March 16, 2008 
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Spring is on the way. I have noticed the tulips on the south side of my house are starting to come up and the trees are starting to bud. I love this time of year. Everyday is a reaffirmation of life as the plants begin to grow and turn green.

Did you try to observe the total lunar eclipse last month? I did. I was outside with my binoculars watching the event. It started a bit hazy, but I could still see the shadow crossing the moon at about 7 PM. I went out about 20 minutes later and I could not even tell where the moon was. Much to my dismay the weather report was correct and it was a cloudy night. Finally at 8, when the eclipse was suppose to be full, I gave up and decided there was no point in checking anymore.

I was up early the next morning and walked to the end of the driveway to get the paper. And there, just above the mountains, was a beautiful full moon, the very same moon I had been unable to see just nine hours before!

How quickly circumstances can change for all of us. Life continues to take us in different directions when we least expect it. And in my life, I have decided to take a break from Soul Food until September at least. I will continue to send out the newsletter. I will also be sending out a survey in the next couple of weeks. I hope you will take the time to respond. In the mean time, I am going to be building my practice, becoming a better singer, learning piano and enjoying life. I hope you will also do those things you enjoy most.

 Summary of - "Daring to Tackle Difficult Conversations" with Stephanie Roth
 

Relationships are difficult at times, but Stephanie Roth had some great insights for us at our last Soul Food luncheon. Improving relationships is about tweaking, not heavy lifting. Honesty is very important in a relationship as lying is the most insidious form on stress in a relationship. But did you know that withholding information is a form of lying? And the longer you withhold something, the harder it is to be honest. So speak instead of carrying a grudge!

But also listen. As soon as we are making something up, we are not listening. There is a difference between what you can see, think and feel about a situation and what you can make up. I may notice that you have told me you can't go shopping with me. I could start imaging all sorts of reasons you said no, from you don't like me to you don't have any money to spend. But while I was making up reasons, I wasn't listening to you. To communicate effectively, it is necessary to let go of judgements and start just listening.

How do you tackle a situation when you are angry? First is to honestly express your resentment and anger. Resentment is always about you and generally from a situation that occurred a long time ago. Once you have been brave enough to speak about what is upsetting you, then you can have a honest conversation to process feelings and begin real communication.


 


 Let Your Light Shine and Others Will Shine Too.
 Lessons From a Movie.

For a recent family movie night, we watched Akeelah and the Bee, a fabulous movie about an eleven year old girl with a gift and love for spelling. At first, she doesn't want to acknowledge her gift. There are too many other things going on in her life. Her mother is supporting the family after the death of her father and her brother is in a gang. But as she learns to honor her gift, she finds love and support she didn't know she had.

I was struck by a quote in the movie. This quote has been attributed to both Nelson Mandela and Marianne Williamson, but I have never heard the whole thing before. It goes like this:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous. Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that's within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

What would happen if we made manifest the glory of God within us? Would that glory rub off on other people? Would we live in peace and harmony with those who looked differently or believed differently? Would we care about our environment and stop global warming? Would we cherish all life? I believe embracing our power and the God within us would change everything. It would change the world. And then what a wonderful place it would be.


 


 Taking Risks.
 Lessons From Football.

As you may know I am from Wisconsin, and that means I am a Packer fan. On March 6, Brett Farve, arguably the greatest quarterback to play the game, decided to retire after 17 years and one of his best seasons. He holds seven NFL records:
  • Passing yards at 61,655
  • Passing attempts at 8,758
  • Pass completions at 5,377
  • Touchdown passes at 442
  • Career wins at 160
  • Career starts at 255, 275 including playoff games
  • AND INTERCEPTIONS at 288


What?? 288 interceptions? Yep, that's right. If Farve thought he could get the football to Donald Driver, Robert Brooks or Antonio Freeman, he threw it. Sometimes the football found an opposing player. When he threw an interception, most of the time Farve laughed at himself and shook his head. To him football was fun and there is no other player who had more fun playing football.

What would have happened if Farve hadn't thrown all those interceptions? I don't think he would have set all those records. He dared to take a risk, which is what made him great. And he had fun doing it. If we want to be great at our chosen endeavor, we must take a risk. What if we fail? That's okay, because the more you risks you take the more you learn and the more you succeed. And don't forget to have fun and laugh at yourself. Beating yourself up will only bring you down.

Will another quarterback top Farve, like Farve topped Marino and Elway? Maybe, but only if he is will to take risks and throw those interceptions.


 


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