The Good News & The Bad News About Closure:
The Bad news:
¨Separations can bring up negative feelings: loss, rejection, mourning and even anger."
¨Separations that are handled badly can negatively impact on self-esteem."
The Good news:
¨Separations can also include positive feelings: satisfaction and accomplishment about desired goals being met."
¨Separations and feelings can be managed, worked through and accepted."
Stages of Positive Match Closure
Notification: 3-4 weeks notice of specific date that the mentoring will come to an end.
Process The Ending: Reminisce, review, recall and reflect on what has happened during the mentoring experience.
Capturing The Gains: Focus on the positive elements and experiences that were part of the mentoring experience. Identify how you and your mentee can pull together what happened, and what it has meant to each of you.
Planning For The Future: Plan for what will happen after the match ends.
Celebration: Consider appropriate ending ritual. Incorporate celebration of the mentoring experience into the celebration.
If you wish to discuss specific closure issues relevant to your program or any particular match, feel free to call Franca Floro at (631) 761-7800.