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Recently I was on a phone call with Brad Yates and although I know this to be true, when he said it, it caused me pause and forced me to reflect again. He said (and I'm paraphrasing) "To the extent that we are not living our lives exactly as we want, with the love and friendships we want, the abundance we want, and the happiness we are seeking, is to that extent that we are resisting it."

 

It's that word again "resistance". What does it mean? What do we do about it?

This week we explore. 

 

"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine."     

Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you are a follower of Abraham-Hicks material or listen to Wayne Dyer or anyone else talking about law of attraction, you know that the key reason we don't get what we want is "resistance".
 
But, just what IS resistance? And how do we get rid of it?
 
Essentially, resistance is any thought, belief or behavior, either conscious or unconscious that stands contrary to our desire. 

On the surface, we can be doing positive affirmations, creative visualizations and imagining our success. But in the end, we get what we expect. Every single time.
 
Sometimes it can be as simple as not believing that you can have what you want. Something in your thinking has placed limitations, a ceiling, a cap, if you will, on what is possible for you. You are restricting what "could" be, with what you think "will be" (and you end up getting what you expect). 

Your consciousness is a powerful tool. If you have hidden, secret or unconscious beliefs about yourself, your health, your wealth or your success, where you don't believe you can have the thing you desire, it shows up as "resistance", despite all the things you are doing to achieve your goals.

Okay, so, what to do about it? 
 
Live in the possibility rather than the probability. Remember that as it is asked, it is given, every single time. So the reason anything is not showing up in your life, is because in one way or another you are not yet lined up with it (i.e. don't think it's possible, don't think you're worthy of it, don't think you can have it, etc.). And this is not because you are bad, or because you are not doing it right, or because you are "mis-creating" in some way. It's none of that. It's simply that the time isn't right for you, YET. 
 
Until then, this is a good time to take the opportunity to "grow yourself". 
 

Here are a few helpful ways to deal with resistance:
 
1. Be honest with yourself. Awareness is always key. Be clear on how you participate in the reality you continue to experience. Ask yourself: What limiting thought, belief or pattern of behavior am I currently holding onto, that is standing in the way of my desire? What story do I keep telling myself or others that affirms the current position I'm in? What part of the equation am I participating in that continues to net me the same results?Because the truth is, you are ALWAYS living your predominant vibration (or your unconscious expectation). Becoming aware of your "status quo" will give you the first clue on where your work lies. Take 100% responsibility for being the powerful creator that you are.
 
2. Stay out of self-judgment. Just like in the acorn lives the potential of the oak tree, that which you are seeking is already within you. None of this is a game to the finish line. Instead use the resistance to point you to areas that need "clearing".  Use it as an opportunity to become more authentically who you already are. Nothing is outside of yourself. Everything comes to you along your own path, as you are ready. So, prepare yourself and be open to receive.
 

3. Do what you can do something about. Let go of what you have no control over. Sometimes becoming aware of your repetitive patterns is all that is required. But other times, we need to take additional action. In the Course of Miracles, they say there are only two emotions: Love and Fear. If you are in a place of resistance about something, look for the fear behind it and find a way to dissipate it. Meditation is one way, but so is arming yourself with knowledge, telling yourself a different story (i.e. stop scaring yourself), making phone calls, getting into action, etc.  
 
4.  Focus on something else. Distract yourself and do what brings you pleasure. Sometimes resistance comes as a result of focusing on something too hard or wanting things to change too quickly, or wanting it to come in a certain package. In this case, we get in our own way. A lot of times when you distract yourself or focus on something else and just allow the universe to deliver it to you in your perfect time, with the least resistance, it comes a lot faster.

Why does that happen this way?

Because when you're thinking about the thing you want, and why you want it so badly, the resistance (belief, frustrations, thought, feeling or unconscious beliefs) is usually present at the same time. When you distract yourself entirely, and think about something else that pleases you, you're in much more of a relaxed place of allowing.  And the universe can bring it to you with the least amount of resistance.

 

This is why people who fall in love, finally drop the extra weight they've been trying to lose, or get the job promotion they've been wanting. They are in a place of most allowing.  Remember, things are delivered to us on our path, most of the time, pretty effortlessly. But we have to get out of the way and feel worthy of receiving them. That is our work. 
 
5. Look for stories that help you change your expectations. And repeat them often. Make them your new mantra. Instead of "it never happens for me" it becomes "if it can happen for them, it can happen for me". They're out there. They're easy to find. Ask the universe to give you proof that what you want is possible and then take notice of what comes to you - in billboards, the books people hand you, the article you happen upon, the people you meet.

We often compare ourselves to where people are and don't pay attention to who they were before they got there. There are plenty of rags to riches stories. Joe Vitale was homeless before he became a multi-millionaire. Eckhart Tolle got all his epiphanies sitting on a park bench as well. And then published them. Jack Canfield was a school teacher. Look for the story that most resonates with where you are and let that be your new possibility. If it can happen for them, it can happen for you as well.

It's a known fact that in a marathon, it's not until someone breaks the record, that everyone else, in short order, makes the same timing. Why? Because in that moment, their expectation of what was possible, changed.
 
So, in other words, rise yourself above your own limiting thoughts, notice what stories and beliefs you continue to tell. Become aware of the ways you might hold yourself back from your desires and then let them go.

Let them all go.
 
This is the work, . This is the only work. This is the work involved in releasing resistance.
 
And the rest of the work? (because it can't be that easy, right?)

The rest of the work, , is to surrender to your NOW reality, enjoying the "life" out of it, literally. Bask in the glory that is your moment. Savor the experiences that continue to add to your life. And seek joy! Abraham-Hicks states that the optimum place of creating is "Happy with what is. Eager for more".

In other words, the key to letting go of resistance, is letting go of the expectation that you're supposed to be anywhere other than where you already are, right now. 

Things will change soon enough, . And they will find you along YOUR path, as you are ready. But until then, enjoy here, now.

 

And prepare yourself to receive. 

                                                                                        

If you have comments or would like a topic addressed in a future Monday Morning Memo, feel free to share your thoughts: sonya@omfreely.com

JOE VITALE
 

A couple months ago I co-produced a teleseminar on Secrets of Lasting Financial Wealth and one of our speakers was Dr. Joe Vitale. I would think he needs no introduction, but in case you haven't heard of him, his many qualifications include being a certified metaphysical practitioner, a certified Chi Kung healer, a certified hypno-therapist as well as an ordained minister and a leading proponent of law of attraction which you may have heard him talk about in the movie "The Secret". 

The reason why I mention him is because he is someone who has turned the art of creating into a science.  And actually, after listening to him speak on our call, I was rather impressed by him.

 

If you want a dose of Joe Vitale and are ready to move into Manifesting Change and Beyond, check out his programs:

 

Beyond Manifestation

 

He also is an avid car collector and created a whole program around that too.

 

The focus is on Attracting a New Car, but the technique applies to anything.


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BRAD YATES 

If you want to get rid of any emotional barriers that stand in the way between you and what you want, EFT is one of the quickest routes to "freedom".

 

Brad Yates, "Emotional Freedom Technique" Practitioner known as the EFT Wizard

 

As Brad says, "It's an abundant universe; a limitless universe and the extent to which we are not experiencing that which we say we want in our life is the extent to which we are resisting it. That resistance comes from our thoughts, or our limiting beliefs and they actually show up as blocks in our energy system. Through tapping on the meridian points, we can actually clear those blocks and experience freedom." 

If you want to check out any of Brad's programs:

 

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If you struggle with beliefs around money and want to change them, he has a very powerful program he developed with Joe Vitale, from the movie The Secret. The program is called Money Beyond Belief

If you have struggled with weight loss or body image, he developed a program on this as well. It's called (not surprisingly)  Body Beyond Belief

 

NEW PROGRAM OFFER: Brad just came out with a new program this week, called Confidence Beyond Belief.On this one he partners with Master Hypnotist, Steve G. Jones and together they combine their best talents to put forth a program that promises to positively boost your confidence level (at a minimal cost)!

 

 

I highly recommend any and all of Brad's programs. 

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