Greenwich Reform Synagogue Newsletter
August 1, 2012 Av 13 5772
 | July 28 GRS Summer Splash Party GRS Congregants Pamela Toper, Helen Stark, GRS President Robert Birnbaum, Wendy Schreiber, Jim Schreiber & Sandy Soule | |
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Friday, August 3
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Saturday, August 4
5:30 pm - Inspirica/St. Luke's
Friday, August 10
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Friday, August 17
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Sunday, August 19
2:00 pm - Brotherhood Summer Outing - Family Fun Day at Harbor Yard
Friday, August 24
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Friday, August 31
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Saturday, September 1
5:30 pm - Inspirica/St. Luke's
Monday, September 3
GRS OFFICES CLOSED IN COMMEMORATION OF LABOR DAY
Friday, September 7
6:00 pm - Shabbat Service/ Welcome Back BBQ
Saturday, September 8
9:00 pm - Selichot Dessert
9:30 pm - Selichot Service
Friday, September 14
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Sunday, September 16
8:00 pm - Erev Rosh Hashanah Service
Monday, September 17
10:00 am - Rosh Hashanah Service
2:00 pm - Young Family Service
Tuesday, September 18
10:00 am - Rosh Hashanah Day 2 Service
Friday, September 21
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Tuesday, September 25
8:00 pm - Kol Nidre Service
Wednesday, September 26
10:00 am - Yom Kippur Morning Service
1:00 pm - Yom Kippur Symposium
2:00 pm - Young Family Service
3:00 pm - Yizkor/Memorial/ Neilah Service, immediately followed by break fast.
Friday, September 28
6:30 pm - Shabbat Service
Sunday, September 30
9:30 am - 1st day of Religious School
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Torah Portion August 4, 2012
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Vaetchanan
(Deuterononomy 3:23-7:11)
Moses speaks to the people again about living by the mitzvoth, as well as warning them about idolatry and intermarriage in Canaan. Also included in the portion is "The Shema" and the Ten Commandments.
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 Happy Birthday to...
| Benjamin Wolff Jacqueline Jurik Gwen Weiss
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Tree of Life (Etz Chaim)

| Celebrate the birth of a child, the bar or bat mitzvah of a loved one, the wedding or anniversary of a cherished friend or family member, a graduation or a retirement through a permanent dedication on the GRS Tree of Life! Click here for more information and to place an order.
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Caring Community News
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Ronnie Gurney and Eve Goldberg are co-chairs of this committee. Committee members will be able to provide assistance to temple members in times of need and to celebrate with them in times of joy. If you know of an ill or hospitalized member, please contact the office at (203) 629-0018.
You can help us to help each other. We encourage the participation of volunteers to keep in touch with our members through telephone calls, visits, by sending cards, etc...If you would like to be a part of this committee, please contact Denise Cooper at denise@grs.org.
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GRS Staff
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Rabbi Andrew R. Sklarz, MA, MSW, RJE
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Cantor Sabrina Lipton
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Stephanie Glaser
Executive Director
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Lisa Gittelman Udi
Director of Education
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Clarita Agulay
Bookkeeper
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Denise Cooper
Administrative Assistant
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Corinne Morrell
Relocation Assistant
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Peter Babivskiy
Caretaker
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Shabbat Service Friday, August 3, 2012, 6:30 pm
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Please join Rabbi Sklarz and Cantor Lipton for a Shabbat Service at 6:30 pm. The service will be followed by an Oneg Shabbat.
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A Message from Rabbi Sklarz
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Congregational Life in Full Force!
Dear Friends,
Congregational life calls for the nurturing of our souls through worship, education and social action. However, the glue that binds all lies within the relationship between members. Last Saturday evening, thanks to the gracious hospitality of Jim and Wendy Schreiber, the tireless efforts of past president Helen Stark and Sisterhood president Pamela Toper,and under the auspices of the GRS Congregational Life Task Force Committee chaired by Cheryl Probst, a wonderful gathering of our GRS family, including new and prospective members took place. Although it was intended that the Summer Splash would include swimming, tennis and cocktails around the pool, Mother Nature had other plans. However, inclement weather could not put a damper on the GRS spirit as inside we all enjoyed delicious food, drinks, desserts and most of all one another.
Our evening drew to a close with the making of Havdallah, as we bid a farewell to Shabbat, and we owe a special thanks to Bob Stark for his accompaniment on the guitar.
How awesome it was as we stood arm in arm and shared this sacred moment together.
Yes, synagogue life must be grounded in Torah, but it is the fellowship of the members which brings Torah to life.
We look forward to you joining us for our upcoming events!
L'Shalom,
Rabbi Andy Rabbi Andrew R. Sklarz, MA, MSW, RJE
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A Message from Robert Birnbaum, President of GRS Board of Trustees
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Affordable, yes. Affordable and expandable, better.
The feedback from the question "affordable or transformational" has been thoughtful and consistent. Congregants favor the affordable route. But most also favor affordable with an option to grow later. Here are a few excerpted comments:
I am in favor of the affordable route for a new GRS . . .Experience leads me to strongly agree with you about going the affordable route. And it can probably be accomplished in a way that for minimal additional cost will allow for easy future expansion if and when justified. . . Affordable is the way to go, with perhaps a bit of aspiration built in. . . . My cousin is an architect, and his "claim to fame" is building in a modular style. In other words, build for what you need right now but provide spaces where it is easy to add on as needed . . . I believe we should build or buy a building that is both affordable and expandable . . .I do not think we should be put in a situation of being financially draining or in need of a great amount of fundraising from the congregation.
The maximum size we can build (both today and tomorrow) is a function of the land we buy. In Greenwich, size is governed by the Floor Area Ratio (FAR) rule. Suffice it to say that the allowable FAR on any given lot is a function of the lot size and the zone in which it is located. We also need to be able to provide parking on the site, and current regulations require one parking space for every three seats in the Sanctuary. Andrew Loebelson, working with the site committee, has prepared estimates of the square footage we need under various membership scenarios. We've arrived at a view that the site must permit at least 20,000 sq. ft. to meet our needs today. More is better, and around 25,000 sq. ft. or above seems to be a level that permits the sort of future expansion that the feedback comments above reflect.
For financial geeks like me, in theory we are bundling two distinct transactions-a " base purchase" of 20,000 sq. ft. of building allowable under FAR with adequate space for parking, and an "option" to build 5,000 or so sq. ft. more. Of course, the base purchase and option can't actually be separated-it's just one piece of ground-but still, we can think about it this way. Let's say, all things being equal, we had a choice between sites. Do we buy the hypothetical three-acre site that allows 20,000 sq. ft., or do we spend 33% more and buy the four-acre site? That extra 33% is the cost of the option.
Back in the real world, the site committee has researched at least nine sites so far. The committee, led by Sandy Soule, has scoured the market for properties, and the criteria has evolved as follows:
- Location: Reasonably central, reasonably visible.
- On town sewer and water line: The sizeable septic tank and field that would be required by both town and state regulations raises a host of obstacles. While less important, the need for a well increases other costs and concerns.
- Adequate FAR: At least 20,000 sq. ft.; more is better.
- Room for parking. The town has specific requirements for the number of spaces in relation to the seating in the sanctuary.
- Minimal wetlands: Impacts the amount of land on the site actually usable for building and parking.
- Engineering: Practically speaking, is the site buildable? Can we place a building with a footprint in excess of 10,000 sq. ft. on it plus parking?
- Other regulatory concerns: These include traffic studies, the anticipated the reactions of the Planning and Zoning Board, and so on. In this regard we are advised by our very experienced real estate attorney.
- Cost: Can we afford it? Is the valuation reasonable? What is it worth to us?
The good news is that progress is being made, and the search is very much alive. As soon as a property is found that meets all of the criteria, we will make a bid. If accepted, it will then be brought forward to the Board and Congregation for approval. Hopefully, this will happen sooner than later, but it's not a calendar-driven decision.
In other good news, Andrew Loebelson (thank you again, Andy) has completed negotiations for office space for GRS to bridge the period between November 2012 and the move to our new building. The offices are on the Post Road in Riverside, and besides accommodating Rabbi Sklarz's office and the entire staff, there will be room for Board and committee meetings, choir practice, music lessons with Cantor Sabrina, and other activities. This secures the final bridge sites GRS required. For details on the other sites, please see my "Greetings" letter in the blog archives by clicking http://grs.org/presidents-blog/presidents-blog/
I appreciate your interest and feedback. As always, feel free to contact me at robertdbirnbaum@gmail.com with your question, comments, and input.
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Tzedakah
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Thank you for your generosity...
Circle of Giving
- Sandy & Stephen Soule
- Janice & Victor Romley
- Louise & Stephen Salzer
- Linda & Bill Berliner
- Bran & Stuart Berni
A contribution to GRS is a wonderful way to celebrate joyous events and commemorate meaningful occasions.
If you would like to make a contribution, please send your check to GRS, 257 Stanwich Rd., Greenwich, CT 06830. For details on the giving opportunities available, please call the GRS office.
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Brotherhood Summer Outing Sunday, August 19, 2012 | | |
SAVE THE DATE!
The GRS Brotherhood will be holding its summer outing at Harbor Yard - Bridgeport, to watch the

Bridgeport Bluefish take on the Somerset Patriots.
EXTRA SPECIAL EVENT!!!!!! GRS' Cantor, Sabrina Lipton, will be singing
GOD BLESS AMERICA.
Also, it's "Family Fun Day" at
Harbor Yard, so bring the family to watch the Bluefish.
Tickets: $20 - in the Air-conditioned Harbor Club Game Time: 2:05 pm
RSVP: to Ken Greenberg at grsbrotherhood@live.com or by calling the GRS office (203) 629-0018. Tickets in the GRS block may be limited, so make your reservation as soon as you can. You don't want to miss this summer event!!!
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| Our Temple Family | | Congratulations to new members, Susan Chorney and Richard Lewine on their recent marriage. We wish them a long and happy life together!
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Selichot - Saturday, September 8, 2012
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Greenwich Reform Synagogue invites you to welcome the new Jewish year 5773. Please join us as we celebrate this beautiful evening.
- Hosted dinners at the homes of GRS members at 6 pm
- Dessert Oneg Shabbat at GRS at 9 pm
- Selichot Service at 9:30 pm
Let us know if you would like to host/attend a dinner by emailing denise@grs.org.
**For more information contact the GRS office at 203-629-0018.
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High Holy Day Schedule 2012/5773
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Give A Ride, Need A Ride
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|  Are you in need of a ride to services? Or, would you be willing to give someone a ride to services? If your answer to one of these questions is 'YES', please contact Denise Cooper at 203-629-0018 or denise@grs.org. |
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Around the Community
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Jewish Family Services of Greenwich is offering the following programs, support groups and volunteer opportunities (For more information or to register for any of the following, please visit www.jfsgreenwich.org or call 203-622-1881):
JFS Support Groups: (All groups $10 per session) - Mother and Me: A Discussion Group for Adults: No matter what you do - you just can't get along with your mother? You try to be understanding and patient but something just goes off in your head and you can't control your emotions. Come share your experiences, explore what triggers your reactions, and learn how to deal with it. Tuesdays, 12:30-1:30pm beginning April 3
- Adult Divorce: Wednesdays, 5:30-6:45pm
- Children (Grades 4-6) of Divorce: Weds., 4:30-5:45pm
- Children (Grades 7-9) of Divorce: Tues., 4:30-5:45pm
- Bereavement: Tuesdays, 10:30-11:30am
JFS individual adult, teen, child and family Counseling:
$150 per session, Sliding scales always apply
JFS Volunteer OpportunitiesBikkur Cholim/Friendly Visitors/Grocery Shopper
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Greenwich Reform Synagogue 257 Stanwich Road Greenwich, CT 06830 203-629-0018 203-629-0613 - fax
www.grs.org
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