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 Mike Malinchok
S2K Consulting, LLC offers one-on-one executive coaching, team coaching, and leadership training. You can choose to follow the Energy Leadership Development System, a focused one-on-one coaching program that is customized based on your specific goals and objectives, or we can create a unique program designed for your specific goals.
The name of this newsletter 'The Second Cup' was originally based on my own morning routine that requires a second cup of coffee before the cognitive portion of my day begins.
Recently,though, a good friend told me about the ancient Himilayan customs around sharing of a special tea mixture known as paiyu cha. Tradition goes that the second cup of the mixture is reserved for sharing with an honored guest.....a good friend.
The first reason tells you something about me. And, the second one......is all about you, my good friend.
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This morning, we'll discuss the last of the Big 4 energy blocks. If you're not achieving what you want to, it's most likely one of these four that's keeping you stuck. In the past few issues, we looked at limiting beliefs - things that you accept about life, about yourself, about your world, or about the people in it, that limit you in some way; assumptions - expectations that, because something has happened in the past, it will happen again; and interpretations - opinions and judgments that you create about an event, situation, person, or experience and believe to be true.
It is now time to examine the last, but certainly not the least, of the big four energy blocks. The final block we'll talk about - the 'gremlin' - is the most difficult to overcome, because it's the most personal and holds the most energy.
This barrier is the gremlin within every one of us: the inner critic. You know that little voice in your head? That voice that tells you not to try, never to take a risk, always to take the safe road, and to compromise your life by playing small? That's your gremlin, and the message from your gremlin's warnings is that you're just not good enough to reach the summit of success.
Regardless of any evidence to the contrary, the gremlin's annoying voice continues to whisper: "It ain't gonna happen." This debilitating message bubbles up in many forms: "I'm not smart enough, experienced enough, and attractive enough." It all comes back to a simple and quite vicious block: "I'm just not good enough to cut it."
Your gremlin is highly personal. It is rooted deeply inside you and carries the most intense emotional charge of any of the blocks we've explored. Your gremlin thrives on fear. When you hear its whispers, your motivation to try withers. You dread failing, feeling pain, and being embarrassed. You can even be scared of succeeding if the gremlin convinces you that you'll fail eventually.
So what are some typical gremlins statements? Do you hear any of these statements from your own inner critic?
I'm not effective.
Who am I kidding, here?
I'm not smart enough to really do this job right.
I don't have enough experience.
I don't deserve great success.
They are going to find out I am a phony.
Being aware of your gremlin is the first step towards lessening its power. Once you realize that your gremlin exists, give it an identity. Name it - and then, if you'd like, make it even more real by drawing it, sculpting it, or seeing it in your mind - whatever works for you. In doing this, you discover that the gremlin is only a part of who you are, not your whole identity. By seeing it in objective terms, you sap some of its strength. Gremlin work can be quite involved and is most effective when you are guided by a certified coach.
The Big 4 hold you back from living the life you desire and prevent you from making conscious choices. The Energy Leadership Coaching process will allow you to examine the energy blocks in your own life that are holding you back from reaching your unlimited potential. |
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SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT:
Executive Coaching:
expendable perk or wise investment in talent?
It's tough times, we all know and we've all experienced corporate cost reductions. Not getting laid off presents one level of motivation for performance to make it through the crisis. However, for long term peak performance, a wise strategy in managing your key talent (high potentials) is to invest in them. Executive coaching is one cost-effective way you can recognize your leadership team's value and importance to success. It's also a tool to help in the development of your own succession planning.
"Our chief want in life is somebody who will make us do what we can."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Call S2K to schedule a complementary coaching session to see how it can help you in reaching your goals.
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FRONT PORCH READING:
50/50
Secrets I learned running 50 marathons in 50 days
by
Dean Karnazes
Wellness Central Publishing 2009
This book is not just for runners - it's for anyone who's life seems like a marathon, for anyone looking to maintain energy, stamina, and integrity for the long haul.
'We all have dreams and ambitions, though few of us ever become all that we could be. We fight a silent war over purpose, over reaching our farthest destination. Onlookers watching us marathoners pass by today may have only seen the act of running, but as anyone on teh course could tell you, there was a powerful, complex conflict underway.' Dean Karnazes |
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Thanks for sharing your 'second cup' with me, my good friend!
Looking forward to our next time,
Mike Malinchok, CPC
President S2K Consulting, LLC
www.s2konpurpose.com |
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