EAT or THINK ?
Which did you immediately think?
As Bill said in his mail to me, he immediately said EAT, but then realised that you are actually what you think.
And it is so true. I spend a lot of time working 1-2-1 with clients and those that truly believe that they are doing really well, that they are succeeding, that they are brilliant, happy, great and motivated, generally are!
But I then get people who believe they are destined to be permanent, professional dieters. That they are useless, a waste of time, failures, doomed to be fat and generally never get to goal and they are right!
My interest as a counsellor is to get to the bottom of why they think they can't succeed. Of course, if you have dieted over 20 years and done hundreds of diets and lost weight and regained weight and failed, then history tells you that this time will probably be the same!
The reality is that the next diet could be your last ever diet! It is now nearly four years since I dieted and I now don't diet at all. That would have been an alien concept for me when I was big. Even the thought of being slim was so remote, so unlikely, so unbelievable that I never thought I could actually do it....but I did!
And the sole reason I got slim is that I thought I could do it! I decided one day that I was going to look at life positively, I was going to laugh about dieting, I was going to be sarcastic and giggle my way to slimdom and I did. Every other diet I had ever done I did with a grumpy face and moaned about it all the time. I kept saying about what I couldn't have, what I wasn't allowed, how unfair that all my friends were slim and could eat what they like, how my metabolism was slow, how I put on weight by looking at a cake but because of all that I was always feeling sad, bad and down in the dumps! Because when I felt bad, I ate, it all went wrong.
So how positive are you about diet and your weight?
Do you dive on the scales with a smile or a squirm?
Do you choose your menu in a restaurant on what you can't have?
Do you really enjoy dieting, enjoy being slim?
Someone mailed me to ask me now I am slim is it a battleground everyday with food and the answer, the true answer, is not anymore! It really used to be for me. My life revolved around food and dieting, even when I first got slim 4 years ago I was living my life in total fear and horror of being overweight again...but if you fear something then you constantly think about it and therefore go back to it.
So, are you what you think? If I say now 'You are briliant, fantastic and a really nice person who is great'
Do you believe me? Do you read it and think 'No I am not!'
Because as soon as you become at peace with yourself then you will find that picking a diet that fits in with your lifestyle is actually much easier.
You can be slim, you can never diet again, you can live your life without worrying about food...you just have to think you can!
Have an amazing week (and remember to think you will!)
Mike ;-)
