, we just didn't have a lot of money.  We never had to sleep on the streets and there was always someplace we could go to get fed."  Yogi's mom worked as a domestic on the overnight shift in New Haven.  His older siblings watched over him and the younger children at night while his mom worked. 
 
When Yogi was 8, the house caught on fire because the children had been using candles for light.  Seven of the children were present, the oldest age 12.  All of the children made it out of the house safely; however, the six youngest children were taken into state custody and sent to the State Receiving Home in Windsor Locks.   Their mom found out what happened when she returned from work.  A month later they were returned into their mother's care.  The 4 youngest immediately left with their biological father to live in Wilmington, DE.  It was just too hard for a single woman with ten children to make ends meet.  Yogi remembers thinking he was going to live in Delaware also and being terribly disappointed when he remained behind although he did visit his half-siblings occasionally throughout his childhood.  Two weeks later he and one of his brothers were back in state custody.  He remembers thinking it was due to his mother's drinking problems.  "I had a chance at a childhood then.  For the first time I attended school regularly, had a bedtime and did not spend my days shining shoes for pocket money." 
 
Yogi has fond memories of the State Receiving Home.  "I was there for two years.  I was in my first play ever while I was there."  After two years Yogi was transferred to a foster home - Kay Wyrick's home.  Yogi remembers Kay well.  He and Kay did not get along.  Both had strong personalities and thoughts about life.  After 3 months, he moved to a foster home in Prospect where he began to study ballet.  Yogi was, and still is, passionate about dance and theater.  Yogi's DCF worker, Judy Bardorian supported his dreams.  Until her death, he considered her a good friend and mentor. 
 
Yogi moved to another foster home in Waterbury during these formative years.  He speaks fondly of these caring people who supported him in Prospect and maintained caring relationships with them until they died.  He says that during his time in Prospect he was "a kid of two separate worlds: one a dime a dozen (visiting Waterbury projects) and the other, the only black kid on the block."  He eventually returned home to live with his mom when he was a freshman in high school.  He credits his mom with his self-confidence.  "She always believed in me.  My father died when I was one, and she carried a flame for him for the rest of her life.  I reminded her of him. It made her treat me differently from the rest of my siblings and it made me believe in myself."
 
Yogi remained a ward of the state until age 21.  He took advantage of all the state could offer him.  He attended classes in Torrington at the Nutmeg Ballet School on scholarship.  After high school he attended NYU for two years.  In 1981 he joined the Dance Theater of Harlem, considered a premier multi-cultural ballet company. 
 
Yogi, now retired from dancing, had a short (he was injured) but successful dance career traveling the world.  Now he travels the world singing.  To other youth in foster care he says, "I have the life I always wanted.  Learn to believe in yourself.  With that everything is possible.  Gravitate towards people who encourage you to try."  He reminds youth, "You must be willing to do the work.  Forget the rejections.  If you believe in something, don't give up.  I always worked towards what I wanted.  I'm a kid from the ghetto and I don't buy into those negative stereotypes."   Yogi is living proof of the power of believing in oneself.  Next stop - Japan!
 
Casey Logo Not an Only Child Anymore 
 
For the first decade of his life, James was an only child. It wasn't until he turned 11 that his mother and father acted on what they had been thinking about for some time: opening their Central Connecticut home to a child in need of care.
 
Dan was 13 when he came to live with James and his parents. He had been living in a group home in Connecticut's foster care system and was about to be transferred to another when the opportunity arose to live with James's family instead. When he moved in, neither he nor his new family could be certain how challenging-or lasting-the change would be. From the start, James and Dan got along well. Dan fit in so well within the family, in fact, that they eventually adopted him, making him in the eyes of the legal system what James had long considered him: his big brother.
 
The changes in James's life didn't stop with Dan. Five years later, nine-year-old Pasquel joined the family. James recalled meeting him for the first time: "My parents and Dan and I met Pasquel at Friendly's for dinner. He was so happy just to be sitting in a restaurant eating a meal with a family. It meant a lot to him-and to us."
 
Pasquel, too, was adopted into the family after a time. Then came a little sister: Aniyah, who entered the foster care system at age six upon the death of her mother. A fourth brother is Justin, who has lived with the family for several years but has chosen not to be adopted because he regularly sees his biological mom. Regardless of the legalities, James considers Justin as much a sibling as any of his others.
 
Now age 20, James looks back over the second decade of his life with a mix of wonder and gratitude. In that time, more than 35 children have lived with James and his family, including Justin and the three who were adopted. "My parents are amazing," Justin says. "In addition to being adoptive parents, they also provide respite care for Casey Family Services. They underwent training so they could provide short-term care to other foster parents who need a break for whatever reason. Some of these children stay with us for a couple of weeks; others, for a month or two."
 
Whatever qualms James might have had at age 10, he can't imagine his life without his siblings and foster siblings. "It was sometimes difficult," he says, "especially not knowing how long some of the kids would be staying. Would this person be in my life forever or just be with us for a short time? It's hard to say goodbye to someone when you're not really sure what's going to happen to them-whether they're going to go to a good family and have a happy life." He attends the Casey Family Services' Christmas party each year, pleased to get a chance to reconnect with some of his short-term foster brothers and sisters.
 
When asked how this unusual way of growing up has changed him, James says he's much more outgoing than he probably would have been as an only child. It's easier for him to open up to others and start conversations, he says, because he always felt it was his job to put new children at ease. Upon meeting him, it is easy to see the influence of his experiences: He is open, friendly, and has an easy confidence. In just four years, he moved from an entry-level job into a management position, a promotion he credits to his ability to work well with others and handle whatever problems might arise.
 
November is National Adoption Month. As he celebrates this and every Thanksgiving, James is grateful for the extended family his parents have brought together.
Party HatsFosterware Parties!

Do you like to have fun?  Are you looking for an excuse to hold a party? And have you ever wondered what you could do to help find homes for waiting kids?   Consider hosting a Fosterware party.  These parties are based on the Tupperware home party concept and not only are they fun but they are designed to provide information to partygoers about ways they can help children in foster care.

FAM presenters come to your home and talk with groups of three or more of your friends and neighbors about our foster care and adoption programs. Our presenter makes a brief presentation and brings literature and goodies for all partygoers.  Hosting families are given a gift card to cover the cost of food and drinks. 

Please help us find good homes for great kids! We promise you'll have fun and you'll be opening your home and heart for a good cause.
 
Contact Deb Kelleher at 203-706-0101 or e-mail her to schedule a party.
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 What I Want to Be
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