Alexandra & Associates
Power Bytes
January 2010
2010 brings with it many possibilities.  Most everyone I have spoken to is excited and looking forward to a "REALLY GOOD YEAR".  I am too. 
What do you want to accomplish this year?  Are you serious about your goals? Are you certain that this isn't just wishful thinking?  Day dreams are nice - but day dreams don't present with enough motivation and power to generate the results. There's no commitment to get those things done.   So release yourself from the upset that comes when you fail to accomplish what you thought you wanted to accomplish and tell the truth about what you are really committed to doing this year. 
About those commitments, skills, strategy and action are essential.  There are things that need to be done to ensure you accomplish your goals.  In fact if you Google "how to accomplish goals" you will find 2,460,000 entries. 
  • I don't care how many of the right things you do - if you're giving away some of your power to negative points of view about yourself, about others, and about what's possible, there just won't be enough of you left to do what needs to be done in a brilliant way. THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS.  TAKE IT SERIOUSLY.  YOUR POINTS OF VIEW (CONSCIOUS OR UNCONCIOUS, ARE THE SOURCE OF WHAT'S REALLY POSSIBLE).
  • If you have a point of view that there aren't enough hours in the day, I promise you will not get all that you have on your to-do list done.  You will be right about "too much to do, too little time".  THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS.
  • Bob's son is a fabulous tattoo artist.  He has a point of view that suffering is the source of his creativity.  He has evidence that he can only be creative when he is suffering.  Is the experience the source of the point of view?  Or is the point of view the source of the experience?  I know thoughts become things - I know what I think.  What do you think?  THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS.
  • If you've had experiences that diminished your confidence and left you with questions about your worth, you're operating on 4 instead of 8 cylinders.  YOUR BELIEFS ABOUT YOURSELF, AND NOT WHAT'S SO ABOUT YOU, ARE THE SOURCE OF WHAT'S POSSIBLE.
 Invest in a DISC values and behavioral profile and I guarantee you will "know" just how special you are.   I'll see to it.   Alex:  561-742-2779 
If you've given away some of your light because you're holding on to resentment and anger, gathered "with reasons" from your past experiences, you're blocking the FULL POWER THAT IS YOU.
As someone who is Influential in Behavioral Style (High I in the DISC™ profile) - I really want people to like me.  I don't like dis-harmony and want to get along well with everyone. Only 28% of all people have this behavioral style.   Also, I have high Social Values which means I am passionate about contributing to others and would dearly love to save the world.  My purpose in life is to have everyone know how extraordinary they are, to heal suffering, and to fill the world with as much love as possible. I've also had lots of training, and two years of seminary exposed me to the power of Forgiveness.  By design, I forgive easily.
But each of us is unique, with our own behavioral style and values.  Each of us is designed differently - and some of those designs include holding grudges and resentment.  That's fine.  To each his own.   But what's the cost?
I have a cousin who can appreciate that I don't hold grudges, but claims that she can't be "generous" like me.  For her, forgiveness is sourced by my generosity to others - others that from her perspective, don't deserve to be forgiven.  I disagree.  I believe that forgiving is part of my way of being, and if I'm giving anyone a gift it's a gift I am giving to myself that's beneficial to others as well. 
"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."                                                                                                                                                                                       -  Catherine Ponder
  • When forgiveness is given you will find yourself liberated and returned to peace and love.  A huge amount of light becomes available that was covered over with resentment, anger, bitterness, even hatred. More of you will become available to generate what you are committed to.
I imagine you know people like my cousin who say that they are unable to release anger and blame.  They boldly declare "what they did to me is unforgiveable! I will never forgive them!"  You may have said it yourself.
Well, they did what they did.  You suffered then, and I find it amazing that you are willing to continue to be suffering about it to this day.  From my perspective you are giving up a piece of your heart, you are sacrificing your own joy and your light, because you'll be darnned if you'll ever forgive them!! 
You're right, They don't deserve to be forgiven.  And, you'll go to your death being right.
Nearly all of us have been hurt by the actions or words of another.  Your mother criticized you.  Your partner had an affair.  Your boss took credit for your work.  You were laid off after years of great service.  The wounds can leave you with feelings of anger, bitterness, and even thoughts of revenge. But if you don't practice forgiveness, you will be the one who pays most dearly.  
  • You will be living in the past.
  • You will endlessly be recycling and escalating the anguish from the past.
  • You will ensure the absence of peace.
  • You will be living in judgment of others based on your interpretation of what happened.
  • You will eliminate the possibility of knowing it's only your interpretation and recognizing that "your" interpretation is the source of your feelings.
  • Your heart will be filled with anger and hatred.
  • Compassion, understanding and love will not be possible.
According to Katherine M. Piderman, Ph.D., staff chaplain at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, forgiveness can lead you to physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.  I know that's what is most important to you.
Forgiveness is not forgetting what happened to you.  You may never forget.  It's also not condoning what the other or others did.  You can forgive the other person without excusing the act. 
There's significant evidence that holding on to grudges and bitterness results in long-term health problems.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, positively impacts physical and emotional health and well-being.  Forgiveness allows for healthier relationships and improved psychological well-being, etc. etc.  Google it.  Check it out.
"Don't worry about "how" to forgive.  If you are worried about "how" you might never commit to the act of forgiving.  Just make the commitment and trust your billiance to create ways to forgive."                                                           - Dave Ellis 
If you find you are unable to forgive - you are suffering (not the other).  Get some help.  ISN'T IT TIME TO FREE YOURSELF SO YOU CAN FEEL GOOD?
 "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner is you." 
                                                                                                             - Lewis B. Smedes
Your coach is a very important person in your life. 
As your coach:
I will ensure you become clear about your unique and special gifts.
I will help you to clear away the clouds that are stopping you from soaring - from being the person that in your dreamy moments you "know" you are - or at least you wish you could be.
I will partner with you to see the brilliant sun that you are so clearly that even when you stumble, as human beings do, you will get up quickly, and get on with the life that you "KNOW" is possible - the one that you are meant to live. 
You will replace all grudges and resentment with understanding and forgiveness.
You will be confident, powerful and passionate about the future that is right for you.



Knowing is  not enough, we must apply.

 Willing is not enough;  we must do.........
                                                                                                           - Johann Wolfgang Van Goethe
You're being asked to do something.  It's simple. 
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