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Hello!
Imagine waking up each day and living your life where you did not worry about pleasing anyone but yourself. Your day was all about you, baby! You no longer had the disease-to-please; instead, you had me-time. Feeling good right now? Super! Good news - you do not have to be sick to enjoy the comfort of chicken noodle soup and a little me-time. Making the time to nurture yourself and enjoy the things YOU like is considered healthy selfishness. Me-time is necessary and the best cure for a healthy, happy you.
By learning how to occasionally say "no" and treating each other with respect, you can take control of the demands at work and home you are facing. You must learn how to not fret over your own feelings of guilt, fears of rejection or possible repercussions. You can still be helpful and considerate of others, but you must take care of yourself first. Before you respond to someone, ask yourself, "What would make me most happy and fulfilled?" Once you develop assertive communication skills, you will be able to effectively handle difficult people and awkward situations.
If you do not address your own unique needs, your frustrations will build, you will feel taken for granted and your performances and relationships will suffer. As Dr. Phil says, "We teach people how to treat us." It is up to you to face the fears and guilt you carry from your disease to please. Find your courage to change and grow. When you stop feeling guilty and seeking approval of others, your days will be fueled by positive energy, confidence and self-respect. You will feel empowered and in control of your life because you utilized your power of choice. You hold the power. Assert yourself today!
7 Tips to Say "No" and Assert Yourself Today
- Become self-aware of your communication and behavior patterns. What is consistently happening in your life? How do these patterns affect you?
- Evaluate the reasons you feel the need to please or control everyone.
- Realize the goal of assertive communication is to express your thoughts and boundaries while being direct, honest and respectful of others.
- Realize it is necessary and okay to say "no" sometimes and to ask questions.
- Example for Anyone: "I see why this is important to you. I am unable to help this time. Let's try to figure out some other possible solutions that could work."
- Example for Boss: "This is what is on my plate right now. Which one of these priorities would you prefer I remove to accommodate your request?"
- Example for Anyone: "I'd love to join you but my schedule is already full that week. Please keep me in mind the next time. Have fun."
Nancy's Homemade Chicken Noodle Soup Recipe
Steps and Ingredients:
1. Cut skinless chicken and place in a pot of boiling water.
2. Add a little bit of coconut oil to bring some sweetness into your life.
3. Boil chicken and skim white gook out of liquid.
4. Remove from pot, rinse white gook off chicken, shred and place back in pot.
5. Add either chicken stock, broth or bouillon.
6. In a separate pot, cook your favorite kind of noodle for just half the time instructed, drain.
7. Chop fresh parsley, scallions and carrots.
8. Place all ingredients in the chicken pot, add a little pepper, stir, bring to boil and simmer til you fill your house with the smell of goodness.
Take a little me-time and enjoy Nancy's homemade chicken noodle soup. It will feed your soul, fill your belly and satisfy your life!
To your getting your me-time,
Nancy
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