I teach women To Thine Own Self Be True and To Thine Own Self Be Kind. Even when we are pretty good about being kind to others, we are not always so gracious with ourselves.

The saying goes that we teach what we need to learn; I am no exception. One thing I am good at is being hard on myself. I preach that we must stop caring what others think of us, yet I have not quite mastered that one. I also hate disappointing people. When I mess up, I beat myself up, and dwell on it and wallow in it. That kind of energy serves no one. Saying "I'm sorry" and learning the lesson and letting go of the guilt are the steps to peace. 

Sometimes we mess up and need to own up to it, and sometimes it is simply a choice or decision we make that others react to negatively. We cannot control others' reactions. We don't have to apologize but we do have to let go of the guilt. 

As a "joy fairy," I take other's happiness seriously. A mentor told me point blank: "You are not in charge of anyone's happiness." She is right. I am in charge of MY happiness. You are in charge of yours.

I  teach science of happiness and law of attraction; I can lead you to the joy, but I  can't make you drink. Or something like that. ;)

Simply put, we all make mistakes. Own up and then shut up. Get over yourself. We all make decisions that others don't agree with. Honoring yourself is more important. The more you make decisions that align with who you are, it does get easier. 

Certainly be kind in your interactions but don't let guilt or expectations dictate your choices. Trust your gut/heart. Act on those inner voices. It's okay to be you. In fact, that is what you are here to do.