What's The Benefit Of Being Big?
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When I first got to goal weight I went to Tesco to take back a CD that I had bought for Ethan that wouldn't play. I stood at the customer services desk and asked for my money back as they didn't have anymore in stock.
The lady looked up and said that she wasn't prepared to give me back my money and would only issue a credit as she didn't believe the CD wouldn't play as there were no scratches on it and it looked fine.
It then hit me like a brick!
She was arguing with me!
Nobody argued with me when I was big, when a 25 stone bald headed guy asks for things he usually got them and suddenly I was 13 and a half stone and weak....
I had lost my strength!!
Now the reality of course was totally different as I am a lot stronger, fitter and more able now than I ever was then but it made me realise that there was a benefit of being big.
And there usually is for people. They just don't look for them, as people just assume that the only benefit would be to be slim!
When I work with people 1-2-1 I ask them three questions...
The first is, what is the benefit of being slim?....
(Feel free to come up with your answers at this point)
Now hopefully they have a load of answers to why they want to be slim! Otherwise they probably wouldn't have come in the first place. I also ask them to state the benefits in the positive which tends to restrict the list down.
So for example
I want to be slim so I don't die is not the best motivator.
But
I want to be slim so I can achieve my life dream of running ten marathons is much better!
After we have covered the benefits of being slim, then I ask them
What's the benefit of staying big?
I would say 90% of the time the immediate answer is 'There is no benefit in being big!'
Then after some negotiation it is a very high percentage of people who do get a benefit of being big. Now, for a lot of guys, including me, it was about being perceived to be tough and untouchable, but for a lot of ladies especially it is about being invisible and not noticed.
But it can be other things. I worked with a lady who's husband only liked big women and therefore the benefit of being big was that he then 'fancied' her more.
After that question I then ask 'What's the benefit of not being slim?'
And again usually people think I am mad but after a chat they tend to come out with all sorts of revelations.
I stood in a course once when I asked the question to a lovely lady and she said the benefit of not being slim was that then she wouldn't have an affair....
So turning this to you...
Have you got five minutes? Grab a pen and write the three questions
1. Stated in the positive, what's the benefit of being slim? 2. What's the benefit of being big? 3. What's the benefit of NOT being slim?
As always you can mail me with the answers if you wish or keep them to yourselves but it is through self discovery and smoking out the motivations and benefits of why you do what you do that you can then start to make changes.
Cya Saturday! :-)
Mike
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