Many of you have probably heard the phrase "there is no I in we."  It is meant to inspire people to think of more than their own interests, to be willing to listen and work together to form a "we" mentality that helps a group work towards a common goal.  This concept seems to have caught on, because many of the groups I have worked with are indeed powerhouses of productivity. Speak to any one member and you quickly realize they are sharing a group opinion.
 
However, there is a danger in always using the word "we" when speaking in a group.  I recently was in a meeting with a group that was being asked to do some tough work in thinking outside the box to come up with some new ideas for a project.  As is usual in this situation, there was some resistance to get started on such a daunting task.  Several individuals expressed frustration with not having as much information as they wanted, and in each instance, they used the word "we".  For example "we need to see more maps before we can possibly get anywhere."  The group quickly came to a standstill.  Finally one wise member commented that when people expressed their opinions, they should use the word "I" instead of "we". 
 
He was right.  Yes, there were several individuals feeling frustrated, but by constantly using the word "we" there was an impression that the whole group was equally frustrated.  In fact, most members of the group were feeling ready to dive in and give it a try, but people with no complaints tend to remain quiet.  When you are working in a group where frustrations are running high, a simple reminder to use "I" instead of "we" can quickly distinguish between what is truly a group issue, and what is just individuals within the group needing to express their opinions.