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Santa Fe Center for Relationships Newsletter
Volume 3     -       Number 2      -      February 2010 
In This Issue
About Carrie and Cat
What participants are saying
2010 Couples Workshop Schedule
Relationship Tip
Re-Romanticise Your Relationship
New SFCR Imago Offerings in 2010!
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Carrie and Cat are passionate about helping couples and individuals have the relationship of their dreams. They invite you to join them at one of their workshops or events in the coming year. Please help them spread the word about Imago and the Santa Fe Center for Relationships by forwarding this email to a friend or loved one who may be interested by using the link at the bottom of the page.
What Participants are Saying About Us and Our  Workshops for Couples:
 
The safest, most deeply satisfying experience
I could imagine having with my partner.
 
Carrie and Cat are/must be the best of the best-definitely two people who genuinely fit the profiles of people who should be helping others better their relationship.
 
Their concern for others shows through their incredible work.  (They) have given our marraige life and hope again. 
 
Realizing that conflict is growth trying to happen has changed my entire outlook on life.
 
I now have hope, not despair. I am excited to have a new vision of my husband, myself and our journey ahead.
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 2010  "Getting the Love You Want" Workshop dates:
 
  
January 15-17
March 19-21
May 14-16
July 23-25
September 24-26
 
 
Lesbian Couples:
 
February 5 -7 
June 11-13
August 6-8
 
 
Gay & Lesbian Couples:
 
April 16-18
 
 
Stay tuned for more dates!
 
See our web site www.santaferelationships.com  for more information
 
 
 
 
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Keeping the Love You Find: Workshop for Singles
 
April 9-11 
 
 
Start Right, Stay Connected:
 Premarital Workshop 
 
 March 27
 

For more information or to register go to
 www.santaferelationships.com
 
 
 
 
RelationshipTip:                                                                 
 
Re-romanticize and refresh your relationship on a regular basis. Rekindle the romance in your relationship and increase the connection with your partner this Valentine's Day.
 
 
Love doesn't make the world go 'round;  love is what makes the ride worthwhile.                                
~ Franklin P. Jones
 Re-Romanticize Your Relationship
 
 

Valentine's Day is a huge commercial success. We are given messages that red roses, chocolates, and dinners out are what will make our honey happy. And yet, it is not items such as these that will help recapture the romance in our relationship and make our partner feel loved and cared about.
 
We all want to love and be loved. In the romantic phase of our relationship, this came easily and was fueled by the chemicals coarsing through our bodies. After the chemicals dissipate, and we move out of the romantic phase of our relationship, we have to work at nurturing the feelings of connection we have with our partner.
 
This Valentine's Day we encourage you to "Keep It Real". Instead of, or maybe in addition to, flowers and chocolate (if your honey loves these) give them something that comes from your heart and results in true connection. One way to do this is to sit with your partner face-to-face, knee-to-knee, and heart-to-heart, and use these sentence stems to communicate to them from your heart:
 
One of the things about you that attracted me and made me fall in love with you was ...
 
One of the things I love most about you is ...
 
I love it when you ...
 
One of my fondest memories with you is ...
 
What I most appreciate about you is ...
 
The most fun I have ever had with you is ...
 
The thing I love to do the most with you is ...
 
 
Take turns completing these sentences with one another. Or make up your own. If you know the Intentional Dialogue use it to mirror back the messages.
 
Also, plan to do something fun, with just the two of you. Talk about it ahead of time and agree upon something that you both would enjoy.
 
Happy Valentine's Day !
 
Romantic love reaches out in little ways, showing attention and admiration. Romantic love remembers what pleases (our partner), what excites them, what surprises them. Our actions whisper: you are the most special person in my life.                  
 
~ Charles Stanley 
 
New Imago Offerings in 2010
 
Imago Logo New!  Imago SinglesWorkshop 
 "Keeping the Love You Find"
 April 9-11
 
This intensive self-growth workshop for individuals is based on the work of Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Keeping the Love You Find, and founder of Imago Relationship Theory.

In this workshop you will:

  • Identify your character structure & your defenses
  • Discover how childhood wounds affect your relationships
  • Understand why you are drawn to certain people
  • Gain new relationship skills
  • Create a Plan for Personal Change
 This workshop will be held April 9-11. For more information, or to register, go to  www.santaferelationships.com 
 

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New!  Imago Premarital Workshop
 
"Start Right, Stay Connected" 
 March 27
  
  In this workshop you will learn ways to... 
  • Communicate effectively with your partner
  • Discover why the unconscious forces that attracted you to your partner may eventually also be the source of your relationship conflicts 
  • Remove negativity
  • Keep the romance, passion, fun and intimacy going in your relationship
  • Help with the wedding planning and not go crazy
  • Prevent an affair
  • Create a vision of where your relationship is headed
 This workshop is appropriate for you if:  
  • You are engaged to be married
  • You are not engaged, but are contemplating getting married
This one day workshop will be held March 27, from 8:30am-6pm. Go to www.santaferelationships.com for more information or to register.
 
Look for us at the Wedding Fair, Sunday, February 28,    1-4 pm, at the Santa Fe Community Convention Center.
 
Please help us spread the word to family and friends about these new workshops by using the "Forward email" link at the bottom of the page.