MMM: On Simply Deciding

"You wander from room to room hunting for the diamond necklace that is already around your neck." ~ Rumi

Okay, just to be up front, this quote doesn't actually have to do with "simply deciding", but it came across my email today and I absolutely love it so I had to share it . . . in case you were wondering.

So, what's the big thing about making a decision? The big thing about making a decision is that it puts the power back into your hands. Consider these two statements:

"I wonder if I can".

"I can."

One leaves the energy outside of you. The other claims the energy for itself.

Which one is a more powerful place to come from?

Sometimes we are afraid to make decisions, we think, because we are afraid we will make the wrong decision. But I think we're afraid for a different reason.

I think we're afraid to make decisions because we're afraid of our own power. There is a lot of power and force in the act of simply making a decision. And who wants to take on that kind of responsibility?

But the thing is, in not deciding, decisions are made for us. We live our life in "default". And pretty soon we're complaining about feeling taken over by the circumstances in our life. By our relationship, by our government, by our boss, by our commitments.

But it doesn't have to be that way. We can take matters into our own hands. And in fact we are the only ones that can.

Nothing is as empowering as making a decision.

"Maybe I will finally get out of debt this year."

"I will be debt free by the end of the year".

If these statements came from two different people, which one would you guess is going to be out of debt by the end of the year?

But I'll tell you why this person will be debt free. It's because the one thing that gets the universe's attention more quickly than anything else, is clarity. When you are clear, the universe lines up situations and events to help bring everything to fruition.

But we have to do our part.

Making a decision is making clear what we want. It's singular. It's directive. It creates flow and it ignites energy. The other is loose, open, like a sieve. Energy can seep out in different directions leaving everything to chance.

Or consider this example, in the case of personal challenges:

I want to do better (or I will try to do better)

Vs.

I will do better, because I can do better.

Which is stronger? You decide.

So, what's my point? Well, it came from my personal challenge last week. I loved the conversation with my friend because she reminded me of what I already knew, which is what I'm doing here (you know this stuff . . . I'm not telling you anything new).

I realized that I did not have to be a victim to my own limiting thoughts. And even though I was in expansion mode (trying to practice what I preach), I was also in fear, which is the perfect place for limiting beliefs to welcome me.

And then I simply had to decide. Would I be a victim or Victor of circumstance? Would I allow myself to succeed or to fail? The decision was in my hands. No fate was going to be determined from outside of myself unless I let it.

So I made the decision.

"I can" and "I will".

And so can you.