Something I have noticed more and more is how people compare their bodies, their weight and their weigh loss/diet with other people. I did it myself where I used to get frustrated at losing two pounds in a week as someone in the office had lost four pounds.
But that is pure perception! At the end of the day, had I have thought that two pounds is actually two pounds nearer my goal, and that I was closer to being slim than the week before, and that it was all about me and me creating my own success, then I would have got there at 20 years old and not 32 years old!
Because, ultimately, if you want to be slim then it is all about you! Whatever diet you choose then my advice is to pick one that fits in with your lifestyle and then follow it correctly, as long as you are doing that then you can do no more! Being disappointed because other people are getting there faster will not help you in any way.
Remember, it isn't a race to get slim! All that matters is that you arrive in Slimdom and set up home there for good. If you have three stone to lose and it takes you 3 months or 12 months then, in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't actually matter.
I have seen people do fantastically well on a diet and because their spouse or best friend lost a pound more than they did they decide the diet doesn't work for them and they have stopped and gone and put the weight back on.
My advice, therefore, is never to compare yourself against other people. I was very lucky in that I lost my weight quickly but I am a tall guy and therefore I am bound to reduce weight faster than a very short girl! That is life but doesn't mean that a shorter lady can't also be slim! And for that lady to compare her losses to me and then stop dieting because of it is not getting the point.
Therefore compare yourself to nobody, you are you own person and create your own magic. Someone said to me this week that the diet they were doing was a miracle but the miracle is them and not the diet, people are amazing, they can do so much and create so much success but they should take all the credit!
When working with someone, I never let them think that I have done the 'hard work' for them. I am merely the tour guide for them but if you go on a diet, get slim and then stay slim, you are the reason!
I always said 'I got me big, and I'll get me slim' and I did! Because it was all about me and I was going to let nothing and nobody stand in my way.
My advice for this week is to take pride in whatever reduction you have, however slow or fast, however bumpy the ride to slimdom is ;-)
If your friend is reducing quicker, then celebrate their success as well as your own. Don't feel upset in any way. I always say to couples who come to me to add up the losses between them to come up with a bigger running total! Every single ounce you reduce is one step closer to the success that you wanted at the start.
Just remember to diet with a smile on your face! It makes it SOOOOO much easier....
GO FOR IT!!!
Cya Saturday
Mike ;-)
