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Monthly Newsletter                              Volume 5, Issue 8August 2011

 

Greetings! 

 

     Happy Fiesta! I celebrated at my house with a BBQ, (less people and easier to park). Girl opening arms

     

     We now have 94 babies that have been placed and I suspect we will have 100 little ones rescued and safe by the end of this year. What a tremendous effort by our hardworking Staff and Angels Families. 

     There is a change coming on September 1 that I would like to share with all of you. Jennifer Mills has accepted a promotion to Director of Operations. Congratulations to Jennifer. Those of you who have worked with Jennifer will be thrilled to hear this news. She is a licensed clinical social worker who has acted as our Program Director for several years. She has excellent administrative skills and will continue to be a huge asset to our program in an expanded administrative role. Although I will be stepping out of a daily operations role, I will continue to serve Angels in a development capacity as CEO and serve on the Board of Directors.


     I look forward to continuing in this great effort to make sure that every baby in our community has a safe, loving, stable home.

- Meichelle  

 

Angels Announcements 

 

New placements: Congratulations to Netie & Charu and Amy & Dave on their new placements.

 

Adoptions: Congratulations to Shelley & Geoff on the completion of their adoption of Emma, and to Melanie & Ken on their adoption of Nadia in the past few weeks!

    

Volunteers needed

Angels is seeking volunteers to help at community events occurring throughout Santa Barbara County. If you would like to join our volunteer corps and be notified about upcoming opportunities, please contact Margot Clarke.  

 

Angels in the Community

We're looking for opportunities throughout Santa Barbara County to speak about Angels Foster Care and the urgent need for foster families. If you know of a local club, group, church or synagogue that would be interested in a presentation about Angels, please contact Ellen.

 

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Angels Calendar
 

 Mid-Morning Parenting Circle

We hope to see you and your Angels baby at a gathering soon!

 

South County Circle

Tuesday, August 23, 10-11am, Tucker's Grove Park

 

North County Circle 

Wednesday, August 24, 10-11am, Orcutt office

210 E. Clark Ave, Suite D

 

 

Angels Foster Parent Training - next session

Sept 16, 5:30-9pm; Sept 17, 9-5pm, Sept 21, 5:30-9pm*  

If you know of anyone who may be interested in joining the class, please have them call the Angels' office or give us their name and number and we would be happy to call them.

 

* last session of the year

 

 

August 2011 Family of Month

Angels Contacts
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Executive Director
Meichelle Arntz
meichelle@angelssb.com
(805) 884-0012

Program Director
North County
Social Worker
Jennifer Mills, LCSW
jennifer@angelssb.com
(805) 264-4470

South County
Social Worker
Stacy Peterson, MSW
stacy@angelssb.com
(805) 884-0012

Recruiter
Outreach Coordinator
Newsletter Editor
Ellen Dameron
ellendameron@cox.net
(805) 886-0390

Angels Office
Phone:
(805) 884-0012
Fax: (805) 884-0177
3905 State St., #7-115
Santa Barbara, CA 93105
info@angelssb.com
www.angelssb.com

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 From the Desk of Your Social Worker

 

 

It is truly an unfortunate fact that most of the young children who come to an Angels' home are under stress and frequently in distress. They have removed from the only family they have known and oftentimes have been the victims of abuse and neglect.The following is an article excerpted from the University of Georgia's Better Brains for Babies, examining the impact of stress on young children. It also makes suggestions quite applicable for Angels parents as they nurture and care for their Angels child. And it reminds us again of how critical the first years are in the life of a child. 

  

Stress and Young Children

 

     Stressful conditions in the environment can have significant negative effects on the developing brain. Stress is a series of physical, mental, and emotional reactions to the environment. People are most likely to feel stress when they do not have the emotional capacity to deal with a situation.

     Stress is a normal part of life that can help us learn and grow. When we experience stressors, the body responds by releasing hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol. Cortisol activates the body's survival instincts, and helps us survive immediate threats. The heart beats faster, the attention span shortens, and judgment may be impaired. More primitive parts of the brain take over as the brain focuses on how to remove the threat. This set of physiological responses is known as the stress response.

     For young children, small amounts of stress can be healthy and adaptive. But prolonged stress can have lasting negative effects on brain development. Some conditions that cause prolonged or excessive stress in young children include:  

- extreme neglect

- witnessing or experiencing verbal or physical abuse

- the death of a parent

- experiencing a significant trauma

 

Effects of Stress on Brain Development

     Prolonged stress in young children can slow - or even stop - both brain development and physical growth. Prolonged exposure to cortisol released during the stress response can cause long-term damage to the developing brain, and can negatively affect the immune system.

     Repeated experiences in the environment create networks of connections within the brain. When children regularly experiences chaos or stress, their brains become wired to react quickly to threatening, stressful experiences. Even after the threat is removed, the brain may continue to respond as if the stress is still present. Children whose brains have been wired by prolonged stress may overreact in some situations. Prolonged stress may lead to learning difficulties, delays in brain development, and later difficulties coping with life's demands.

     The brain stem is responsible for the most basic functions necessary for survival. It is the first part of the brain to develop, and the first part to react to perceived threats. The brain stem sends signals to other parts of the brain. In a fully developed adult brain, the frontal lobe takes action and chooses a rational response to the threatening situation.

     Young children, whose frontal lobes are not fully developed, cannot respond rationally to stress. Children's responses to stress are controlled by the more primitive areas of the brain. In order to handle stress and return to calm, young children needs caregivers to comfort and reassure them that they are safe. If the environment is constantly threatening, or children do not have a reliable caregiver, they will rely on the primitive areas of the brain to handle stress. The brain stem will become over-developed, and areas responsible for emotional control and rational decision-making may not develop fully. Warning signs of an imbalance in brain development due to prolonged stress may include anxiety, impulsiveness, hyperactivity, poor impulse control, lack of empathy, and poor problem-solving skills.

 

 Dangers of Prolonged Stress

     Short-term stress does not harm brain development. Children who learn how to manage small stressors in a supportive environment develop the brain wiring they need to handle stress. Supportive, nurturing adults help children develop the wiring in their brains to cope during stressful times.

     Prolonged or chronic stress without relief can permanently alter brain development. Synapse formation, myelination and pruning may be delayed. The connections formed in the brain as a result of ongoing stressful conditions will most likely be those that ensure survival. Areas responsible for reasoning and rational decision-making are likely to be under-developed.

      Children who experience extreme neglect or deprivation tend to have less active brains, with fewer connections, than children who actively experience the richness of daily life in a supportive environment. Children who are deprived of sufficient food or regular positive interactions with adults, or who are confined to a crib and not allowed to explore, experience serious delays or impairments in brain development. The more serious and prolonged the neglect is, the more devastating the developmental problems can be.

     Repeated exposure to violence can alter brain development. The intensity and frequency of trauma determine how the brain internalizes a traumatic event. The brain stem and limbic system set up a "fight or flight' response to trauma or the memory of the trauma. The brain may attempt to protect itself through impulsiveness or withdrawal. Children who have experienced trauma or violence tend to react without thinking, to strike out, or to withdraw to protect themselves.

 

Children who experience prolonged trauma or neglect:

- may not do well in school

- may not be able to learn or process new information

- may exhibit aggressive behavior

- may not be able to develop caring relationships with others

- will reflect the environment in which she has been raised 

 

Factors that Reduce the Effects Stress

     Children who have experienced the negative effects of stress can still grow and thrive. Consistent, loving support from caring adults can counteract much of the damage caused by stress in early childhood. A strong, stable adult can make a difference to a child who has been exposed to violence, neglect, or other extreme stress.

      The brain is resilient and can bounce back even after stressful experiences. The brain's plasticity enables it to compensate for some damage caused by traumatic experiences by creating new networks of synapses. Although compensating for early trauma requires intensive, long-term intervention, children who experience trauma or chronic stress early in life can overcome the trauma and live healthy, productive lives.

      Many children who successfully overcome early trauma have an internal quality called resiliency that enables them to survive and thrive. As Dr. Bruce D. Perry of the Child Trauma Academy wrote, "When you look at children who come out of terrible environments and do well, you find that someone in their lives somehow instilled in them the attitude that they aren't helpless, that they aren't powerless, that they can do something."

   

-- Jennifer 

 

A Court Minute

 

  

Court Participants and Their Roles in Court

 

Once a family enters the court dependency system, it is no longer solely the child, mother and father.  Other parties enter the picture by nature of the seriousness of the allegations and as the court process proceeds.  Below is a listing of the different people who may be present at all or some of the hearings:

 

Juvenile Court Judge:  The Judge makes the final legal determination regarding all matters related to your foster child and their dependency status.   All parties to the case can submit evidence to the Court and make recommendations, however, it is the Judge who makes the decisions regarding what will be ordered. In the Santa Barbara Court, the current judge is Judge Adams.  In the Santa Maria court, Judge Garcia is the juvenile court judge.

 

Children's Counsel:  All children removed from their care and custody of their parents are appointed their own attorney at the Detention Hearing.  Their attorney is a full party in the proceedings, able to present evidence, cross-examine witnesses and file briefs on behalf of the child.  These attorneys are private attorneys under contract with the State of California and their sole duties and focus is dependency law.  There are four children's attorneys acting in this manner in SB County:  in southern SB County - Lisa Fritz and in northern SB County - Carol Hubner, Francene Kelly and Mark Pedego.

 

Parents' Counsel:  The biological parents are also appointed counsel at the Detention Hearing (or whenever their first appearance at court is) if they wish or they can hire their own attorney.  If they are appointed counsel, these attorneys are also contracted by the State of California to provide legal representation to parents involved in dependency court.  Each parent is appointed their own attorney, even if the parents are married and there is no discord.

 

County Counsel:  County Counsel is the attorney who represents the Department of Social Services in all dependency proceedings.  A large part of their job is to ensure that proper legal procedure is followed in all aspects of the court cases.

 

Child Welfare Services (CWS) Worker:  The CWS worker is the person assigned to your foster child's case.  The CWS worker prepares a report for the Court on the status of the reunification plan and child's well being.  The CWS makes recommendations as part of this report.

 

CWS Court Hearing Officer (CHO): The CHO is a CWS worker who is assigned to the Court Unit.  Their responsibilities include initially completing the jurisdiction and disposition reports for their assigned cases and then being the designated CWS representative in court for every hearing every week.  Most often, the CWS worker assigned to your child will not be at court.  They give the CHO a copy of their report and a summary of what the issues are.  The CHO in turn takes notes on the proceedings and sends back a synopsis to the assigned worker.

 

 

Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA):  A CASA is a trained community volunteer appointed by the court to advocate for the best interests of their assigned child.  The Court issues a court order of appointment, which allows the CASA to not only have weekly contact with the assigned child, but to also interview all people in the child's life and review all legal, medical and educational records.  The CASA compiles all this information along with their recommendations into a report, which is submitted to the Court.  A CASA can be assigned to a child anytime during the dependency proceedings.  If a child is reunified with his/her biological parents, the CASA continues to visit and advocate for the child.

 

There are other people who may be present at court proceedings including Foster Family Agency social workers (like Angels Social Workers), foster parents, and extended biological family members.  While able to be present at court and able to offer information to the court as requested by the Judge or other parties, the above individuals are not legal parties to the case.

 

In summary, not only is the legal process quite involved in dependency law, but the sheer number of the people and their roles in each case can be confusing.  Please never hesitate to contact your Angels social worker with any questions.  We can figure it out together!

 

 

- Jennifer  

 

 

 

Medical Notes

 

Advice from Dr. Charish Barry

Dr. Charish Barry

Charish Barry, MD, is a local pediatric hospitalist with Santa Barbara Cottage Hospital and a pediatrician in private practice (www.petitepediatrics.com). She is also a member of the Angels Board of Directors and the local representative for the American Academy of Pediatrics Southern California Chapter. Follow her on Twitter (@petitepeds) to receive her tweets about pediatric health. 

 

 

 

Is there such a thing as a "perfect" parent?   

 

     Many people believe in the myth of the perfect parents - the ideal mother and father who raise happy, well-adjusted problem-free children. In truth, there is no such person as a perfect parent - or a perfect child.

     Problem behavior is common among school-age children and takes up a significant portion of a parent's time. At any one time, on average, school-age children have about five or six traits or behaviors that their parents find difficult. These might include not complying with simple requests, avoiding chores, spending too much time watching TV or playing videos, engaging in sibling rivalry or having difficulty completing homework. Other common problems for parents are dealing with a temperamentally difficult child, or coping with a child who either wants too much independence or hasn't achieved enough autonomy. Parents also sometimes encounter the dilemma of a child who prefers friends or activities not approved of by his mother or father.

 

Mistakes are OK

     As a parent, you need to recognize that it is normal to feel worried, confused, angry, guilty, overwhelmed and inadequate because of your child's behavior. That is part of being a parent. It is futile and self-defeating to try to be perfect or to raise perfect children.

     Think back to how you behaved, or misbehaved, as a child, about how your parents dealt with your behavior, and how you felt about their disciplinary techniques. They were not perfect, but neither was anyone else. Do not try to overcompensate for their shortcomings by trying to be perfect yourself, and by getting caught up in statements like "I'm not going to make the same mistakes my parents made."

     All parents and all children make mistakes in their attempts to communicate and deal with one another and in trying to solve problems. Parents need to trust themselves and their instincts. Mothers and fathers tend to have good intuition and knowledge of their own children. They often know more than they think they do, and they should not be afraid of making mistakes. Children are resilient and forgiving and usually learn and grow through their mistakes. Parents tend to be just as resilient and forgiving.

 

Flexible Parenting

     However, parents who "live for their children" are putting themselves in a very vulnerable position, setting themselves up for possible disappointment, frustration and resentment. They are also being unfair to their family. Parents should not expect to receive all their personal fulfillment from their children or from the parenting role. Parents need other activities to fulfill their self-images, and other sources of love and nurturing. They need time to be adults and time for themselves - and a break from children and parenting responsibilities.

     As a parent, you need to develop your own philosophy - one with which you feel comfortable - within a flexible and adaptable framework. Take into account your own expectations, parenting style, and temperament, and how they fit with each of your children and your spouse, and their own unique preferences and temperaments. Your approach and philosophy will vary from youngster to youngster, mainly because of their own particular attributes.

      Along the way, remember that professional help is available if problems ever become too intense, exceed your own coping capabilities, or cause secondary difficulties such as a decline in school performance, increased family stress or serious emotional problems.

     You should take comfort in the fact that in the vast majority of cases, children do turn out well. But along the way, keep your sense of humor, trust your instincts and seek help and advice early rather than late. While parenting is a great challenge, it can also be one of the most rewarding and enjoyable experiences of your life.

 

Points To Keep In Mind

  1. Even among children of the same age, there is a range of what is normal in the way they develop socially, emotionally, intellectually and physically.
  2. A child's maturity level may be different for the various qualities he is developing, including social skills, athletic abilities and learning capabilities. He might be strong in math but weak in writing (or vice versa), or good at basketball but not at golf.
  3. The variations described above may be permanent, forming a child's own unique profile; or they could be evolving and thus be subject to change.
  4. The way a child develops can influence his behavior, and vice versa.
  5. The particular parenting style of a mother and father, as well as the child's environment, will affect the youngster's behavior and development.  

 --Dr. Barry

 

 

 

 

The Last Word

 

It's not only children who grow.  Parents do too.  As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours.  I can't tell my children to reach for the sun.  All I can do is reach for it, myself.

 

-- Joyce Maynard