Lately, I've been questioning whether singles who are members of online dating sites really want to meet someone and create a real relationship that goes from online to offline, or just spend time hanging out in cyberspace.
It appears that many daters are suffering from a relationship syndrome called ODF, the acronym for online dating fatigue. It can also be defined as IDF, Internet dating fatigue.To friend, or not to friend? This question comes up all too often from singles I'm coaching when they first start dating someone new.
My advice is always a firm no. Not just yet.
Just as athletes get muscle fatigue, daters do get online dating fatigue.
In my coaching practice, I meet singles and divorcee's who are already fed up with the process. There are several reasons why I believe they're suffering from ODF, and am here to provide some suggestions and online dating tips that just might wake you up from the exhausting process.
1. You're tired of logging on and coming up empty handed.
You go to the gym three times a week, meet your friends for drinks twice a week, and spend an hour a day logging on to your online dating account to view photos of eligible singles. You hand pick 10 men or women to write to and take the time to personalize the subject line. The result is, no one ever writes back. You don't know why they weren't interested, wondered if they had an inactive profile where they couldn't read your email, or were testing the waters with a few others and would consider you for the future. You diligently send emails more often-than-not, and still wake up to an empty inbox. It's discouraging, I know. You feel like it's a chore.
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