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If I think I need a relationship in order to be complete, then I am seeing myself as incomplete. The world is guaranteed to see me as I see myself. The world will respond to me as I call upon it to respond. It will see me as incomplete and give me an incomplete experience of life. And the people I draw to me as partners will be people who are drawn to an incomplete person. This means that they, too, are looking to be completed by someone else and have determined that I am that one.
It's easy to see how this will play out. Everything might be hunky-dory for awhile, until both parties begin to notice they no longer are feeling fulfilled by the other (because no matter how good it felt in the beginning, it's going to wear off and then we see what's really there), and, noticing this lack of fulfillment, we'll either start demanding more from our partner, or torturing our partner for withholding what we need, or begin looking elsewhere for the true love of our life, because obviously I made a mistake thinking it was this one.
So what should we do? We find completion within, in our relationship to Totality, there in our least excited state. We do the work to know ourselves as fulfillment, to know ourselves as perfect, whole and complete, and from this place, the universe responds to our wholeness, bringing to us someone who is an appropriate reflection of the fulfillment that we are.
Today I will insist on enjoying life, instead of seeing what I lack as reason not to enjoy.
Palm Trees, Studio City
All material copyright Jeff Kober
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