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| by Expert Copy Strategist, Charlon Bobo |
Another inspired week is upon us. To empower you with direct resources to increased, measurable results, this week's features include:
Charlon Bobo is the founder and team leader of EditCopyProof | Wordsmithing and Editing Solutions -- Transforming Words Into Profits. Proficient in many diverse writing roles, her expertise spans more than 25 years. This solid foundation offers you a single and final destination in your quest for extraordinary press-ready services including copyediting, copywriting and proofreading. Visit us TODAY at EditCopyProof to submit your Request For Proposal. |
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| Charlon Bobo |
Female Entrepreneurs Ask... I loved the reference in your UNnewsletter about setting boundaries, but how to I do this without being called or considered a bitch?
Answer: The best thing you can do for
yourself is redefine your ideas of being a
bitch and make peace with it. In other words,
embrace it.
I bet you thought I would give you suggestions for changing the behavior and thoughts of others. I could, but it would be a colossal waste of my time and yours. People are going to do what they do, think what they think, and say what they say... regardless of what you do, think, or say. So, let your light shine so brightly it is blinding and be okay with offending others, if that's what happens I mean, it has to be okay with us that others consider us to be so threatening that they resort to calling us names! People have a need to label and categorize because it helps them make sense of things. The intent of this article would be well-served if I dig into what's behind the need for someone to call someone else a bitch, or even have the thought. That's a tough one because the reasons are myriad based on the person, but here are some guesses:
Here are some pointers on what to do the next time you're called a bitch: 1. Don't deny, defend or explain. This erodes your personal power and does nothing to convince the other person you're not what they say or think you are. Let it be okay that they have their own experience and perspective of you. What is the saying about, "He who protesteth too much...?" Who cares, anyway? 2. Be the model of self-acceptance. If you are at peace with yourself, others can learn much from you. 3. Maintain a state of calm. If you really want to throw them off, dig deep for all the dignity you can muster. When you get good at this skill, it is extremely unnerving to those who try to get a reaction from you. This exercise leaves 100% of the power with you. Very often, a bitch is someone who is simply taking care of her life business. Somehow others find that a threat. How did THAT happen? I dunno. It's a stumper, but we can build our muscles and not take things personally. Remember: It's never about you! It's always about the person in front of you and the filter through which they see you and all of life. There's likely nothing you can say or do that will change their opinion. That's okay. You're not here to make everyone understand you. You're here to do your life's work and remaining true to that mission means they may call you names... like bitch. So, you see it's not about anything needing to change except your own mindset. Great, Charlon, it sounds so evolved and etheric, but what do I say in the moment? Here are some suggestions: Response 1: Bitch. Hmmmm. I can certainly see why you might feel this way. Response 2: That's an interesting label. I think you might be right! Response 3: I'm truly sorry you see me (or the situation) that way, but everyone is entitled to his/her perspective and I respect yours. Response 4: I am quite clear on boundaries. This obviously makes an emotional impact on you. I'm available when you'd like to discuss it further. Response 5: Yeah, I get that all the time. When women set boundaries, it upsets people. I'm okay with that. Response 6: I am a strong woman and that means others don't always understand me. I have no attachment to what others think because I am clear in my convictions. Response 7: What others say about me is rarely the whole truth. They can think what they like. Response 8: I have worked hard to be where I am and I'm proud of that. I cannot allow the insecurities of others to wear me down. Response 9: Powerful women have been a threat throughout history. This is just another attempt to control me and "keep me in line." That's just not going to happen! As you can see, setting boundaries has less to do with managing the actions of others than standing strong in ourselves. It's not easy, but it does get easier the more aware you become to the subtle attempts to dim your glow, and address those circumstances without hesitation as they arise. If you relate to the term, wear it proudly. If it doesn't resonate, toss is out like everything else that isn't a perfect fit for this perfect life experience. |
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The only way I know I'm providing services
you need is to hear from you. Feel
free to email me
anytime to
let me know your thoughts.
Until then, I have a specific question: What do you think about a regular schedule of 4-hour laser-coaching days (weekly? monthly?) with 15-minute and 30-minute telephone appointment times at affordable rates? I want to be more accessible to you and think this could work. With a reservation and payment, your appointment time is held exclusively for you. 15-minute session | $35 30-minute session | $50 There is no limit to what we can accomplish together. Maybe we focus on prioritizing or developing a plan for one small facet of business with big potential. Maybe we talk about how to market your new product line or increasing online sales. Maybe you need proven techniques or support and encouragement from someone who understands the complexities of entrepreneurship. Whatever your unique circumstance, we deliver results you feel good about because we cater our services to you. No cookie-cutter approaches here! So, email me your constructive thoughts about whether or not you would use this service. |
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| Charlon Bobo |
Clients who shine
I LOVE my clients. They are hard-working,
responsive, conscious and driven... boy, are
they driven! And they keep me on my twinkle
toes.
There are a few characteristics, however, of one particular client (you know who you are, girlfriend!) and the experience with her has taught me about being a better client for the pros I hire. Here they are:
Based on this list, are you a client who shines? |
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| Charlon Bobo |
Living the dream
I once overheard a conversation that changed
my life. I happened in Starbuck's between a
customer and an employee. The customer asked
how the employee was doing and he replied,
"Living the dream." He was sincere and I knew
he meant what he said.
You know how you don't know precisely why something happens, but you know that was only meant for you? That's what this experience was for me. I adopted this response and made it my own. When I say it to others, I am empowered. No matter what's in front of me, I'm living the result of everything I have felt, thought and said and even a few components of which I have no control. I'm living the dream. That doesn't mean I don't sometimes feel that I'm living more of a nightmare than a dream, but it's all a part of this soup called life. In Sisterhood, Light & Love, 
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