October 20, 2008 
 Soul Food Newsletter
 Women Nurturing Women
In This Issue
Quick Links


Join our mailing list!
sue120
Photo by Kevin Krayna

I try not to wait until Sunday to write this newsletter. I generally try to have most of it done by Wednesday, but the past week was a little crazy, so I am sitting out on the deck enjoying this incredible weather since we don't have too much of it left. At least until the Packer game comes on!

With the election and the economy and our everyday concerns about spouse and children and parents, it's hard to keep on track and remember the important things. For example, I was at an all day conference yesterday. When I got home, everything was fine. But I got up this morning, after sleeping in, to find out there was no milk in the house, which meant no coffee. That made me very cranky! So I went to my local King Sooper, figuring I could get coffee at Starbucks, a rare treat, and do the grocery shopping. I was not happy to discover a water pipe had broken and Starbucks could not give me a cup of coffee either! So then I was even less happy! Silly thing to get upset about.

So to put things in perspecitve, especially for me, here is some Advice from an Owl

  • Stay Focused - that's a tough one these days!
  • Be "Hoo" You Are
  • Trust in a Wise Friend
  • Live Off the Land
  • Glide Through the Dark Times - sound advice
  • Be Observant
  • Life's a Hoot - always remember to enjoy the little things!

And now that I have had coffee, I am a happy girl. I hope that you have plenty of milk for the week.

 Freedom of Speech.
 But with responsibility

The Constitution of the United States, especially the Bill of Rights, is without a doubt one of the greatest documents ever written. It guarantees many of our most basic rights. The First Amendment guarantees the following:
  • Freedom of Speech
  • Freedom of Religion
  • Right to Peaceably Assemble
  • And The Right to Petition for grievances


However, I believe it is important to be responsible with your words, even though we do have the right to say whatever we please. So I am distressed with Sarah Palin's comments about Barak Obama "paling around with terrorists" and the Republican Party's Robo calls about this issue, one of with I received. William Ayers was indeed part of the Weather Underground in the 1960's. Ayers left the Weather Underground and was never charged with a crime. He is now a professor at the University of Illinois and involved in community organization. In this country one of our basic rights is the right to be considered innocent until proven guilty. William Ayers was never convicted of a crime, so therefore is innocent, so therefore is not a terrorist. Unless we want to go back to the McCarthy era, where accusation made you guilty.

But what has bothered me most is the lack of responsibility in making such an accusation. Is it that Palin and the Republican Party do not understand that racism is still alive and well in this country; that there are people who are mentally unstable enough to act on these accusations and make an attempt on Obama's life? At McCain rallys cries of "Kill Obama" have been heard. What if someone acted on these cries? What would that say about us as a nation?

Some people are also under the assumption that Obama is a Muslim. He is not, he belongs to the same Christian denomination as I do. But then again, some are saying that Obama is not the "right" kind of Christian, so neither am I, I guess.

But what if Obama was a Muslim? The First Amendment allows freedom of religion, it does not mean the United States is a Christian Nation. Someday, there will be a African-American president, someday there will be a woman president and someday there will be a Muslim president. Will there be the same false accusations against these candidates 10 or 20 years from now? I hope not. I hope we grow-up as a nation before then and accept responsibility for the words we speak. Wouldn't that make it a wonderful world?


 


 The Stock Market.
 Resist the fear

If you wonder what it is like to be bi-polar, look at the stock market; manic one day, depressed the next. I find myself watching the numbers everyday to see what is happening. But I have stopped being upset by what happens each day.

The ups and downs of the stock market have to do with fear. Why are we so afraid? I can understand if you are retired or near retired that you are worried. I fall into that category, too. We have lost half of our assessts, but it's only real when it's in your hand, otherwise it is on paper. But there are still many safeguards in place to prevent a total collapse of the market, such as happened in 1929. True, there has been a lot deregulation, but the most important safeguards are still in place. Over time, the stock market continues to go up. Perhaps at little more slowly and cautiously now.

If you listen to financial experts, most of them say the stock market has been overvalued for several years and this is an adjustment. If you follow Suze Orman, she believes the market will bottom out at about 8,000. Jim Jubak says the market will continue to be volatile, so hold on! But it will go back up.

But the point is that things will eventually get better, it's just a question of hanging on until then. So do what you have to do to make it though. Be careful how you spend your money, or even invest. I now own a tiny amount of ConocoPhillips and General Electric; me and Warren Buffet. But don't let fear control you, you control the fear. Look at your blessings, your health, your family and your friends. With those things, you can get through anything, including this financial crisis.


 


 I Have A Dream.
 A lesson in visioning

Yesterday, I had the privilege of attending a conference with Dr. Joan Borysenko on spiritual guidance. That conference will provide much for this newsletter. During the conference, for the first time, I saw the whole "I Have A Dream" speech by Dr. Martin Luther King. I was almost nine years old at the time Dr. King gave the speech. I never saw the whole speech until yesterday, but thanks to YouTube, it's possible. I was impressed by a number of things.

First of all, Dr. King was speaking at the Lincoln Memorial in Washington DC. I was amazed at the number of people who marched that day, both Black and White. Dr. King invoked the fact that President Lincoln signed the Emancipation Proclamation in 1863, saying that they were standing in "the symbolic shadow" of the man who freed the Negro from slavery. He stated the facts that people of color were still marginalized, still on "islands of poverty", and that the Constitution and the Declaration promised freedom to all men. He went on to say that "now is the time" for justice.

Secondly, I was amaze at how clearly Dr. King stated what he saw as injustice. But he did it without anger, bitterness or hatred. He was very clear that violence was not the way to achieve equality. And that we, whether black or white, are together as a nation and what affects one group affects the other.

Dr. King spoke about what was not acceptable; that in the South, there were still signs that said Whites only, that Blacks were not allowed to vote in Mississippi and that Blacks were not allowed in some hotels.

Then Dr. King spoke about his vision, the dreams that he had. It was so clear as he spoke, that he dreamed of equality for all, of brotherhood for all, that people would not be judged by the color of their skin but the content of their character, that Whites and Blacks would join together in unity. Sadly, Dr. King did not live to see his some of his vision become reality. How far we have come as a nation in 45 years! And how far we have to go.

The whole point of this is to help us achieve our dreams and goals. This is what I learned:
  • Know the facts of my situation and state them clearly
  • State the facts without anger or bitterness
  • Know what my dream is
  • Be very clear stating my dream

Only then will I be able to achieve, because I know exactly what I want. It's like being in school. It's very clear what you have to do to graduate, what courses you have to take, what grades are required and even what paperwork you have to fill out to graduate. So I'm going to be as clear about my dreams as Dr. King was about his. And I hope I live to see my dreams become reality.


 


 Sue McCullough Counseling
 Go The Distance...Because Passion Takes Time

I will use authenticity and integrity to illuminate your path of self-discovery as you find and act on your passion. I will reframe situations and see alternatives to help you overcome obstacles and enjoy the journey.

My specialties include

Mental Health Issues:
  • Anxiety
  • Trauma
  • Depression
  • Crisis Intervention
  • Secondary Traumatic Stress
Personal and Career Coaching:
  • Spiritual Growth
  • Quality of life improvement
  • Creative Coaching in art, writing and music
Women's Issues:
  • Midlife personal and professional changes
  • Transition back into the workplace
  • Mother-daughter relationships
  • Infertility and adoption
Adolescents

Psych-K - a dynamic paradigm for change.

700 Front Street, Suite 204
Louisville
303-665-2676
Hours by appointment.


 


Grace and Peace,

 
-
-
One Complementary Life Coaching Session.

What do you want out of life? Present this coupon and we will talk about it together and come up with a plan. Dare to live the best life you can.

-
Offer Expires: 12/31/2008
-
 
-
-
One complementary Psych-K session.

Discover the power of Psych-K! You don't have to struggle to make changes in your life. Present this coupon for a complementary session and make the change you want to make.

-
Offer Expires: 12/31/2008
-
Email Marketing by