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March-April, 2012

 

In This Issue
An Upcoming Program
Welcome!
The Fire Alarm and the Rule
A Benedictine Tool Appreciating Others
The Rule According to Randy
The Book Corner
Upcoming Events Open to All
Bring Jane to your Church

 

An Upcoming  Program

 

 

2012 Mar-Apr

 

Ordinary and Blessed: 

Experiencing God's Presence in Everyday Life

 

A Retreat in West Virginia

offered by

the Women's Ministries of the Diocese

 

If you are looking for ways to center and ground your life in the holy, join this retreat for seekers of God.

 

 

 

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             The Fire Alarm and The Rule

I was exalted, then I was humbled

and overwhelmed with confusion.

                                                                      Psalm 88:16 and RB 7.53

 

 

Ever have one of those moments when you felt totally helpless? I did at a particular Easter Sunday service at St. Peter's in Livingston, NJ where I was the rector.

 

As usual on a Holy Day such as Easter Sunday we had used incense. Everything was proceeding as normal-procession completed, altar censed, our opening acclamation "Christ is risen, the Lord is risen indeed, alleluia," said with gusto and the Collect for Purity begun when suddenly, "BLAT....BLAT...BLAT." The fire alarm in the church had been set off! After recovering from stunned shock, with another stunned shock, I realized that I hadn't a clue as to what to do next! "Does anyone [BLAT] know what [BLAT] to do? [BLAT!!]" I pleaded through my microphone in competition with the alarm. I ran to the side doors near me, threw one open and discovered it didn't have a hook or a latch to keep it from closing. Now what??! My chair from the Chancel became a temporary door stop. Someone else turned on the overhead fans and the windows were opened. Our thurifer had the presence of mind to speed into the sacristy and remove the smoking thurible, the cause of the excitement. I realized then that I had forgotten to tell him to place the thurible outside. Ooops! The alarm had been tripped by a hefty mass of incense as the doors and windows in the sacristy were closed.

 

The alarm continued its relentless and demanding "BLAT...BLAT...BLAT." I felt helpless and overwhelmed with confusion! 

 

Click here to continue reading about what happened...

 

A Tool for Appreciating Others

 

Purpose of the Tool: To develop an increased appreciation of the gifts of other people and how we can learn from them.

 

Background on the Tool: We may not be able to "to truly believe that we are inferior to others," nor should we unless we have also developed a strong sense of our self-worth. But we can grow in our ability to appreciate others and their gifts and to also loosen the grip we hold in situations, on others and to our own points of view. 

 

 

The Tool: The early monastics such as John Cassian (360-435) encouraged the practice of noticing the head of the thoughts, the very beginning of them, and so be able to choose to approve and adopt them or, as Benedict says, to "dash them against Christ" (Prologue 28). As a thought emerges, we catch it before it catches us and sends us down a path contrary to one that Jesus would walk. For example, we are in a situation where someone is doing or saying something that we disagree with. Judgment springs into action and we think, "What a stupid idea! Is she nuts?"  We would catch this thought right then before it goes even further to spin a story of derision against the idea or the person. We then have the freedom to explore what we might learn from this person or appreciate their point of view.

 

So, to use this tool, be on the lookout for the very beginning of your thoughts, especially in situations where you feel that you have the "right" approach or idea. Notice the thought, pause, take a breath and try your best to be open to the person or situation. When we can do this, I trust that a thing of beauty and meaning can be created...together.

 

 © April 2012 The Rev. Dr. Jane A. Tomaine

 

Randy
 
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The Rule According to Randy
 
  
   
Hi! I'm Jane's cat Randy. 
  
I like companionship, don't you? When my friend Charlotte goes on one of the cat tower platforms, I like to get up there with her. When Mickey's on the favorite chair, I jump up and rearrange him so that there's enough room for me. If Target lies down on the chest, I go up there, too.
 
 
Last week Abbess Jane spoke stern words to me about my companionship urges and claimed that I just wanted what everyone else had. In self-defense I mewed that Benedict encourages us to show "the pure love of brothers" (RB 72.8) and that this was what I was doing. With a skeptical look Jane continued her lecture by reciting RB 72.7 where Benedict tells us that we are not to pursue what's best for ourselves, but what we judge to be better for others. "Rand," she sighed. "The other cats may not want to cozy up with you. Maybe you should ask first."
 
This got me to thinking. Maybe I do envy Charlotte, Mickey and Target when they're resting on one of those nice places. I want that, too. But Benedict says that we're to do nothing out of envy (RB 4.67). In Chapter 34 - Distribution of Goods According to Need, he makes it clear that we're not to be distressed or, heaven forbid, grumble if someone gets something that we don't get, for we all have different needs. I don't grumble. I want to make that clear. I just, well, rearrange things a bit so that we all can be happy. Don't we all do that from time to time, rearrange things to our liking, I mean? But Jane may have been on to something when she stated that the three friends of mine may not want my companionship right then. Maybe I just don't consider that Charlotte, Mickey and Target might want to be alone. Charlotte and I are both well-endowed and the platform does get a bit cramped. Mickey doesn't seem happy when I push him around on the chair and Target sometimes gives me intimidating glances when I sidle up to him on the chest. In discussing this with my friend Ricky, he cited our favorite commentary, Why the Rule of St. Benedict is Not Only for People by Scholastica Muffin, O.S.B.F. (Order of St. Benedict Feline). Sr. Scholastica says that Benedict is asking us to "respect and revere the other, asnd have a sense of restraint, holding ourselves back from intruding on them."[i]
 
I'm sharing all this with you to help you think about a situation or two in your own life where you, figuratively, "jump on the chair" and make room for yourself. Is it from envy? Do we want things always to our liking? Do we want to be with our friends because we care about them or because we want something from them? Do you and I ever consider what might bring them joy? Give it some thought.
 
Next time I see Charlotte, Mickey or Target in a nice place where I'd like to be, I'm going to first ask them if I can share the spot. Or maybe I'll just stay where I am and look on with delight that they're happy in their cozy resting places.
 
 
 
2012 Mar-Apr
Cat Tower.  From Top - Target, Randy, Ricky.
 
 
                                                 Your feline friend,
 
 
 
 
 
                                                                            Randy's Signature 
 
 
                                                                              
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
[i] Sr. Scholastica's drew from Esther de Waal's book A Life-Giving Way: A Commentary on the Rule of St. Benedict, page 43.

Book for Mar-Apr 2012

 

The Book Corner 
A Recommended Read

 

At Home With Saint Benedict 

By Mark A. Scott, OCSO

 

 

This book is a selection of the author's conferences on the Rule delivered to the monks of Assumption Abbey in Ava, Missouri, during the time he was abbot there. He explains that "these conferences are in the first place the Rule's commentary on me, on my life as a Christian and as a monk," and hopes that they have something to say to you and to me. To this hope I respond with a hearty, "They do!" I am thoroughly delighting in using this book as a reference in my own reflecting on the Rule.

 

The conferences are organized by broad topic area such as "The Monastic Community," "Relationships," and "Practicing." They are easy to read, conversational and full of insight and wisdom for our journey as Christians whether we are in a monastic community or outside the enclosure. As each conference stands on its own, Scott recommends that we dip into the book at random or use one of the two indexes to structure the reading. These indexes are so helpful. One follows the thread of a theme and another lists where Scott have cited different references in the Rule.

 

I used his book in preparing for a recent program that I gave about Benedictine work and service and discovered new insights. One of these was that service "keeps the rhythm going" in the monastery, that rhythm of peace and orderliness. And I loved this: "Serving beans and draining sinks is as much of the Work of God as chanting the ancient psalms together." Not a new idea but so wonderfully expressed. And the final reminder that, in our work, people come first!

 

I encourage you to read this book and accept his invitation to "open the door [to the chapter room where the conferences were given], sit down with the monks and me, and feel at home with Saint Benedict."

 

Scott is now at the Trappist-Cistercian Abbey of New Clairvaux in Vina, California. 

 

Details on the Book:

At Home With Saint Benedict by Michael A. Scott, OCSO. Collegeville, MN: The Liturgical Press, 2010. ISBN: 978-0-87907-027-4

 

To order this book from Amazon.com, click here. 

 

Assumption Abbey makes delicious fruitcakes. Yum!! 

 

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Some Upcoming Events - Open to All

 

2012 Mar-Apr 

Ordinary and Blessed -

Experiencing God's Presence

in Everyday Life -

A Benedictine Perspective

  

 Sponsored by the Women's Ministries of the Epsicoapl Diocese of West Virginia

 

Dates:  Friday May 18 - Sunday brunch May 20

 

 

Place:  Peterkin Camp and Conference Center in Romney, West Virginia

 

 

 At this weekend retreat you will explore ways to reconnect in the present with the Presence.  The Rule of St. Benedict is both guide a to finding the sacred in the ordinary and a trllis to support our journey with God.  Join Jane and the women of the Diocese of West Virginia.

 

To register now, contact Mollie Bailey by phone (866-549-8346) or email mbailey@wvdiocese.org. Lodging and meals are $140 after 5/1/12.

 

For additional information a registration brochure (8.5 x 14) click here. is available at

http://www.wvdiocese.org/pages/pdfs/WomensConf2012.pdf

  

Please contact Marie Hunsaker, Conference Chair, with any questions @ 740-516-1711

 

 

In your presence there is fullness of joy.

                                                                                                                                     Psalm 16:11

   

 

An Upcoming Event in August, 2012

 

2012 mar-apr
"In the House of Martha and Mary" by Eileen Kennedy

 

Honoring Martha and Mary:

Everyday Spirituality for Prayer and Action 

 

 

Dates:  Friday August 17 - Sunday August 19, 2012

 

Place:  Adelynrood Retreat and Conference Center in Byfield, Massachusetts

 

Cost:   Program Fee is $120.  Room and Board is $200.

 

 

At this weekend retreat we'll explore the profound wisdom and direction for prayer and action through Scripture, spiritual teachers such as St. Benedict and our shared experience.  

 

For more information and to register, click here.

 

If you would like to see more paintings by Eileen Kennedy, go to her website by clicking on this link.

 

 

 

 

  

 

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