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May 2009

FAM BalloonsWelcome to the "Tribute to Our Families" edition of the newsletter!

 
May is National Foster Care Month as most of you already know.  This is the month that all of us working foster care and adoption salute the work our families do every day - the love foster and adoptive families show to children every day.  The kindness and compassion that help children to thrive.  The constancy and discipline good homes instill in children who have experienced turmoil and chaos in the past. And we listen to the words of these resilient children themselves and what they have to say about their lives. 
 
Recently I attended the CAFAP conference where I was privileged to listen to a few speakers talk to the foster and adoptive parents present that day.  I was inspired by J Alvarado, Program Director in the DCF Office of Foster Care Services who stated, "There are two essential elements to creating change.  The first is the unwavering belief that we all can achieve great things.  And the second is the courage to act." J went on to state that foster and adoptive families embody those beliefs.   What a wonderful compliment to foster and adoptive parents everywhere and how very true!
 
The keynote speaker, Ashley Rhodes-Courter, a former foster child herself and author of the memoir, Three Little Words, spoke on behalf of all foster and adopted children when she stated, " I implore every adult who works with children to never judge a child by their case file." Ashley spoke from experience as her case file described a little girl who, she felt, in many ways bore little resemblance to the child she was.  But she also called it her "history" which she said, contained "essential pieces of myself that made me whole again," once she read it.  We were moved as she told of the pain children feel when they have no one to tell them about their past.  Finally, she spoke about how it feels to be in foster care and what families can do for children.  Two of her statements in particular moved me: "Sometimes you are the only person who tells us we can succeed," and, "Every child deserves to have one person in their life who knows the color of their eyes." 
 
FAM staff and volunteers have spent the better part of the past month interviewing and compiling stories about our families and their children for this issue of the newsletter.  Some are even in their own words.  We hope you enjoy reading about some of the most special people we know.  And we hope they inspire you as they have inspired us.
 
 
AJ

    Keondra's family 

 A Dream Come True
 by Alan Murphy
 
It takes some driving beyond the town shops to get there. After a few miles on quiet back roads, you pull up to Keondra 's house in a quiet country setting with a river nearby. One definitely gets the feeling not much happens in this part of Connecticut. But one thing is certain: There is a lot going on behind the doors of Keondra's new home. Though she just moved in a few weeks earlier, there's not a box in sight. The place is organized and spotless. And Keondra's welcome is genuine and unhurried, despite her busy lifestyle.
 
Still in her twenties, Keondra is one of the younger licensed foster moms in the state, but she has already made her mark on Connecticut's child welfare system. She has been a foster parent for seven years now and, during that time, has had more than 50 children live in her home. 
 
"I started out babysitting but found myself wanting to do more," Keondra says. "I've always enjoyed taking care of kids." When she began her training with the Department of Children and Families (DCF), she was single, holding down a job in addition to babysitting, plus going to college. It was a lot for a young person-or any person-to handle, but she made it work.
 
Today, Keondra is married and a registered nurse. Her specialty is caring for medically complex foster children, which means she has coped with everything from feeding and tracheotomy tubes to caring for a baby prior to an organ transplant. She takes comfort in knowing that she can provide care for such difficult-to-place children. "No child should have to live in a hospital," she says, "and I'll do whatever needs to be done to give them a home."
 
Caring for the children means Keondra typically must commute to and from the Connecticut Children's Medical Center in Hartfordbetween one and four times per week. She doubles up on appointments when possible to cut down on the number of trips, but that means spending as long as four hours at the hospital each visit. 
 
As a tireless advocate for the children in her home, Keondra has traveled all over the state to find the medical care her foster children require. Over the years she has managed to put together a team of physicians, therapists, pharmacists, medical equipment specialists, and social workers with whom she feels comfortable and whose care and judgment she trusts. Her dedication and commitment has been recognized by DCF, which awarded her its Outstanding Foster Family Award in 2007.
 
For Keondra, the true reward of her work comes from seeing the children thrive in her home, where they also receive the love and care of her husband, Corey, and her grandmother, Regina. Keondra's biggest disappointment is the time it takes for so many children to achieve a permanent placement, as their cases slowly work their way through the judicial system. Although some have gone on to be adopted, none of the children she has cared for have been reunited with either of their biological parents, due in part to the complexity of their medical needs. "DCF will provide the training birth parents need," Keondra says, "but that sometimes is not enough. It's a sad situation for everyone involved-and especially for those children who don't quickly find a person or family willing to adopt them."
 
Children have stayed in Keondra's home for as long as two years. In addition, she and her husband have adopted one foster child, a boy, now aged three, and are in the process of adopting a year-old girl currently in their care. She does what she can to stay in touch with all the children who have lived in her home, maintaining an open-door policy should any of them need to return.
 
Keondra encourages individuals and couples to explore adopting children in Connecticut rather than only looking overseas: "It costs nothing to adopt a child who is in foster care. It would be great if more people would reach out to the local children who so badly need a loving, stable home. I know there are excellent homes out there."
 

Lisa's family  Making a Difference
by Christy George-Tottenham
 
The Professional Parenting Program is a highly specialized professional level foster care program operated by The Institute of Professional Practice, Inc. (IPP).  For over twenty years, IPP has supported children with special needs by coordinating and providing wrap-around services to the foster families and children in their care.  IPP has 106 licensed families and 105 children in placement through The Professional Parenting Program.  We would like to extend our appreciation to all of our foster families and those across Connecticut who have opened up their hearts and homes to children in need.  We would especially like to recognize one of our Professional Parents who has been an outstanding resource to our program.  
 
Lisa has been a foster and adoptive parent for the past 17 years.  She was affiliated with DCF before transferring to IPP in 1997.  Over the years, she has adopted four children and fostered more than a dozen others.  Lisa has successfully launched three of her sons thus far.  After graduating from high school, they all moved into independent living programs and she remains closely connected to them.  She currently cares for four individuals with special needs.  Lisa's unyielding commitment to her children is deserving of this special recognition.          
 
Angela Ferrucci, Professional Parenting Coordinator, describes Lisa as very loving and nurturing.  She says, "Lisa is a strong advocate in terms of having all of the boy's needs met across settings.  She is very much a team player and always open & accepting of feedback.  She is pleasure to work with and one of the most committed foster and adoptive parents I have ever known."    
 
Dave Freeman, Program Director, considers Lisa to be an exceptional parent.  He states, "Lisa has a calming presence, never pushes the panic button, and utilizes the support services that are available to her.  She has a high tolerance level, especially for the challenges that typically arise on a child's journey toward adulthood."
 
Lisa says that the most rewarding aspect of parenting children with special needs is watching them develop relationships with her family.  She believes it is imperative for children to have a strong sense of belonging and know that there are people who truly care about them.  Lisa will continue to be a foster and adoptive parent in the years to come because she knows there are so many more children out there in need of a family. 
For more information about IPP's Professional Parenting Program, please contact Christy George-Tottenham at (888) 968-4489 x148 or click on the link below.
IPPI

Cake with Oreo Icing The Day That Changed My Life Forever

A person has many memories in there life, just like I do. Some of my memories, I only remember vaguely, and some I only remember the feelings. Like the day I was adopted. I remember the feeling of the judges dry skin when I shook his hand for the first time. My adoption day was the day that I will never forget. This day came by so quickly to me. It was like I was never even adopted in the first place, but I was. The thing that helps me remember that I was adopted, was the party that had followed after it . I remember it was a beautiful, warm, sunny day, and how I got to miss school! All the people there were supporting me. This sunny day turned cloudy, and dreary. I remember all of the commotion of the people who were trying to get inside. My new dad and his friend took the grill and put it inside the garage. The rain soon turned into sleet, and I just sat out in my garage while my new adoptive dad and his friend made hot-dogs and hamburgers. I remember the feeling of shucking the corn so that we could eat it; the feeling of the bright corn I was readying; the delicious smell of food that I was soon going to eat, along with the wonderful chocolate cake with Oreo icing, for a treat after dinner. The thing that I remember the most was when we all prayed to God and thanked him for bringing me and my sister, Amanda into this world, and thanked everyone who had come to Amanda and my adoption party. I most definitely remember the tears of the crying family members and friends while the priest had said the words for us with love. I remember crying, but not the reason why. It didn't matter. The day that I was adopted, was the day that I will never forget. Its like history- the day is written, almost in stone, as a day I will always remember.
-by Amber, age 13
Barb's girl  The Woman Next Door
by Alan Murphy
 
You may have seen her on her way to work or in a grocery store and noticed her friendly and welcoming smile. She may look a lot like one of your friends or neighbors. She might even look a bit like you. What sets her apart is that this woman, Barbara, has been a foster parent since 2002.
 
"I always knew I wanted to work with children," Barbara explains. "And the 30 years I spent teaching special education were tremendously gratifying. Yet I always wanted to do more. Being a foster parent has allowed me to make more of an impact. Together with my family, I have been able to change the lives of children from all different backgrounds and a variety of circumstances. There are
challenges, to be sure-as every foster parent will tell you-but the rewards have been beyond what I would ever have expected."
 
There are currently 513,000 children in the foster care system in the United States, and there is a dire need for committed, caring adults willing to take these children into their homes over the short or longer term. In her seven years as a foster parent, Barbara and her husband have taken in 25 children for stays ranging from a few days to nine months. They have adopted two of these children (one a toddler and the other a teenager), who are now a permanent part of a family that also includes Barbara's two college-age biological sons and, at present, one additional foster child.
 
After having done this for seven years, Barbara tells us: "Now, I wish we had made the decision to start even earlier. Each one of these children has contributed to our home and family life in a special way."
 
Barbara is especially grateful for the FAST program, which sends professionals into foster homes to help address the children's unique needs. She tells us that the first few days of a placement can be especially trying, as children act out in different ways and can be particularly needy when first separated from a parent. FAST provides the information and support Barbara and her family need to make
the transition as smooth as possible. "The reward is when the child begins to trust you," Barbara says. "The first time he comes to you for comfort or she places her head on you. Those are the moments that make everything worthwhile-just knowing that you have created a safe and loving place for this youngster. For some of these children, the time they spend in our home is their first experience of a healthy, nurturing environment. We show them the sort of home life they deserve.  And I don't mean with regard to home size or material possessions; I mean having a place to live where everyone has your best interests at heart. A place where you know from one moment to the next what to expect and don't have to live with fear
or hunger or neglect."
 
Barbara's eyes light up as she speaks of a three-year-old currently in her care: "She is so bright and says the funniest things. She has been identified as gifted by the teachers at the nursery school she attends, which doesn't surprise me at all. I've met with this little girl's mother, and she has so much potential. We are all hoping she will be able to turn things around and be reunited with her child. Until then,
 she knows her child is in a loving home."
 
The most difficult part of being a foster parent, according to Barbara, is seeing the children leave, especially when there is no contact afterwards. "It's not possible to adopt every child," Barbara says, "and of course we worry about the children after they've left our home. We just have to take comfort in the fact that, for as long as we had them, we loved them and gave them a stable, structured family life. Sometimes, we are able to keep track of a child when he or she leaves. One of the children was adopted by her grandparent, and we get together and talk on the phone often. It is such a joy to know this child is in a caring home and is being given a good chance for a healthy and happy life.
 
"What makes an ideal foster parent? According to Barbara, there is no one formula other than enjoying children, being able to provide a loving home, and being willing to fight for what they need. Barbara considers foster parenting her calling and encourages others to join her in providing a temporary home for one or more of the thousands of local children in need.  
 

JFS logo Two Moms for Max and Jenny

by Margaliet Ligtenstein
 
Rita and Jill were in their mid forties and had been together for seven years. They were both teachers. They owned a three bedroom home in central CT.   They had a very stable loving relationship.  The couple had discussed adoption for a while but they had never taken the actual steps to initiate the process. They finally decided to go ahead when they each had reached their educational and career goals and they had been able to purchase their own home. As educators they had each been familiar with children who were adopted through the DCF system, and they were well aware of how challenging it can be to raise a child who is traumatized by abuse and neglect. They had decided that they wanted to adopt a baby so that that they could raise a child from infancy and avoid some of the issues that they would be confronted with if they were to adopt an older child. Rita and Jill were concerned that as a same sex couple they would be at a disadvantage and not get the opportunity to adopt a young child.  They contacted Jewish Family Service of New Haven and discussed their concerns. They were encouraged by their first meeting.  The social worker was very welcoming and reassured them that the agency often approved same sex couples for adoption.
 
Rita  and Jill  took a series of nine classes at Jewish Family Service and the social worker met with them three times to do their home study. During the last session they looked at pictures of children who were available for adoption and they saw the picture of eight year old Jenny. Jenny was in foster care because her mother was mentally ill and could not take care of her. She and her two older sisters witnessed a lot of violence between her mother and the mother's boyfriend. No one knew where Jenny's father was. Jenny also had a baby brother Max, who had some medical issues and developmental delays. Max was in a foster home where he did not get the attention that he needed and he was described as cranky. DCF decided that they wanted to place Jenny and Max together and they chose Jill and Rita as the best home for them. They visited with Jenny for a month to get to know her before she was placed in their home. A week later, Jenny's baby brother Max was placed there also. It was a 'legal risk' placement, Jenny's mother still had parental rights and Jenny and her brother visited their mother under DCF supervision every week.  Rita and Jill were a little nervous about this.  Jenny would often cry after coming home from a visit and the baby would be cranky. Rita and Jill were anxious that the judge might not grant a termination of parental rights and that Jenny and Max would have to leave and go back to their birth mother.  It took Jenny a while to adjust in her new home. She missed her old foster parents and had to get used to having two mothers. Rita and Jill were patient, nurturing and consistent with Jenny. They played board games together, Rita and Jill read to Jenny and they watched movies together. Jenny started to feel at home. She made some friendships in the neighborhood and began to do better in school.  Rita did not have family who lived close by but Jill did and her family embraced Jenny and made her feel welcome. Jenny became friends with Jill's niece who was the same age.  
Rita and Jill worked with Birth to Three to help Max with his developmental delays. They were able to give him a lot of attention and he soon began to thrive in their home. He continued to be delayed in some area, yet he became a healthy and happy baby.  
 
The termination of parental rights was granted a year after the children were placed with Rita and Jill. The adoption was finalized six months after that.  Jill's whole family came to the adoption ceremony as did some friends of the family. Rita and Jill both spoke about how much the children meant to them and how happy they were that they could now call the children theirs. Jenny was busy playing with Jill's niece who was now her cousin and Max was proud of the suit that they had bought for him for the occasion.  Rita dropped by the agency a few weeks ago. She proudly brought Max who had really grown and she told the social worker that she had decided to be a stay at home mother for a while. She said Jenny is doing well at home and in school.  Rita and Jill make sure that Jenny gets to see her older sisters every month. One of her sisters often spends the weekend at Rita and Jill 's home. It took a while to build this family but now two children have a safe and loving home and two mothers have two wonderful children.

** Please note fictitious names were used in this
article to protect the privacy of the family.

Charneil The Amazing Young Man with the Charming Smile by Deb Kelleher

A tall, handsome and well-dressed Charneil walks into the restaurant for his interview and smiles broadly as he sits down across from me.  Even before we ordered our lunch Charneil eagerly begins to tell me his story - a story with a beginning all too familiar for children in foster care. 
 
Charneil first remembers social workers visiting his family when he was 6 or 7 years old.  Although he did not understand at the time, his mom was "on drugs".  Charneil thinks his older brother and sister tried to protect him so they kept that information from him, encouraging him to believe that their mom was okay.  Charneil says, "She used to lock herself in the bathroom for long periods of time. I thought it was like that in everyone's home.  I mean I used to get mad at her because I could not get into the bathroom but I had no idea that she was shooting up!" Sometimes he and his siblings would live with their grandmother in those early years.  Eventually, though,  her struggle  with diabetes and related health issues would eventually require her admission into a nursing home preventing her from caring for the siblings later in their lives.  Life continued along these lines for 3 or 4 years until Thursday, August 3, 2000, a day Charneil, then age 10, says he will never forget.
 
"That day," Charneil says, "My mom left at 10 in the morning.  She said she was going to the store."  Charneil's eyes look off into the distance as he says this and his smile is sad.  He confesses that he now realizes that his mom was probably out looking for a fix.  She left him that morning with her friend - someone he knew well and trusted.  Soon his mom's friend "fell asleep" on the sofa but Charneil, too young and innocent to be afraid, was used to adults who "fell asleep." A little later the DCF worker, Shelly, showed up unexpectedly for an unannounced visit.  Charneil let her in.  She asked him about the woman "asleep" on the sofa - and she tried to awaken her.  At the time Charneil did not comprehend all that was happening but as he tells it now the worker realized that the woman had OD'ed so she summoned help and removed Charneil from his home. The worker tried to explain what she was doing and why, but 10 year old Charneil did not believe her.  Not his mother, he thought.  She was NOT doing drugs. Charneil's brother and sister assured him that the DCF worker was telling the truth - their mom was a drug addict - and they had known all along but had protected him from the harsh, painful truth.
 
 Charneil remembers that his sister was brought to the foster home also.  At first, the two siblings lived with family members - cousins who "passed them back and forth" in Charneil's words.  One week later a confused Charneil was moved to a Safe Home where he stayed until October.  I asked him why he left his cousins' home.  Charneil responded that they did not want him because they felt he would be a more difficult child to care for.  They had asked for his removal.   It wasn't until age 15 that this brave young man before me found the courage to ask his cousins why he had to leave their home.  Up until that time this had simply been another mystery surrounding his history. His shock and feelings of betrayal are still evident all these years later.  "They took me away from my sister," he declares, his eyebrows cocked and a look of pained disbelief crowding his features.  "How could they do that?"  It would be two years before the siblings would live together again.
 
Charneil lived with his aunt after leaving the Safe Home.  She had applied to become his foster parent and had gone through the licensing process so that he could live with her. He was really glad to move to her home.  His face lights up as he speaks of her.  He says he knew he would be happy and safe with her.  Two years later his sister would join him there.  Charneil describes the time he lived apart from his sister as "forever."
 
 Shelly remained Charneil's DCF worker until his case was closed, a fact which obviously makes Charneil feel fortunate.  He speaks in glowing terms of Shelly.  Shelly was there for him.  She stuck with the family for many years and Charneil appreciates her constancy. He knows her presence made a difference for him.  Shelly was, and remains, another consistent adult in his life - someone he feels he can always count on.   To this day he maintains a relationship with her.
 
Shelly also helped Charneil to keep in contact with his mom.  "Once," he says, "Shelly took me to see my mom.  I ran out of the car and into the house before she could stop me.  It was still my house so I felt I didn't have to knock - I could just walk in.  The house was horrible.  My cat was dead and I found my mom locked in the bathroom - again - and it was then I figured that she must not love me as much as she loved the drugs."  Soon after, Charneil's mom was sent to prison for 18 months and family visits entailed trips on the "Buddy Bus" twice a month.  This was hard on Charneil who loved his mom very much but did not feel he could trust her.  He was often confused about how she felt about him.  It was hard to feel loved when her words and actions did not match.  Eventually her parental rights were terminated and his aunt assumed guardianship.  He would still see his mom from time to time under the watchful eye of family members and she continued to call sporadically until her death in 2007.
 
Two years ago Charneil graduated from high school and was accepted into a local college.  He was the very first winner of FAM's Kay Wyrick Scholarship for African American students.   This past week he just finished his sophomore year at CCSU, majoring in Criminal Justice.  He aspires to be a defense attorney.  I would not be surprised if he became the next Thurgood Marshall!
 
What makes this young man special?  He possesses a strong moral compass and a maturity rarely seen in young people his age.  He has genuine warmth that makes you feel immediately at home with him.  He is truly appreciative of the good in his life and he knows how to love.  He speaks about his family with obvious affection, especially his little cousins for whom he babysits often. Obvious is his love and respect for his aunt who continues to be a foster parent today.  When Charneil's mother died, he did not hesitate.  Knowing that she was penniless he immediately removed the necessary funds from his college savings account to pay for her funeral.  He speaks with great affection and respect for his social worker, Shelly.  Many times during our interview he stated that she was a source of comfort and constancy for him through the years.  He is grateful for the mentor he has had since 1999, a CEO and founder of a company who took the time to befriend him.  The Pathways Program provided this mentor who has been a role model and an inspiration to him.  Charneil states, "Once I had a therapist who quoted all of these awful statistics to me.  I remember thinking you don't even know me.  Why are you quoting me all of these horrible statistics - like how many foster kids try to kill themselves. It upset me so I told my mentor.  He said that for every negative statistic there is a positive one too.  He said he believed in me and knew I would be a part of the good statistics.  This motivated me.  I didn't want to be one of those statistics the therapist talked about."  Knowing his interest in criminal justice, Charneil's mentor arranged for visits to the courts where Charneil got to spend time watching proceedings.  Charneil says this made the difference - the experience fired a passion in him leading him to work hard to achieve his dream of working in the criminal justice system.
 
Recently Charneil's grandmother passed away.  Her passing has been really hard for him.  He said that they placed his mom's ashes in the coffin with his grandmother so they could be buried together.  He felt that now his mom would finally be at peace. 
 
When I left Charneil I told him it had been a pleasure to interview him.  And it truly had.  What a bright, charming and handsome young man!  Charneil appears to have beaten the odds.  He had family to help him and a sense of purpose that pushed him to succeed. And he had caring adults who consistently and over many years believed in him.  Youth in foster care are far less likely to graduate from high school than their peers.  They are at higher risk of homelessness, joblessness, drug addiction and incarceration over their lifetimes.  Consistent caring adults can make all the difference for these kids.  Just ask Charneil.
 

In This Issue
A Dream Come True
Making A Difference
The Day That Changed My Life Forever
The Woman Next Door
Two Moms
Children Awaiting Adoption
I Love You Mommy
Foster Care
A Special Young Man
Wednesday's Child
Waiting Children

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May 31 
 
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June 6
 
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June 7

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June 25
 
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July 26
 
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August 7
 
 
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I Love You Mommy

mom and daughter

 
I love my Mommy and I miss her so
Where she went I do not know
I just want a cuddle and a kiss
I have a little brother but have no sis'
A new home, a new Dad and a new Mommy
Butterflies are flying around in my tummy
I love my Mommy and miss her so
Where did she go.......anyone know?
I go to sleep in a different room
Sure hope I see my Mommy soon!
Time to start at a big new school
All so different, changing rules.
I laugh and cry and stamp my feet
I just need my Mommy, I want a treat!
I miss her hugs and pretty smile
Call me Mommy, it is too long a while.
I came from you and look just the same
A mini you, just a smaller frame.
Why did you leave me all on my lone?
What did I do to make you moan?
I want to make you laugh and be so happy
Don't be mad, don't cry, don't be crabby.
I love my Mommy and I miss her so
Come back, I need you to help me grow!
I am so sad without you beside me
You are my Mommy, my very own family
I just don't understand why you went away
Please I love you Mommy, please come home to stay!
 

~written by Kara, a foster mom, on behalf of the children~
Foster Care
 
Foster care is a hard thing when kids are growing up.  Kids are usually sad, depressed, or feeling useless kids.  They also don't have any or they just miss there old friends.
When kids leave there family they feel like it was there fault but it was not.  It's actually there parents fault they left, because there parents were not ready to be parent, or they had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, etc.
Did you know that most of the kids who grow up don't make it they will be homeless poor or even dead?  Although some will make a successful life, have nice job, and a great family. When kids see there family's they do actually have a better life than kids who don't see there family.
And finally when kids are in foster care they also might get abused.  So when kids like that will need a lot of attention.
 
by Deke, age 13
courtesy of Youth United for Survival
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A Special Young Man
Sam 
Pictured above is a 13 year old young man - one any of us would be proud to call son. His name is Sam and Sam is a very special young man.  Sam is a 7th grader at Newtown Middle School in PA, achieving honor roll status recently in AP courses.  In the recent past, he has been a peer leader to other students, nominated as a student leader by People to People Worldwide, selected as a speaker for the DARE program in elementary school, and involved in volunteer projects such as Martin Luther King weekend projects. He is well regarded by both his teachers and fellow students, and has many friends. Sam is also an athlete.  His favorite sport is lacrosse. Sam lives in Pennsylvania but has cousins here in northwestern CT.  One of his cousins was adopted through the CT foster care system and Sam just loves him.  Sam decided he had to do something special to honor his love for his little cousin so he directed all of the guests at his Bar Mitzvah party to send a donation to FAM in honor of his cousin and to help other children in foster care. 
FAM received over $2000 because of Sam's generosity - the largest donation we have ever received! 
 
Everyone here at FAM is just awed by this young man and wish to thank him for his wonderful gift.
 
Our hats off to Sam and his family
for raising such a terrific young man!
Mazel Tov!
Open House events schedule available on our website
Prospective foster and adoptive parents are welcome at any Open House listed on our website.  Please call or email for information or to schedule an individual appointment.  203-706-0101
Wednesday's Child
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WTNH Channel 8 airs a weekly segment featuring CT children available for adoption and families formed through adoption.  Click on the logo  above to see recent video segments hosted by Ted Koppy. 

In the Meantime...
Diverse Group
 
The next meeting of the support group for waiting families will be held on Monday, June 8 at 6:30 at the Bunker Hill Congregational Church in Waterbury.  For more
information and to find out if you qualify please email or call Deb Kelleher at 203-706-0101 or visit our news and events section on the
website for more details.
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