Interview with Marshall Rosenberg on Empathy
Question:
"What is the Definition for Empathy?"
Rosenberg: "Empathy, I would say is
presence. Being present to what is alive in a person at this moment, bringing
nothing in from the past. The more you know a person, the harder empathy will
be. The more you have studied psychology, the harder empathy will be. Because
you can bring no thinking in from the past. If you surf, you'd be better at
empathy because you will have built into your body what it is about. Being
present and dealing with the energy
that is coming through you in the present. It is not a mental
understanding."
Question: "Is it speaking from the
heart?"
Rosenberg: "What? Empathy? In empathy, you don't speak at all.
You speak with the eyes. You speak with the body. If you say any words at all,
it's because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some
words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the
connection to with what's alive in you."
Oct 18-Berkshires:
How can I be present with people in the way I truly want
to be present? What is it like to be
an Empathic Presence? How can I "use Nonviolent Communication" without
sounding formulaic?
In this next NVC basics workshop, we will learn and practice
4 non formulaic steps to Being an
Empathic Presence:
Pure
Presence: What prevents me from staying present to the other person?
Identifying habitual thoughts and emotions that come up inside me and
prevent me from Being an Empathic Presence
Connecting,
without formula or agenda, to the
other person's experience of what is happening-
Connecting
with what is deeply alive in the other person, by guessing their feelings and needs
Asking
them if I have understood what is important to them- making connecting
requests.
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RAISING
CHILDREN COMPASSIONATELY
PARENTING WITH NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION
WORKSHOP
SUNDAY NOVEMBER 1
12:45-4:45 ACCORD, NEW YORK
Anjali Space Yoga Center
2909 Lucas Tpke, between 213 and the south end of Lucas
with Roberta Wall
Cost: sliding
scale- $45-$100 (please offer what supports your joy in this process)
TO
REGISTER: info@anjalispace.com or 845 246 5935
"The decision to parent with NVC is grounded in a commitment to nurturing trust and connection within the parent-child relationship.With NVC parents can experience compassion both toward their children and toward themselves, express themselves with power and care, find strategies for daily living that are more likely to meet everyone's needs and increase trust that everyone's needs mattter, even when we do not find strategies to meet everyone's needs.
By transforming parenting, parents can participate in raising a generation of children who have models for living peacefully and compassionately, and who have the skills and consciousness needed to contribute to a peaceful society."
Inbal Kashtan, Bay Area NVC
What is our true
purpose as parents?
With Nonviolent
Communication (NVC), developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, we learn to model and
teach younger children that their needs matter and, as children grow, we
help them learn how to ask for what they need in ways that are not at the
expense of their well being or their connection with others, or at the expense
of other people's needs.
The NVC parenting model is Life Enriching and Life
Affirming as opposed to the model that is either excessively permissive or
based on domination. This means that with NVC we identify and value what is
important to everyone in the family, and learn skills, consciousness and ways
of expression which reflect this value. This builds trust and communication,
and creates the possibility for parenting that reflects the values of
compassion and honesty.
In this workshop
we will learn an alternative to getting down on yourself when you are less than
"the perfect parent" and communication skills and consciousness
to use in the family that model the peace, communication and
respect you want for the world.
Roberta Wall lives in the beautiful
Hudson River Valley of Upstate New York and travels the world coaching families,
couples, individuals and organizations and facilitating workshops and retreats
in Empathic and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as developed by Dr. Marshall
Rosenberg. WWW.STEPS2PEACE.COM
Cost: sliding
scale- $45-$100
TO
REGISTER: info@anjalispace.com or 845 246 5935
Rosendale, New York
Natural Compassion
New Weekly Series: Four Wednesday evenings
beginning October 28 , 7- 9pm
with Barbara Bash
Sky Lake Lodge, 7-9p.m.: register online at www.skylake.shambala.org
Poughkeepsie:
There is an NVC practice group in Poughkeepsie that meets every Monday evening
at 6. This group has been ongoing since last winter and is welcoming new
members. Contact Ralph Stein, at steinralph07@gmail.com
or 845 590 7997.
NewPaltz:
Susan Reeves continues to host two pracice groups a week! www.practicingpeaceNew Paltz.com
Year long NVC East Coast Mediation Training- let me know if you are signing up for this!
5-Day Residential Retreats & Immersion Training Program with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon:
Developing skills for conflict resolution, "mediating your life" and becoming a trainer-practitioner of NVC mediation
We can transform conflict into connection, and there are learnable skills
to be able to do this. Our collective human survival and well being
depend upon our ability to transcend conflicts and find ways to work
together to solve the pressing challenges humanity faces.
First retreat: January 14-19, 2010
This January retreat is open to people who want to attend a single
retreat and may or may not choose to continue on with the immersion
program.
Info and Registration: gcarroll@rcn.com
Private Sessions/Coaching/Mediation: contact Roberta to schedule : info@steps2peace.com
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