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 Mike Malinchok
S2K Consulting, LLC offers one-on-one executive coaching, team coaching, and leadership training. You can choose to follow the Energy Leadership Development System, a focused one-on-one coaching program that is customized based on your specific goals and objectives, or we can create a unique program designed for your specific goals.
The name of this newsletter 'The Second Cup' was originally based on my own morning routine that requires a second cup of coffee before the cognitive portion of my day begins.
Recently,though, a good friend told me about the ancient Himilayan customs around sharing of a special tea mixture known as paiyu cha. Tradition goes that the second cup of the mixture is reserved for sharing with an honored guest.....a good friend.
The first reason tells you something about me. And, the second one......is all about you, my good friend.
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Last time, we took a break from our discussion of the Big 4 energy blocks as we introduced some new products & services from S2K. Thanks to all who responded and are exploring these opportunities! Your feedback is always welcome and valued.
The Big 4 energy blocks keep you stuck and prevent you from achieving what you want to in your life. We've already explored limiting beliefs and assumptions. This time, let's look at the third energy block, interpretations. When you interpret something, you create an opinion about an event, situation, or experience. In essence, you create an explanation and then look for evidence to support its validity. Think about that for a moment.........notice the order, explanation followed by evidence. When you make an interpretation, you don't even see that other explanations exist. In actuality, though, an interpretation often represents only one viewpoint among the many that are possible.
Your interpretations hold a strong energetic charge, which affects your emotions and actions. If you believe your viewpoint of a particular situation is the only explanation, you might not be aware of another point of view. You may end up wasting a lot of time and resources marching off in the wrong direction. Because you don't see that other possibilities exist, you remain stuck in your story, and feel like you have no control over the outcome.
So let's say you come home into work one day, and your boss barely nods hello, and then goes into his office and closes the door. If you think that your boss acted that way because he is angry with you, you might spend the morning wondering what you did to get him mad, and you might be hesitant to approach him with the great idea you'd come up with on the way in to work.
As with assumptions, interpretations are personal and are somewhat difficult to let go of and challenge. Holding onto them may seem like the easy way out, as facing them may move you into uncharted territory. However, challenging your interpretations opens you up to a world of possibilities, literally.
Typical interpretations may sound like this:
He doesn't like me.
She thinks I'm incompetent.
They don't want to follow orders.
My son is just not interested in doing his homework.
Interpretations can be directly challenged by asking: "What's another way to look at that?" Just realizing that there are other ways to look at something lessens the power of your interpretation. One way to do this is to imagine what another individual's perspective of the situation might be. Asking for someone else's point of view on a difficult situation (even if they are not directly involved) can break existing paradigms and open pathways for more successful solutions. Challenging yourself or others to argue the point of view directly opposite your interpretation also works remarkably well to arrive at new information, new angles, and new paths to success.
In the example of the boss above, perhaps the reason why he barely acknowledged you was that he just received a disturbing phone call about a family member, or he had a deadline that had to be met or.......well, you get the point I'm sure. What an opportunity you'd miss if you decided not to present your great idea based on your false interpretation.
This week, before you "jump to conclusions" and believe the first story that comes to mind, consider other possibilities that could lead you to new, empowering choices and actions.
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FRONT PORCH READING:
BREAKING THE RULES
Removing the Obstacles to Effortless High Performance
by
Kurt Wright
CMP Publishing 1998
Every noteworthy, BIG, success has taken place when someone has gone against the crowd - the crowd is always wrong.......so says the author of this book. Very cool book that pushes the reader to not just think 'outside the box', but to blow it up while you're outside thinking about it. He focuses much time on allowing what some call their heart, their intuition, or simply their 'gut' to steer them into effortless high performance. A great read. |
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Thanks for sharing your 'second cup' with me, my good friend!
Looking forward to our next time,
Mike Malinchok, CPC
President S2K Consulting, LLC
www.s2konpurpose.com |
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