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How often do we hear of an employer dealing with an employee's complaint or query with the classic 'If you don't want the job there are plenty more out there?' A phrase that is a million miles from Dale Carnegie's; 'How to win friends and influence people'.
It seems to be considered weak to be considerate, polite, or even respectful. A good leader, or carer simply inspires, builds warm and fabulous relationships and as long as the 'rules' are laid out clearly, easily understood and serve everyone then the future is good. This is something that every other species, on our planet, already knows and uses to great effect.
Sadly for us when we go the route of 'I'm alright, Jack', we immediately put ourselves in peril as we too are group livers and need the support of those we associate with, whether that be the shop assistant that ensures that the food that we choose is on the shelf for us to find, or the Doctor trained to cure our ills.
Unfortunately, people tend to swing from one excess to another, even seeing the shop assistant of little or no importance and the Doctor as almost divine, when both are essential in our modern world and equally deserve our gratitude for a job well done, usually.
All dogs remain in the world of a subtle, respectful communication system and this is one of the many reasons that 'Amichien� Bonding' works so beautifully. They instinctively use good manners, once provided with a good reason to adopt them and are rewarded for good actions with affection and warmth.
Just as when a child uses those magic words 'please' and 'thank you' your dog will slightly lower its ears, soften its eye, which is your trigger to smile and be so happy. Polite, respectful responses that can happily become second nature and as often happens, we can learn so much from other animals
It really is a 'Do as you would be done by' relationship, which ensures success.
Jan Fennell
20th April 2011
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