The sixth step in the Journey to Divine Wholeness is to notice the events that "trigger" you.  The moments in which you replay the movie snippets of your life that don't resonate with you any longer.  We all have them.  Those moments in our day to day when we get frustrated, upset, angry or impatient.  Maybe you get upset with someone in your family or maybe it's a complete stranger.  In that moment, ask yourself why.  What is it about this moment that is upsetting to me?  Why is it upsetting me?  What will happen if I choose a different attitude?

The key is noticing...always.  Noticing when you feel that surge of contraction in your body.  You are no longer physically open.  You are contracted.  In that split second when you feel like you could completely lose your temper or cry...ask yourself why?

Maybe you are rushing to get somewhere.  Maybe you get impatient waiting in the bank line.  Who do you remind yourself of in those moments?  It's ok..you can say it.  You aren't going to get in trouble.  You aren't judging yourself.  Admit it...you have taken on behaviors and trigger responses from your family.  But guess what....you aren't your family.  You aren't your dad, your mom, your aunt, your sibling, ...you are YOU.  And you have control over your responses.

The secret is to notice, without judgment.  You've go to lose the judgment.  Be open to authentically seeing who you are, who you have been and who you are becoming.  Begin noticing, with compassion that those moments were just moments in time.  Instead of reacting like you always do, stop, breathe and evaluate.  What do you want to be, do or feel instead?

These are the moments given to us for Divine growth. The most chaotic and painful moments are those in which will allow the most powerful growth. 

When you wake up in these moments, how do you react?  Why do you react in this way?  Can you stop it?  How would you like to react?  What would be more in alignment with who you are now?  We are all here to grow and change so know that you are always growing into who you were meant to be.  It's a lifelong process so be patient and take your time.