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YOU "ARE" OR YOU "WANT TO BE" A LEADER. WHAT KIND OF LEADER? |
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Each of us has unique talents and abilities that will allow us to be effective leaders. Some are natural abilities. some were learned over the years and some are qualities that still need to be developed, for outstanding leaders are life-long learners.
Whatever your leadership role; at work, at home with family and friends, or in your community - you want to be brilliant. But what kind of leader is brilliant?
When thinking of brilliant leaders that I admire and want to emulate, I don't think of their technical skills. I think about the way they inspired and motivated me to be my best.
Who inspired and motivated you? What kind of leaders were they? |
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HOW DO THE MOST EFFECTIVE AND POWERFUL LEADERS ACT?
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I found the most effective and powerful leaders were not bold, forceful and demanding, although the ability to be that way at certain times is not only valuable but necessary. Those who were the most effective were the ones who had emotional intelligence. They knew themselves and how they naturally behaved, yet were able to adapt themselves to serve the needs of others and make others comfortable to be around them. The people around them felt appreciated, trusted and valued - and were motivated to go above and beyond.
Apparently, you can whip people into submission - but not into brilliance.
Forceful leaders (control/command) demand action and results. They get action accompanied by fear. They don't get partnership, straight talk, open communication or creative thinking. Around a commanding/critical style of leadership people can feel diminished and impotent rather than empowered and important. At time we all have questions about our worth. We often don't have the power to maintain confidence around criticism. Bold leaders are designed to notice what's wrong and criticize, but take for granted the things that are going well. Being committed to results, their treatment of others may be diminishing the results/limiting what's possible. To you I say, "Cut it out! It's costing you!" Brilliant leaders have discovered how to acknowledge what works and deliver critique in such a way that people can hear it and use it to grow.
Are you a forceful leaders who isn't brilliant at empowering others? Do you really want to produce more?
YOU MAY NEED A COACH
A little knowledge of how to empower others to do their best could ensure increased results.
E-MAIL
alex@committedtoyou.org
You may be living with or working with someone who is aggressive or control/command. You do many things right, but don't recall being praised or appreciated nearly enough or not at all.
Sure, you recall being criticized - and criticized often. Were you empowered to do your best or did you lose power and confidence? Did you begin to question your worth? And with lack of power and self-worth did you become less effective?
If you're one of those who has forgotten how great you are because you've spent too much time allowing criticism to diminish you:
YOU MAY NEED A COACH
IT WON'T TAKE MUCH TIME TO SEE HOW AMAZING YOU ARE AND TO BEGIN TO UNDERSTAND WHERE CRITICISM COMES FROM. YOU CAN RECLAIM YOUR POWER QUICKLY
E-MAIL
alex@committedtoyou.org
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The most effective leader I ever worked with was a VP of Marketing (hope you're reading this Bill). He was not the same as most of the other VP's in his organization. He was easy going, very personable - really nice. Everyone liked Bill. He was committed to making a difference and producing results, but he did so gracefully. His team not only met their goals, but surpassed them regularly. I had the privilege of working with each of his managers individually. When asked what they thought was the source of the team's success, each one of them said, "Bill trusted me absolutely. I felt like he valued me and that I made a difference. I would never let him down."
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"Remarkable leaders are remarkable people. They engender trust, create great teams, are innovative, have a vision, and are great communicators." - Jack Canfield | |
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WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO? |
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The only thing getting in your way may be your point of view - the one that has been developed from evidence gathered over the years - the one that absolutely knows you aren't capable of being a leader.
When I ask people what their faults are they answer quickly and with certainty. When I ask them what's great about them - well that's a different matter. So many great people have no idea about their greatness. You are special and have gifts that are unique to you. I've worked with enough people to absolutely know.
It's true that 18% of the population ignore all criticism. They are arrogant enough to think they're "the best" and if anyone is insufficient it isn't them. The rest of us gather evidence for our lack - we give power to the criticism and believe that we are the ones that are insufficient. Give me one month to transform your limits - to have you "know" how great you are and what a contribution you have to make. After one month, if you don't see new possibilities, I will give you your money back.
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