Alexandra & Associates
Power Bytes
November 2008

Thanksgiving is such a wonderful time of the year. It's a great time for getting together with family and friends and feasting on turkey, ham, sweet potato pudding, stuffing, gravy, and of course pumpkin pie.   And then there's the buttery mashed potatoes, the green bean casserole, andso on and so on.



Thanksgiving is really much more than just the time for a delicious feast. 


I can remember a beautiful Thanksgiving celebration at the home of dear friends in Rochester, NY.  That year there were about 35 of us. The food was amazing.  Most every one I know has special dishes that they make at times of celebration and BJ and Turk were no exception. The food was memorable.  But what was even more memorable was the time we spent giving thanks for all that we had been blessed with that year.  It was a joyful time.  It was a time to stop for a moment and realize that no matter what, no matter the personal challenges of each person present, there was much to be grateful for.  To begin with we were grateful for the opportunity to celebrate together.


Thanksgiving is such a wonderful time to show our gratitude.  And we all have so much to be grateful for.  I know that these are challenging times for many of us, and still we have much to be grateful for, and many reasons to express our gratitude.   


In 2001, Stephen Post, PhD, professor of bioethics at Case Western Reserve University's School of Medicine, created a research group called the Institute for Research on Unlimited Love (IRUL).  It was dedicated to testing and measuring the effects of love and other positive caring emotions in human life.  His studies showed that love-related qualities-like gratitude-actually make people physically healthier. 

        Gratitude can play a major role in our emotional and physical well-being.  It has been found to lower blood pressure, reduce depression, and make people happier.

        Just 15 minutes a day focusing on the things you're grateful for will significantly increase your body's natural antibodies.

        People who express thankfulness to others are people we want to be around.  They are letting us know that we're valued.

         In the workplace, when someone expresses gratitude for what we've done, we feel appreciated and want to do our best work.  We just don't want to let that person down.

Gratefulness, appreciation, and thankfulness are all synonyms for gratitude.  Gratitude is recognizing that what you have, what you were given, or what you have experienced has value.   


Stop right now, right this moment, and choose to let go of everything that needs fixing (your husband, your wife, your children, your parents, your siblings and their spouses, your finances, your health, your shadow, your inner child, your body, your boss, your friends, the economy, the government, etc. etc.) and just enjoy this moment - and this one - and this one.  Why not stop reading for a few minutes and simply be thankful.  Be thankful if someone cares about you.   Be thankful for the food you eat, the sun that shines, the people that love you, the people you love, your pets,  the clothes on your back and the shoes on your feet. And most of all take a moment to be thankful for the unique and wonderful person that you are.


I wanted to add a little video to remind us of how very fortunate we really are, and I watched many deeply touching ones, seriously touching ones, beautifully touching ones.  Then I opened this one and I began to smile, then I began to laugh.  What better gift can I give you all at this glorious time of Thanksgiving, but a smile and perhaps a laugh.  I sure hope you enjoy this as much as I did.  And before you connect to it, put on your dancing shoes.




An attitude of gratitude comes from focusing your attention on what you have.  It comes from thinking of the things in your life that bring a smile to your face and bring feelings of joy to your heart.  It may be as simple as feeling the sun shining on your face.  Develop an attitude of gratitude. 

Spend some time looking for a small stone/rock or object that you find appealing that can become a symbol of gratitude for you.  Find something that's small enough to keep in your pocket and touch it often to remind you of all the things you are grateful for.  I have two gratitude rocks.  One is in my wallet and each time I go to buy something it's there to remind me of how grateful I am.  I have a larger one in my office and while I'm doing my work I look at it and remember how grateful I am to be able to work with amazing people like you.

Begin a gratitude journal and gift yourself with time at the end of each day to capture all the things you are grateful for.  You will be amazed to discover that this one activity will bring you a never-ending supply of thoughts of more things to be grateful for.

By focusing your thoughts and attention on the abundance that is already present in your life, you will shift your energy to a positive vibration that will automatically and effortlessly attract even more to be grateful for.

May this Thanksgiving be a joyful experience and may it be the beginning of a year filled with much to be grateful for
 Albert Schweitzer:
"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person.
Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us."   
"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful."

Eric Hoffer:
"The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings."

H. U. Westermayer:
"The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving."


Many of my clients love to write.  So many others have told me that they feel they have a story in them.  I'm inviting you to share a story about gratitude with me.  Writing stories about gratitude is a joyful thing to do. 
The most inspiring story will be included in next month's Power Byte and will be sent out to hundreds of people.
The writer will be gifted with a Gratitude Journal to support them in having 2009 be "Their Best Year Ever."

Alexandra Marcovitch
Alexandra & Associates
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