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Greetings!
As the end of summer approaches another school year begins. Our baby is now a little girl, my little boy is becoming a young man, and our high school daughter (Lyndsey) is a "legal adult" and moving to Manhattan next month.
Just mention Lyndsey's name and you can see the sheer joy and pride in my wife's eyes, as well as the heartache of her moving away. It's hard for her to even watch the Walmart commercials of a mother shopping for her daughters dorm room without getting emotional. It's not easy to watch and not try to fix things as her husband and a healer.
My overwhelming urge to help fix her pain is overridden by my experience. It tells me to let the natural course of emotions be felt and dealt with at her own pace. It's important to know when to be a supportive friend rather than an unsolicited advice giver.
Over the last twelve years, helping people balance physical, emotional and chemical stress I can say with absolute certainty that it takes strength & courage to deal with change.
In order to attain a higher level of consciousness we will have to experience a large range of emotions and choose what emotion(s) we would like to experience on a regular basis.
It is not wrong to experience anger, grief or sadness. It's just not healthy to get stuck in these negative emotional ruts. If you are having difficulty breaking out of these patterns and want some help please let me know.
I will apologize in advance for the length of the newsletter, but I feel the information can help a lot of you reading this.
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Law of Forgiveness
-Esteb
If it's true, as I believe, that the cause of many diseases is unresolved emotional issues, then certainly a common culprit is unreleased anger and resentment. What is so ironic is that these emotions are self-created; they are choices we make based on our own emotional reality.
Since they are self-created, it makes sense they can be self-destroyed, which is the purpose of forgiveness. Forgiving someone who you believe has wronged you is for your benefit not theirs! Even the scriptures are clear about this self-righteous indignation: forgive those who have wronged you before expecting the blessings of God. Don't allow the sun to set on your anger.
If you desire to be healthy, rather than merely feel better, learn about the Law of Forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't condone or approve of the behavior. It merely releases the emotional charge that's been given it.
Whom do you need to forgive?
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Steps for forgiveness
- Watkins
Below are steps to creating forgiveness when you have caused harm or offense to someone... The best and simplest way is for the offender to acknowledge his or her offense and work to repair the damage.
1. Accept your portion of responsibility - You are not a victim. You have choices. Your emotions, words and actions are within your control. Accept the fact that, regardless of your reasons for doing what you did, your actions or words caused pain for someone else. If you blame others-if you have to be right all the time, you will sacrifice relationships and your own happiness. That being said, the other person, whether through instigation or retaliation, may have offended you as well. Set that aside temporarily. Let them take responsibility for that later if indeed they are going to do so. Don't make your maturity dependent upon their level of maturity. You take responsibility for what you did or said. Let them be responsible for themselves.
2. Describe what you did and how it was wrong and/or hurtful - Provide enough detail to let the other person know you actually understand what you did and how it was wrong. Admitting wrong too easily or generically implies that you are merely attempting to pacify the offended or escape punishment rather than do the right thing.
Describe how bad you feel for what you did to them - Make sure you are seeking forgiveness because you feel remorse for the pain or harm you caused, not just because you got caught or because the consequences for your actions proved painful, inconvenient or humiliating. Pursuing forgiveness insincerely will only work to further undermine the other person's trust in you. Say you are sorry, not to merely obtain absolution; say you are sorry because it is the right thing to do.
3. Realize repair may not be possible - Depending on the circumstances, you may not be able to obtain forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift, not an entitlement. You don't deserve forgiveness merely because you are sorry for what you did. And if the person never forgives you, you have only yourself to blame. At times that is the cost of making mistakes. Sometimes asking forgiveness would bring additional, unnecessary grief into the offended's life. It may be the most caring thing not to ask forgiveness, out of concern for the offended's privacy or personal life.
4. Don't explain why you did what you did - Explanation of your thinking or actions only negates your apology and ends up sounding like self-serving rationalization. Resist the urge to explain. Your explanation doesn't matter to the offended. All they care about is whether you are sorry for the pain you caused them; i.e., whether you care about their feelings. Explaining yourself says you care more about you than about them, which gets you nowhere.
5. Commit yourself to ensuring you will never repeat the offense - This doesn't mean just "trying to do better next time." Real change takes real sacrifice, not comfortable, miniscule, incremental changes. Tell the other person your plan for change, or if they don't want to hear it, go write it down and implement it on your own. Employ the help of friends to make you accountable for your following through on your plan.
6. Follow up your words with actions - Better to have not made a promise at all than to make one and not keep it. Actions speak louder than words in relationships, so make tangible, measurable steps toward your goal of ensuring you will never repeat the offence.
7. Make amends where possible - If you are truly sorry for hurting, insulting, or inconveniencing someone, you should be willing to make it up to them. If they are willing to accept your amends, do what is needed to make things right. If you stole, replace the item you stole; if you hurt someone physically, pay for their medical costs; if you caused someone hardship, reimburse them for their time, effort or frustration, and do so with no strings attached. And be honest with yourself as to when making amends might just make things worse. Allow the offended the right to refuse your amends.
8. Ask for honest feedback and support - It's as if you are admitting an addiction and asking the offended to let you know when they notice you falling off the wagon. Though it is not their responsibility to force you or nag you into changing, they may be willing to assist you by reminding you when you need a fresh perspective. This is, of course, predicated on your willingness to listen and learn from their input.
9. Seek outside help when necessary - If you find yourself unable to make the changes you want to make, seek out assistance from others who are trained in the field of change. Whether a pastor, a therapist, a psychiatrist or a trusted friend, find someone wiser than you who can help you develop the tools you need to change yourself. It is the fool who only seeks out his own advice. Be humble enough to acknowledge that you are not an expert in everything. Even experts need expert help from time to time. |
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If you are in your first phase of care with us you will notice as we transition you into the second phase and the long term correction of your spine and body we will be recommending CORE strengthening exercises. And pilates is a fantastic work out.
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10 Tricks for Losing Those Last 10 PoundsBy Whitney Provost
At the start of a new fitness program, you clean up your diet and hit the workouts, and the weight seems to fall off. But when you get down to the last 5, 10, or 15 pounds you want to lose, the scale may suddenly refuse to budge. You might be tempted to drastically reduce calories or increase the amount of time you spend working out. Don't do it. Instead, here are some simple tricks to help you lose those last 10 pounds.

Cutting calories too low will cause your body to think it's starving, and it will hold on to the fat you're trying so hard to lose. Working out longer will cut into your personal time and probably won't help you drop those last few pounds anyway. Instead, try making these tweaks to your program.
- Clean up your diet. Once you find a diet that works for you, stick to it. Researchers at Tufts University followed 160 people on four different weight loss plans and found that the type of diet participants were on didn't matter as much as the participants' willingness to stick to their diets. If you've been dieting for a while, you might have become a little lax with your food choices and portions, so tighten them up again. To lose those last pesky pounds, stick to unprocessed foods (the kind that don't come in a box) and choose lean protein, vegetables, fruit, and whole grains. Keeping a food journal will help you track everything you eat and get your calories under control.
- Cut out some carbs. A simple, short-term trick to losing weight is to cut back on carbs until you're at your goal. Eat lean protein and vegetables at every meal and limit carbs to before and after your workouts, and you'll probably see the scale shift rather quickly. Easy, low-carb meal ideas include egg-white omelettes with vegetables, Whey Protein Powder shakes made with water, salads with lean protein (chicken, tuna, or turkey), and grilled or broiled lean beef, poultry, or fish with vegetables.
Bump up the intensity of your workouts. No matter what workout program you're doing, you will lose weight faster if you kick up the intensity. Jump higher, squat lower, and increase the weight you're lifting to burn more calories, rev your metabolism, and stoke the fat-burning fire. Whether you're working out to Slim in 6®, ChaLEAN Extreme®, P90X®, or any other program, you'll bust through a plateau by putting out more effort when you exercise.
- Change your exercise routine. If you've already increased the intensity of your workout program and still find that your weight loss has slowed, it might be time to try something different. When you perform the same exercises over and over, your body becomes more efficient at them. As a result, you use less energy and burn fewer calories. By starting a new fitness routine, you'll shock your muscles, reignite your metabolism, and get the scale moving again. Check out Beachbody.com to find the workout that'll take your weight loss to the next level.
- Stand up. Researchers at the Mayo Clinic found that lean people spend two more hours per day on their feet than overweight people. Participants in the study who stood, paced, and fidgeted burned as many as 350 extra calories a day and were much leaner than those who didn't move as much. Get up from your desk at work, talk on the phone while standing, and stay on your feet in waiting rooms-the simplest effort will yield an extra calorie burn that may help you shed those remaining pounds.
Eat a little less. When your body gets smaller, it requires fewer calories to function properly. A 165-pound woman who works out three to five times a week may require 2,300 calories per day to maintain her weight, but the same woman at 125 pounds may only need 2,000 calories for maintenance. Trying to lose additional pounds in your lighter body means cutting back a little more. You do not need to make radical changes, however; if you're already increasing the intensity of your workouts and eating a clean, whole-foods diet, you could probably see the scale move with a modest 100-calorie reduction per day.
- Zigzag your calories. Cycling your calories, also known as zigzagging, is the process of eating more on certain days and less on others. If you always eat 1,800 calories, try eating 1,500 calories one day and 2,000 the next. As long as you create a weekly deficit, you should see the pounds drop. Much like shocking your muscles into working harder by introducing new exercises, it's possible to shock your metabolism by zigzagging your calories.
- Drink more water. You may not realize how important water is for weight loss-it's not just a tool to help you eat less. Being properly hydrated will balance your energy levels, which allows you to exercise with intensity. (Have you ever been so thirsty during a workout that you couldn't perform as well as usual?) Drinking enough water may also increase your metabolism and promote muscle building. A well-hydrated body can more efficiently repair and build muscles. On the other hand, being dehydrated encourages muscle breakdown. So drink up, especially since you are exercising regularly.
Relax. Believe it or not, you may be trying too hard to lose weight. If your workouts are very intense and your diet is too strict, you could overtrain and burn out. Your mind and body will just not respond in the same way when they're tired. Muscles need rest to repair and grow, and sometimes your brain needs a break from constant calorie counting and worrying about the last few pounds. Instead of becoming frustrated and diving into a box of cookies, try to relax and reduce the intensity for a little while. You may be surprised to find the scale moving again when you give your mind and body a rest.
- Reevaluate your goal weight. First, congratulate yourself on getting to this point. Losing weight is not easy, and you've already accomplished a great deal-so enjoy your success. The next step is to ask yourself if the "magic" number on the scale is really the best weight for you. Perhaps you've lost fat and gained a lot of muscle; your new hard body might be healthier and happier with a few more pounds on it. Many people want to weigh the same as they did in high school or college. What if you're much more fit and muscular now than you were in those days? You may realize that the number on the scale today is perfect for you.
Remember if you slip up forgive yourself and get back on track! | |
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