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April 2010
Greetings!
 
The NY Center wouldn't last long without our volunteers and this month we want to thank you all.

I hope you'll enjoy this month's profile of Katie Cole, volunteer mediator. Katie shares some of the reasons she volunteers and what she gets back.

What do you get back from the volunteering you do?
- Editor
In This Issue
Meet Katie Cole
Mediating in Housing Court
April 2010 Headlines
On My Mind - Dom's Wanderings
Meet Katie Cole, Volunteer Mediator

Katie Cole
Katie Cole

Volunteers often say they receive benefits worth more than what they give. For example, many attorneys volunteer in mediation centers to sharpen their skills for use in their practice. Katie Cole, though, was a mediator first and her "second career" as an attorney grew out of her commitment to mediation. So, what does she get?

"I grew up in a dictatorial household," says Katie, "Discovering mediation was life changing for me -- learning that disagreements don't have to have verbal violence. There are ways to disagree respectfully, listen and, whether or not we come to an agreement, we can deepen our mutual understanding."

Why travel from Manhattan to Staten Island to mediate?

Katie has been a volunteer mediator in several centers, some as far away as New Mexico, where she first learned to mediate. This transplanted Southerner says she makes the trip out on the Ferry because NYCID's CDRC is the best program she's seen.

"The trip is worth it because of how welcoming and encouraging the staff is. They are so respectful of the volunteers and clients, and that carries over into their other programs, as well.  I try not to miss the Spotlight Series and Practicum because I learn so much. They're really excellent."

"I find mediating life fulfilling," she continued. "Mediation informs my life. It's about me growing. Recently I was fortunate to participate in a mediation at one of NYCID's alternative schools - two kids who'd had to be pulled apart the afternoon before. It was remarkable to see them get into a dialog, to see the light go on when they discovered they had a simple misunderstanding. They said, 'Wow, we were going to have a physical fight and it was only a misunderstanding!' If only adults could learn that lesson so easily."

For Katie, seeing mediation work so well in a setting that is respectful and welcoming enriches her life. That's why she volunteers.

We're fortunate to have talented and caring mediators like Katie. We thank you all. If you're interested in training to become a mediator, contact the CDRC at 718-947-4035.
Introducing Mediation in Housing Court
SI Civil Court, Home of the Housing Court
SI Civil Court

When David Ramsey arrives at Housing Court on Monday and Friday mornings, it's crowded and noisy; babies crying, people arguing, others trying to talk above the din. Anxiety shows on many of the faces; people have a lot to lose here - often their home.

David, our associate mediation manager, has come to mediate, usually landlord/tenant cases, a process that may result in an agreement that will bear the judge's signature, but more often one that improves each party's understanding of the other's interests and realities, which makes moving forward, whatever the court ruling, more palatable.

Getting to Know Housing Court

NYCID has had a small mediation program in Housing Court for some time. Now, David's taking the first step toward putting a larger initiative in place. Despite his years mediating and "lawyer-ing," David finds housing court its own special world, and that, he feels, helps him see the process through the eyes of those before the court. He's now looking for volunteer mediators who would like to sign-on for some training in mediating housing court cases to join him.
David Ramsey
David Ramsey

"Yes," David says, "emotions run high, quiet space to mediate is often at a premium, but Judge Marina Mundy and her staff go out of their way to humanize the process. They've even hung beautiful landscape paintings on the courtroom walls to bring a sense of peace. They know that the anxiety people feel is heightened by the abstruse language and formal court procedures. Mediators can cut through that, listen and talk comfortably with people. That's why we're there."

Ask for Mediation Before You Go to Court

If you know a someone with a housing dispute brewing, tell them about housing mediation. The sooner the better, preferably before a conflict reaches court. To arrange a mediation session at NYCID's offices, call (718) 947-4035.

If you're a mediator and would like to consider mediating housing cases in Court or in the office with David, let him know. It will open up a whole new world of mediation for you.

April 2010 Headlines

NYCID's ACE Program collects more kudos
 
Supporting high school drop-outs and out-of-school, unemployed young people to get their lives together is no work for the faint-of-heart. Jennifer Saladis' team at ACE just received notification of their DYCD 3-year contract renewal.

That's the third recognition of the team's skills - the Department of Laborawarded them $221,000 in Recovery money (the maximum grant given), and New York Life Foundation gave NYCID a $25,000 grant, noting how impressed they are with ACE's close collaboration with the College of Staten Island, convincing ACE participants that a college degree is indeed attainable.

Jennifer says she's excited that that these resources have enabled ACE to add occupational training - Certified Nursing Assistants with internships at a nursing home and Hospitality training with internships at the Hilton Garden Inn and Hampton Inn and Suites - to the GED and counseling services.

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Michael R. Curley
Michael R. Curley
Welcome to the Board.
Michael Curleyhas joined the board of the NY Center. Michael is a financial advisor with Chase Investment Services and a native Staten Islander, born, raised, and stayed in West Brighton. He is past president of the Kiwanis Club of Staten Island, an active parishioner at Sacred Heart, and a great supporter of his wife Sharon, a family nurse practitioner, and their four children.

Thanks for joining us, Michael.

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Excitement is Building: On Wednesday, June 9, 2010, we will be hosting our annual "Celebrating Partnerships" auction fundraiser.

You could make a valuable contribution to our ability to constructive problem-solving, effective communication, violence prevention and intercultural awareness. 

Please consider taking a sponsorship, journal ad or contributing merchandise, memorabilia, gift certificates or any other items that would generate interest for the silent auction. Your generosity and support will help make this event a success and be acknowledged in our program, which will be given to over 200 people that will attend.  

For more information, contact Amy Lavelle,development associate at (718) 947-4121.


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ON MY MIND 
Dom's Wanderings
Dominick Brancato
Our editor and I were talking about Volunteer Recognition Month. I'd said I wanted to recognize our volunteer mediators in our newsletter this month. She asked whether mediators were the only volunteers contributing to NYCID.

That question led to this list of dedicated people. My heartfelt thanks go out to you all. Without you, none of the wonderful stories you read about here could happen.

To the 40 volunteer mediators, thank you for the over a thousand cases you handle each year, for investing time to continually upgrade your skills, for saving taxpayers and the court system many thousands of dollars each year, and for teaching clients that conflict doesn't have to be ugly or violent, that through mediation, they have a route to understanding and resolution.

Thank you to the volunteers who mount our fundraising events,including so many staff who volunteer after their workday ends. Putting on an event like our June 9 auction takes hours of planning, solicitation and legwork to raise thousands of dollars to keep our doors open. It takes special people to donate their time to do this work.

To the many businesses and agencies that supervise our student interns,thanks can never be enough for your commitment to giving these young people a healthy start in the world of work. We know that supervising an intern takes time and patience. You may not think of yourselves as our volunteers, but you give generously of your time and talent, without thought of recompense - the very definition of a volunteer.

To our pro-bono attorneys and the law firms you work for, thank you. We could never afford the amount or quality of legal support that you provide for everything from negotiating contracts and consulting on personnel issues, to representing us in the occasional distressing lawsuit.

And, lastly, my thanks to our board- a group of thoughtful and talented people whose guidance and support has seen us through challenging times. No executive director can claim a board more committed to providing our community youth development and conflict resolution services that meet such high standards.

These busy people carve time out of their business and personal lives day after day, giving countless hours. Where would we be without you?

Community benefit organizations are only as strong as their volunteer base. NYCID is indeed rich. The staff here joins me in sending you all a resounding THANK YOU.

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Dominick


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