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If you're a man, there's a strong possibility that someone you know has made the following statement, "Most women are just after MY money. They are gold digging honey's that are never satisfied." I understand you would probably never say anything like that because you have respect for women but on the other hand, your boys make a strong case for why most women are gold diggers. Well, I'm not the defender of all women, but I need to shed light on the game that men have played for years. And now they want to cry "Foul!" because they think women are being unfair. To them I say, "Don't hate the players...hate the game."
Society has conditioned males and females to assume certain roles. The role of the male is protector and provider. Men are genetically conditioned to protect their families and provide for their well-being. Conversely, females are genetically conditioned to perform the role of supporter and nurturer. The female is responsible for making sure the family's needs are met and providing a nurturing environment. The environment includes the husband, their children, her parents, and sometimes her husband's parents (the in-laws). Creating a stable and nurturing environment includes making sure that everyone's basic needs are met: food, clothes and shelter. So ideally, the male provides and the female takes care of everyone based on what the male is able to provide financially.
Combine the basic facts of genetic conditioning with these other infallible truths.
- Men are extremely competitive. If you've ever seen two young boys playing together, you know what I mean. It doesn't matter if both boys have the same toy or not, if one (male) child feels like he wants to have the other (male) child's toy, he takes it. Usually by force and/or intimidation. Same truck. Doesn't matter. Same color crayons. Doesn't matter. Same GI man. Doesn't matter. He just wants what the other kid has.
- Men are conspicuous spenders. Men figured out a long time ago that in order to differentiate yourself from all the other guys, you have to STAND OUT. If you can't stand out, you're not getting any attention and we know men lo-o-o-ve attention. Research by Rice University, the University of Texas-San Antonio and the University of Minnesota found that just as a peacock flashes his feathers to attract a mate, men use conspicuous spending to attract women. They proudly display an expensive purchase (latest technological gadget, expensive sports car, watch, shoes, etc.) which reinforces their "top dog" status and implies they can afford the finer things in life. In other words, men flaunt wealth and material possessions in order to get noticed by women.
Putting it all together
Pop culture would like to narrowly define females who date men with the purpose of gaining financial security as gold diggers, but that's not true. A woman who seeks financial security is not a gold digger but someone who is committed to her relationship and wants to offer the type of home environment that her husband desires as well as the ability to provide for the needs of the entire family. I'm pretty sure there are some women in the world who take the concept of financial security too far but as the saying goes, "a few bad apples shouldn't spoil the entire bunch."
Women are concerned with making sure that the needs of the family are met and the best way they can guarantee that the family is not going to be homeless or hungry is to choose from a pool of available men who are proudly displaying wealth and luxury. And since most males are going out of their way to get noticed by flaunting expensive items, women are most likely to be attracted to the guy that looks like he can afford the lifestyle she desires. Remember, women are responsible for taking care of the family and the family's needs. And her ability to take care of the family depends on her man's ability to provide.
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