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"People are not broken and in need of fixing... most  people are just fine.  They may simply need a tune-up."
                                                Dr. Alexander R. Lees

In This Issue:

Alex talks about calibrating a client. What's also good about this info is that if you learn how to calibrate a person, any person, you're talking to, it will really help your every day communications.  You will be more tuned into how the person is feeling about what they're saying.  Sometimes the words spoken and the feelings behind them are not in agreement.  This may cause confusion and misunderstanding.  Learning to calibrate a person helps to make our conversations flow more easily and understand what's being said.  Try it, you might like it. :-)

Susan loves summer!  She introduces us to two more aspects of the Fire element -- Yin energy and Yang energy.  Susan provides us with useful info and some exercises so we can enjoy the heat, the smells and sounds of summer when the Earth is in full Yang.

The #1 reason people consult physicians in the USA is because of PAIN!  Tom gives us some tapping techniques we can use ourselves to get rid of pain and hopefully save ourselves a visit to the doctor.  In the coming months Tom will focus on issues of pain and offer us various techniques to slip under our belt or into our energy medicine toolbox.  Please stay tuned.

I write about some personal (and business) changes that Alex and I will be making in the coming months.  We're really excited about them and are looking forward to this new phase in our lives.

Enjoy!

Berit Lees, Editor

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Alex Lees

The Value of Learning to Calibrate
By Dr. Alexander R. Lees


As I often point out in one of the seminars I present, if you are going to be a people helper, it is very useful to learn about, and get into the habit of calibrating a client.  And please remember, although I'm using the word client in this article, the person referred to could in fact be a neighbour, your son, daughter, father, mother, cousin, wife, husband, a paying client, or just someone you grabbed on the street and convinced you really, really needed to practice a new technique and they are IT.  Well, perhaps not.  One can either get arrested, or find themselves being fitted for a form fitting white coat that ties at the back by trying the last one. Best stick to the straight and narrow for now. :-)

I can appreciate that some readers may not have heard the  term calibration used in this context before.  At the same time, so much time may have passed  that those who were familiar with it may have forgotten its full value, so perhaps a quick review is in order.

To begin with, no one remains in any specific state of mind indefinitely.  As a matter of fact, research tells us the duration of a mind state maxes out to about twenty minutes, and that is considered the extreme.  We change states dependent on subject matter, thought patterns, context, and content, to list a few.  As we do, these inner changes can and will express themselves as changes in our facial expressions, voice characteristics, body language, etc.

Please remember, there are no specific 'carved in stone' attributes that each of us adopts, but none the less, the observable changes are unique to the individual, and will follow a pattern, and this is what calibration is all about; noticing these sometimes very subtle changes, and relating them to the client's inner state.

Some have asked if this is a form of mind reading, and the answer is no, it isn't.  However, if you were to decide, when working with another person, that you were going to pay attention to any shifts as described previously, you will delightfully amaze yourself, by beginning to notice them.  Also, you will realize how much useful information can be derived.  After all, the more information you have available, the better your prospects are in helping others to resolve their issues, and that is good for both of you, is it not?  Now the question becomes, "Where do I begin?"

To help you get started, let me suggest the following: Begin by noticing/observing the person you are working with.  You want to take a mental snapshot of how they appear in the non problem state first.  Later, as they enter the problem state, their body language, etc., will change, and you will then record and compare the two separate characteristic changes that occur.

Just to be clear: As the person you are helping begins to think about, and/or talk about the issue they want help with, simply take a mental snapshot of what they look like in the none resourceful state.

  • Notice the facial expressions. Do the eyes seem smaller, or more open?
  • Are they more shiny (reflecting light more) or glazed? Are they looking in a specific direction, or seem focused spatially?
  • Notice body language, that is, are the arms now crossed, or have the legs shifted in some way?
  • Are they sitting up more, or now leaning back?
  • Are they slouching more, or perhaps tapping a foot or finger on themselves or some part of the chair?
  • Notice the voice. Is is louder, softer, breathier (an indication the breathing is now more shallow, or higher in the chest).
  • Is the voice now taking on a different rhythm?  People tend to group words together, providing a rhythm to their speech.  Sometimes, it is too subtle to notice; however, if you did notice a rhythm to their voice in the 'normal' state, then simply notice any changes when they accessed the 'problem' state.
  • Is there more resonance?
  • How about a stutter forming, or stammer?
The point is to notice  the individual in their completeness, and to have a mental picture of what they look like when they are not accessing the problem. You are then going to compare the observable facial, voice and body characteristics to those observed when the client enters the problem state.

Deciding to improve your information gathering abilities by learning to calibrate someone will provide at least two benefits: one, you will notice the non verbals provide important information as to mental shifts occurring, and two, once you have 'completed' or resolved the presented issue, you can ask the client to take a moment and think about the presented problem. If you observe the same characteristics you have associated with the problem state, then you know there is still more to do.

This aspect is particularly important, and can serve you well if you happen to be working with someone who says something like, "Oh, I've worked all that out.  It doesn't bother me anymore."

Time and time again, I've had clients that make a statement similar to the above, yet display non verbals indicating that the issue in fact is resolved.  In these cases a little diplomacy can go a long way in helping them to acknowledge there is still some work to do on the issue, and sets things up nicely for you to resolve it once and for all.

If, on the other hand, the non verbals are different than they were when the client accessed the presented problem prior to your intervention, then this is confirming feedback that the issue is now resolved.

And here is one more reason for learning about and applying your new technique called calibration. We know the subconscious mind and the conscious mind follow different rules, and can have different interpretations of some event, circumstance or issue. Take, for example, the following.

At one time in my career, I dealt with people who were plagued with anaphylactic shock.   The issue here is a life threatening one.  For these people, being exposed to peanuts, a bee or wasp bite, or any of several other triggers, they had about 3-11 minutes left on the planet. Unless they received medical intervention within that time frame, death through asphyxiation was likely to occur.

I would say that the ability to calibrate the person after we completed the technique designed to reprogram the immune system was the singularly most important aspect; for if the same physiology occurred as they accessed a typical scene in their mind of being exposed  to the trigger after we had done the technique, this provided feedback that more had to be done.  Note: Of 22 cases treated, 21 were successful; that is the individual no longer had the same life threatening reaction to the trigger.


Sometimes, the person's conscious mind may be having trouble accepting that the issue is in fact resolved. "I just can't believe, after all this time, my problem can just disappear so easily. Are you sure its gone?" is not an unusual type of response for anyone who has worked  as a 'people helper' over time to hear once in awhile. One you have learned to calibrate, you to will begin to experience the same kind of responses, and will know the problem is gone, even though the client may not know or accept that it is, until some later time.  The fact this kind of experience is also a rich source for referrals doesn't hurt either. :-)

Please Remember: For every state of mind there is a corresponding physiology.  For every physiology, there is a corresponding state of mind.  A change in one affects change in the other.

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Another thoughtful public service memo
designed to improve your life.

THESE ARE REALLY  AMAZINGLY SIMPLE HOME REMEDIES: 

1. AVOID CUTTING YOURSELF WHEN SLICING VEGETABLES BY GETTING SOMEONE ELSE TO HOLD THE VEGETABLES WHILE YOU CHOP. 

2. A MOUSE TRAP PLACED ON TOP OF YOUR ALARM CLOCK WILL PREVENT YOU FROM ROLLING OVER AND GOING BACK TO SLEEP AFTER YOU HIT THE SNOOZE BUTTON. 

3. IF YOU HAVE A BAD COUGH, TAKE A LARGE DOSE OF LAXATIVES. THEN YOU'LL BE AFRAID TO COUGH. 

4. YOU ONLY NEED TWO TOOLS IN LIFE - WD-40 AND DUCT TAPE. IF IT DOESN'T MOVE AND SHOULD, USE THE WD-40. IF IT SHOULDN'T MOVE AND DOES, USE THE DUCT TAPE. 

5. IF YOU CAN'T FIX IT WITH A HAMMER, YOU'VE GOT AN ELECTRICAL
PROBLEM. 

DAILY THOUGHT:  SOME PEOPLE ARE LIKE SLINKIES - NOT REALLY GOOD FOR ANYTHING BUT THEY BRING A SMILE TO YOUR FACE
WHEN PUSHED DOWN THE STAIRS.  
 


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Workshop News

Fall Workshop Schedule is shown to the right of Alex's photo :-)
and also posted (with all the details, costs, etc.) on our website.

PLUS..... Calibration Workshop

If you found Alex's information re calibration useful and interesting,
and can realize the benefits of learning how to utilize it,
we would be happy to do a one day workshop and teach you how.
We guarantee that it would take your people helping skills
to a new and satisfying level.

For more information:

Please give us a call at 604.542.6277 or email us

and say, "Yes, I want to learn how to calibrate!"



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Susan StoneContributing Columnist Susan Stone is a licensed acupuncturist, certified in Eden Energy Medicine and Eden Energy Medicine for Women. In addition she is a Registered Bach Flower practitioner, an Acutonics practitioner, with a BS degree in Nutrition and Dietetics, and has been in private practice since 1977. Susan's other interests include a passion for dressage, mountain climbing, and life. Contact Susan at her clinic in the Boston, MA area. www.stonehealthcenter.com

Summer -- the Earth in Full Yang
By Susan Stone

The first day of Summer!  Wow!  This is always my most favorite day but in a bittersweet way.  I love the summer, for the long days, the sunshine, all of the outdoor activity, the heat, barbeques, beaches, mountain climbing.  The list is endless.  The bittersweet part is that now the days begin to get shorter.  This is a perfect example of Yin within Yang.  As we move into full Yang which is the Summer, the seed of Yin is growing within.  Yin corresponds to darkness.  So as the daylight begins to wane, the heat of Summer increases.  The amazing cycle of life.  

Corresponding with Summer are the energies and meridians of Triple Warmer and Circulation/Sex (also known as the Pericardium).  In the Eden Energy Medicine world, Triple Warmer plays a huge role.  In the element of Fire there are 4 players: Heart, Small Intestine, Triple Warmer and Circulation/Sex.  Last month I wrote about Heart and Small Intestine.  Now I would like to introduce you to Triple Warmer (Yang energy) and Circulation/Sex (Yin energy).  

Circulation/Sex, also called the Pericardium, is the Heart Protector - literally and figuratively.  I see over-reactivity with the Circulation/Sex energies when a person suffers from tight hips (pain in the butt) and tightness in the chest that is frequently caused by anxiety.  Holding the Fire Neurovascular points in conjuction with the Main Stress Points can help reduce anxiety.  The Main Stress Points are located on your forehead directly above your eyebrows.  The Fire Neurovasculars are located on the back of your head, directly behind your forehead.

Triple Warmer is likened to our body's defense system.  Triple Warmer is our own personal warrior.  He will keep you alive.  His job is to be an energy force like the Great Wall of China.  He keeps the emperor (Heart) safe.  His defense system has the ability to recognize a threat, send an alert message, gather the forces and lead an assault, even single-handedly.  He is the one who recognizes the need for fight, flight, or freeze.  He will take energy from wherever necessary to complete his mission to keep you alive.  We all need to respect Triple Warmer, and take care of our Triple Warmer energy.  

Life as we know it today has changed dramatically over the past 100 plus years.  Introduced into our environment are over 17,000 new toxins and other irritants to our body.  Some of us are pretty good at adapting while some are not.  A way of knowing if you're having a hard time adapting to all the new irritants could manifest in your body as allergies, ill-health, auto-immune illnesses, chronic stress reactions, just to name a few.  Illness can be a result of the body trying to eliminate toxins and being overwhelmed in doing so.

When Triple Warmer gets over wrought, because he takes his job most seriously, he often will need to take energy from other meridians in our body.  The most frequently source of that additional energy is from Spleen.  Spleen sits in a position directly opposite Triple Warmer within the Chinese clock.  Spleen as part of the Earth element which is responsible for facilitating our body's ability to nourish ourselves will give up it's energy to Triple Warmer to help him do his job in his defense role.  

So what's a person to do in order to help Triple Warmer do its job so that the body doesn't react with an illness.  Here are a few things we can do:

We can calm down Triple Warmer.  
We can strengthen our Spleen energy.
We ask the body what it needs in order to help Triple Warmer do its job.  

There are many different exercises we can do to help Triple Warmer calm down.  Here are a few to help you out:

1.    Hold your Triple Warmer Neurovascular points.  The Triple Warmer Neurovascular points are on your temples.

2.    Sedate the Triple Warmer meridian by tracing it backwards.  Start with your right hand at the outside corner of your left eyebrow, bring it over to the opening of your ear.  Draw your hand around the circumference of your ear on your skull.  Drop your hand down your neck, with your fingers hanging over the top of your shoulder, drag your hand off of your shoulder down the back of your upper arm.  At your elbow, bring your hand over the top of your forearm, over the back of your hand and off of your fourth (ring) finger.  Repeat on the other side with your left hand beginning at the corner of your right eyebrow.

3.    The Triple Warmer Smoothie:  With both hands, place your fingertips so that they rest at the corner of the outer edge of your eyebrows - take a deep breath and as you exhale draw your fingers over to the opening of your ears.  On your next breath, draw your hands around the outer edges of you ears on your skull and down your neck.  Let your hands clasp the tops of your shoulders, squeeze as you inhale and as you exhale bring your hands off your shoulders to rest over your heart.  

In conjunction with calming down Triple Warmer, we can strengthen our Spleen energy.  A quick solution is to tap our Spleen neurolymphatic points, which are a crescent shaped area located directly below the breasts approximately one rib down.  If you tap this area and it feels tender, you probably need it because your Spleen energy needs a boost.

Next month I'll write about the wonderful energies of Indian Summer - the Earth energies of Spleen and Stomach.  In the meantime, enjoy the heat, the smells, the sounds of the Earth in Full Yang.

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Girlfriends help each other out...

Double Jeopardy

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  Tom Dorzab
Contributing Columnist Tom Dorzab is a retired biologist from Kansas and now lives with his wife in Spain. Tom followed his passion and is now an energy medicine practitioner specializing in Eden Energy Medicine.  Contact Tom here


Tap, Tap, Tap

By Tom Dorzab

As the number one reason for physician consultations in the United States, pain deserves special recognition. Being so common among the population at large, I will be spending a fair amount of time on the subject. As there are many different reasons for pain, it is possible that finding relief from it could become more of a process than an event. It's also possible that a simple intervention could wipe the slate completely clean and long standing chronic pain can disappear very quickly. As an example, an older gentleman once approached me complaining of a chronic leg pain he had had for years. I took the time on the spot to try something quickly. I tried a technique some of you may have heard of before, EFT. We went through two rounds of EFT and then checked back on the severity of the pain. It was gone! Completely gone! He was amazed and I have to admit so was I. I had hoped to give him a little relief and instead he was completely pain free. Years later he is still free of the pain and I have received a Christmas duck, watermelons and assorted other thank yous from him. Not bad for 5 minutes work.

Since readers of this newsletter are pretty well up-to-date on meridian tapping techniques, I'm not going to go into it other than to say it often works wonders and, since it's so simple, why not try it? But, did you know there are other tapping techniques you can use for pain? In this article I'm going to describe several other simple tapping techniques that can also work wonders for pain.

The first is called Zone Tapping. Zone Tapping is not a meridian tapping technique but instead is based on the well known art of Reflexology. In Reflexology the body is divided into zones as you will soon see. This technique is best used for localized pain.

Before tapping, you will first need to determine the location of the pain. Then you will need to determine in which body zone it's located. Once that's done, you simply need to tap on certain points on either the wrists or the ankles. Pretty simple huh? So where are these zones and tapping points?

The body will first be divided into eight general zones. First imagine a line around the waist. This line divides the body into two parts, upper and lower. Then imagine a line passing straight down the center of the front and back of the body. Now the body has been divided into upper right, upper left, lower right and lower left, or four parts. And finally imagine a line passing straight down the center of each side from head to feet. Now the divisions are front upper right, front upper left, back upper right, back upper left, front lower right, front lower left, back lower right and back lower left for a total of eight zones.  We have now defined the basic zones.

In general, the tapping points for the upper zones are located on the wrists and the tapping points for the lower zones are just above the ankles. In addition, the tapping points for the upper front of the body are on the insides of the wrists, those for the upper back are on the backs of the wrists, those for the lower front are on the inside of the ankles and those for the lower back zones are located on the outside of the ankles. Now you know the basics.

Now you need to simply divide each zone into three relatively equal parallel vertical sections. Essentially you now have parallel lines running up and down the front, sides and back of the body. There are three points on the inside ankle, outside ankle, inside wrist and outside wrist of each leg and arm. While ideally you would want to tap on specific points for each area, you can also get good results by tapping on all three points at once. Since I like simple, let's go there.

The simplified version of this technique is to first locate the area of the pain. Then, if it's in the front upper right area, tap on the right inside part of your wrist just above the joints. If it's in the front upper left, tap on the inside part of your left wrist. For the right upper back tap, tap on the  outside part of your right wrist. And for the left upper back, tap on the left outside part of the wrist. Use the same rational for the lower zones tapping on the insides of the ankle for the front and the outsides for the back. Just draw a line across your lower leg about an inch above your ankle on the inside and outside and tap along the indicated line.

Don't worry too much about being exactly on the right point. If you use your whole hand to tap, you will easily hit the point you need. The tapping sequence is also important. First tap about ten times and wait about ten seconds. Then start tapping again, but this time tap for about a minute.

If you're like me, then after reading a description like this, your head is almost ready to spin right off your shoulders. Let's go through the process so you can see just how simple this technique really is.

So you have a localized pain on the front of your right leg. Since the pain is in the lower body, the tapping points will be just slightly above the ankle either on the inside or outside. Since the pain is on the front of the lower body, the tapping points will be on the inside. Now just tap with your whole hand over a line across the inside of your lower leg about one inch above the ankle. Tap for ten seconds, wait ten seconds and then tap for about sixty seconds. Now wasn't that easy? I hope that simplified it a
little.
Zone Tapping

Pain Location             Tapping Location

Upper body
                  Upper body
Right upper front           Inside of right wrist
Left upper front             Inside of left wrist
Right upper back          Outside of right wrist
Left upper back            Outside of left wrist
                           
Lower body
                   Lower Body
Right lower front            Inside of right ankle
Left lower front              Inside of left ankle
Right lower back           Outside of right ankle
Left lower back             Outside of left ankle        

This techniques begins working right away and continues until the maximum improvement is felt about 10 minutes after the technique is performed. You can do this on yourself or on others.

Tapping for pain relief doesn't end here. You can also try simply tapping directly on the point of pain using either your fingertips or something great to use for neck pain is a hairbrush. Just tap until you feel a shift has occurred. How much more simple can it get? Remember that this technique is not to be used directly over an open wound.

Well there you have it. You now have two more simple techniques to slip under your belt or in your energy medicine toolbox, but we're not done yet. There will be more to come so be sure to tune in next month.

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BLESSED ARE THE CRACKED, FOR THEY LET IN THE LIGHT    
SOME LINES TO MAKE YOU SMILE   

  • I don't suffer from insanity; I enjoy every minute of it.    
  • Some people are alive only because it's illegal to kill them.    
  • You're just jealous because the voices only talk to me   
  • I'm not a complete idiot -- Some parts are just missing.   
  • Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.
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Berit's Corner
Berit Lees

Why do we do the things we do, when we do them?  Generally speaking there's some impetus or motivation, and it spurs us into action.  A while ago Alex and I were having a conversation about our future and what we wanted to do, or not to do.  We talked about many different things and lots of ideas and suggestions came to mind.  The end result of our conversation was that we had lots of questions, most of which we didn't have an answer to, and some we did.  For example:

QUESTION:  What do we want to do, now that we're older and somewhat wiser? :-)
ANSWER: Reduce our work load and possibly shift some of our focus to online "stuff."

QUESTION: Where do we want to do this?  
ANSWER:  Many different places came to mind but we haven't come up with a clear picture of where we want to be... yet.

QUESTION: Are we ready for a change and a challenge?
ANSWER: We both agreed YES!

QUESTION: Do we want a change?
ANSWER: A resounding YES!

QUESTION: Shall we start preparing to make some changes and along the way we'll discover what the changes will look like, and where they will take us?
ANSWER: YES!

The cool thing is that both Alex and I were in agreement so we started to plan for the next phase of our life.  And, that's when we realized there was one major stumbling block - our house.  It needed a lot of work to get it up to snuff.  So, the first task was to fix the house.

We've been here four years and the only thing we did was set up our office (paint, etc.) which is on the first floor (it's a two story house).  We had totally neglected the upper floor of our house, the part that's home.  How come?  Maybe having done four major renovations to the last four homes we've owned, wore us out?  Or, we were focused on other things?  Or, it didn't seem as important as before?  Who knows, we surely don't!

Now the time had come, and looking around we realized we needed to do a major amount of work.  If we had realized just how much work needed to be done, I'm sure we would have said, "To heck with it!"  But ignorance is bliss, so we proceeded on the premise of we'll paint a bit here and there, clean a bit here and there, and make it look as good as we can.

The "paint a bit and clean a bit" turned into a massive paint everything (including two fireplaces, all the rooms, baseboards and crown moldings included) and clean every nook and cranny in the whole house.  I'm usually a very neat and tidy person when it comes to my house, but do admit that you could not eat off my kitchen floor.  Oh, how the times have changed!  You now could eat off any surface in our house including the kitchen ceiling!  A special Thank You to Mike for being a great friend and painting the kitchen (especially the ceiling).  It looks 100% better!

Even if I say so myself, the house looks darn good.  Alex and I - not so good.  We're exhausted and have muscles we didn't know we had, and all of them are aching.  Most people that have seen the transformation of our house say, "You're not going to want to move now."  We stop to think for all of half a second and reply, "Yes, we do!"

We no longer want or need a five bedroom house with a living room and large family room, plus a 1/4 of an acre back yard that seems to need constant mowing.  A nice family with kids and dogs should live here.  So one decision has been made - we want to down-size.  A two bedroom house on a small plot of land sounds like heaven to use.  We just need to figure out where it will be.

As to when, that's another big question.  Both of us, having made the decision to change a few things in our life, now have the fun part ahead of us.  Where do we go?  We have some ideas, and the next few months will be spent doing research, and dreaming about all the possibilities.  Who knows, maybe we'll end up being your new neighbours. :-)

Meanwhile, we're still here and enjoying our newly painted and spiffed up house.  For those of you that are our local clients you may notice a nice fresh look the next time you come to see Alex.  But you better hurry and come see us before the house gets dirty and dusty because then it really will be time to sell it! :-)

Now, I'm going to relax and enjoy the rest of our gorgeous summer.  Hope yours is gorgeous too!

Till next month,
Take care.

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NO! I haven't seen your lipstick!
Why would you even ask me that? I'm insulted!
Every time something goes missing around here,
everybody looks at me!
For your information,
I don't even wear that shade,
 it doesn't flatter my complexion,
and it tastes terrible.
....oops!


Lipstick
 
 
Volume 17, No. 08
August 2010

In This Issue:
The Value of Learning to Calibrate
Workshop News
Summer - the Earth in Full Yang
Tap, Tap, Tap
Berit's Corner
Berit Lees
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