It's here again. Goal setting time. We get geared up, we look at all the things that aren't working and remind ourselves of all the things we need to accomplish; eat better, make more money, acquire more stuff,
finally fit into the skinny jeans we've been saving, exercise, achieve, achieve, achieve. We each have different ideas on what it is we want to be different in the new year but we all share the challenges that come along with making it happen. Let's face it, if it were easy, we would have achieved it a long time ago. If it were easy, we wouldn't be ready to give up by February.
I believe it's important to go deeper with our goals. Figure out what's behind our aspirations. Often, a feeling of worthiness is ultimately the underlying motivation behind many of the goals we set for ourselves. If we achieve ______, we'll be more important, liked, prosperous, respected, etc.
What if this year, we decide we are already worthy. We are valuable regardless of our accomplishments and extremely important apart from things like weight and financial contributions. Happiness is a choice that we make in spite of outside circumstances.
What if this year, we focused most on taking personal responsibility for who we will be each day and how we will show up in our families, work place and communities. How about placing emphasis on strengthening relationships as a partner, spouse, parent, daughter, son, co-worker, employer, employee and/or friend. In controlling our thoughts and reactions, we will come to understand how it supports our quest towards external goals, as those come easier when internal harmony exists.