Well that's lesson number one.   When we're in a panic and get stressed out about things, do we actually get things done more quickly?   Well sometimes, maybe.   But more often, stressing clouds our thinking and makes it more difficult to communicate effectively.   It restricts our movements and makes us literally uptight.  A few deep breaths usually is far more effective and gets the job done calmly and efficiently - and without damaging your health!

2.      In almost every bar and restaurant are signs saying 'Be Nice or Leave'.   It's kind of a joke, but at the same time, it's a valuable piece of advice.  Sometimes if you can't be pleasant and calm about something, maybe it's just better to remove yourself from the situation until you can calm down a little and deal with things more constructively.   After all, which is more likely to achieve a positive response - yelling at someone and getting upset in the process or being able to calmly explain what you need and would like to happen, so that you can reach agreement?

3.      As you know New Orleans has had its challenges.   One major event of course, being the Hurricane Katrina in 2005, which devastated this beautiful city.   Although a lot of life has returned to 'normal', there are people who have suffered dreadful loss - of family, friends, livelihood and property - and there are signs still of the devastation.   Boarded up buildings, deserted buildings, damaged property and so on, not to mention the human cost.   Many people have not returned to New Orleans and some who are still living in trailers.   And now, as if that wasn't enough, they are faced with the large oil slick in the middle of the Gulf of Mexico which threatens their food supply and yet more jobs.  

How do they deal with it?   They make MUSIC!   It's on every street corner, in every doorway and in every bar and it's what keeps them going even in the face of death and destruction.   Music is an enormously powerful medium and can lift your spirits or allow you to express your grief.   It can create an atmosphere of excitement or one of calm and tranquillity.  

I often ask my clients to make a playlist or CD of music that lifts them and makes them want to dance.   It never fails and is wonderful stress relief if we choose music that makes us feel good.   Use music in your life as a way to let go and enjoy yourself.   It's one of the best techniques I know to change your mood and lighten your load.

My experience of 'The Big Easy' was wonderful and one I will treasure always.   Not only because of the superb company, wonderful architecture and great food, but also because of the spirit of these beautiful people who have been through so much and still remember what it is to enjoy life to the full and cut the stress.

 
Please let me know whether or not this information is helpful to you, what your experiences are with the techniques and also if you have any ideas to share with others receiving this newsletter or if you would like me to offer advice on a specific topic.   I'm always delighted to hear from you. So, till the next time, keep calm, be clear & confident.