Alexandra & Associates
Power Byte
April 2009

Last month, after completing the Power Byte about being happy, I immediately began to wonder - what next?  I knew that even those who had great attitudes and were happy people. had a deep desire to be fulfilled, to be working on something worth working on.  It is interesting that many of the conversations I had this month pointed to the fact that while there was a "belief" there is something special each of us is supposed to be doing, some special purpose for being alive, many had absolutely no idea what that was, nor exactly how to find out. 


I too believe that we each have a purpose for being here. I believe that we came specially to fulfill that purpose.


Each of us is unique.  Each has our own natural gifts and talents and something special to offer.  I also believe that up to the moment we start wondering what we're doing here, what's the meaning of all of it, everything that has already happened  is meaningful. What I mean is, when you consciously begin to seek your purpose, you'll realize that everything that has already occurred has been purposeful.


It's up to you to decide if the time has come to get clear about your life purpose.  And if so, it's up to you to declare boldly, that you have a soul-print, a special reason for being here; and you're going to find out what it is. 



"This is the true joy in life, the being used for a

purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one;

the being thoroughly worn out before you are

thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of

nature instead of a feverish, selfish, little clod of

ailments and grievances complaining that

the world will not devote itself to

making you happy."


-George Bernard Shaw



I beg you not to get caught up in Shaw's words "mighty one".  A mighty purpose does not have to be ending world hunger, getting the British out of India, or getting a man to the moon if you get my drift.  Let me tell you a story.


In 1978 I decided that I was here to transform lives - to help people to be all they could be. Beside the fact that I had so much satisfaction and joy when I worked with people, I thought that was a pretty lofty and important purpose. I have to admit that I had a point of view about the "worthiness" of my purpose.  I felt pretty good about me!


A cousin of mine passed away in 1992 so I travelled to Montreal to attend the funeral.  As a young mother Esther had lost her husband and had spent most of her adult life, a single Mom,  bringing up her four children.  When they were out on their own she worked as the Director of Volunteers for a Geriatric Hospital until she could no longer work - and because of ill-health, and lack of mobility, spent the last years of her life apartment bound. 


Her grandchildren gave the eulogy. They spoke of their grandma's extraordinary cooking and baking. They shared about the little freezer she kept in her bedroom closet and with tears streaming down their faces said that whenever they visited she sent them home with their favorite foods which she had lovingly prepared and frozen for them. They loved her so much.  She had made such a difference for them.  They were going to miss her, but she had left her legacy and they would never forget all she had done for them. They were cherish her memory and her recipes forever. 


It was so touching.  On top of the fact that it moved me to tears, I began to see what a mighty purpose she had.  She had spent her life nurturing those people she loved with special focus on the way that Jewish people often gift their loved ones - with food. 


It took me time and serious thinking to move from the idea that I was wasting my life.  I wasn't staying at home to cook for my children and grandchildren.  I was out supporting other people's children.  But soon it became clear.  Esther had fulfilled her purpose, and I was fulfilling mine.  We both had "mighty" purposes.


Good chance if you discover your purpose and your life is consistent with the fulfillment of that purpose, you will be "turned on, motivated, and joyful", but even if that weren't the case, you would be doing what you came here to do.  And as far as I can tell, sooner or later, you will be called upon to do what you came here to do.  If not now - when?

G-d has given each of us
our "marching orders."
Our purpose here on Earth is
to find those orders and carry them out.
Those orders acknowledge our special gifts.
-Soren Kierkegaard
There is a way that you're meant to be and something special you came here to do.  What are they - and what's your purpose?  The rest of this Power Byte is designed to help you begin the process of finding that out. 



The American Heritage Dictionary defines the word purpose as:


"... 1. The object toward which one strives or for which something exists; an aim or goal...2. A result or an effect that is intended or desired; an intention."



Someone said, "Where there is purpose, there is energy. Actions directed toward a compelling purpose will create a powerful momentum that lines up events and circumstances in your favor."



I say, "Knowing your life's purpose will give meaning to your life, help you to make large and small decisions, and keep you motivated even in tough times.  It will help you to choose the people you spend time with, the goals you set for yourself, the activities you take part in, and even more importantly having a clear purpose in life helps you to know when to say no."


When you know what the aim or goal of your life is and you're given an offer that doesn't support it, or won't contribute to it, then what's called for is "thanks but no thanks".


Your purpose in life should be big enough to include all that you want to be, do and have in life. 


Next month we will be looking at writing a Personal Mission Statement that will include all that you want to be, do and have.  For this month, we are looking for one a one sentence statement - your purpose. 



There is no formula that will work for everyone.  Life Purpose is a very personal thing.  It takes looking deep inside.It may take a little work. It may take some time.  You will have to explore the past and ask yourself some questions.  Just take it from  me,it will be worth it.  It's so much easier to include all the disappointments and challenges that have come my way              because I have a purpose in life and regardless of what occurs I absolutely know there's more.  I'm not done yet.

In order to begin to discover that one powerful statement that will include it all, ask yourself the following questions:


  1. What are the things I love to do?
  2. When have I been happiest?
  3. What feels good?
  4. What am I doing when "time flies"?
  5. What do I value most?
  6. What do people appreciate most about me?
  7. What am I really passionate about? Most often people find that their purpose includes that which they're passionate about.
  8. What are my strengths? (Check out the StrengthsFinder test in StrengthsFinder 2.0/ by Tom Rath)
  9. What are the causes that are most dear to me?


Is there a cause that you care deeply about that you could use a strength of yours to impact?  Have you developed that strength just so that you can make your contribution to this cause?


I know someone who is an extraordinary networker who cares deeply about a particular cause.  She could see that she wanted to bring people together to impact this cause.  From that thought it started becoming clear that her purpose may be to bring people together to do what is there to be done and can be used for any cause that she considers worthwhile.  She ended up with the following purpose:


"My purpose in life is to bring people together to make a difference in the lives of others."


Other possible Life Purpose statements are:


  • My purpose is to live, learn, love and laugh.
  • My purpose is to release suffering and serve others.
  • My purpose in life is to love and be loved.
  • My purpose in life is to have a great time and to laugh a lot.
  • My purpose in life is to create prosperity for myself and for everyone I come in contact with.
  • My purpose is to live my life as thought each day were the last.
  • My purpose in life is to have people discover how great they are.
  • My purpose is to contribute to my family's well-being.
  • My purpose is to be a catalyst for growth.
  • My purpose is to be a healing presence in the world.
  • My purpose is to be financially independent and raise happy, healthy children.


Spend some time and write your Life Purpose statement. 



"Look and you will find it - what is unsought will go undetected."

Together we will find it.

Discovering your purpose will bring you joy.

Living your purpose will bring you satisfaction.

And you can do that now!





Purpose serves as a principle around which to organize our lives.
He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.
-Friedrich Nietzsche
Many people have the wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness.  It is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
- Helen Keller
The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find their greatest happiness in using it.
-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Good luck is another name for tenacity of purpose.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Great minds have purposes, little minds have wishes.
-Irving Washington 

The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose
Richard Lieder


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