One of the most common things I see when working with people 1-2-1 is that they want me to tell them off! I had someone this morning phone and say would I be tough with her, and scare her into losing weight. She wanted to be worried that I would moan at her if she didn't!
Beating yourself up, or getting someone else to do it, to be frank, doesn't work! If you beat yourself up, or get someone else to tell you off then you are going to make yourself feel bad. Most overweight people have a tendency to eat when they feel bad. Therefore, by beating yourself up for being big you then eat more and so, get bigger. Therefore you create a vicious circle of
BIG
BEAT YOURSELF UP
FEEL BAD AFTER BEATING YOURSELF UP
EAT TO NOT FEEL BAD
GET BIGGER
BEAT YOURSELF UP
FEEL EVEN WORSE
EAT MORE TO NOT FEEL BAD
GET EVEN BIGGER
Therefore, as Steve says, be nice to yourself! If you start being nice to yourself and looking for the good stuff then you will start to feel nice feelings which then don't lead to you overeating.
When was the last time you paid yourself a compliment? Or when was the last time someone gave you a compliment and you accepted it?
The thing you have to remember is that you aren't broken! You aren't destined to be overweight forever, you aren't a bad person, you aren't a pig, greedy, or a failure. All you have done in the past is eaten too many calories for your body's needs. And that's it.....
And remember that part of you, the real you!, wants to be slim and healthy and happy...if it didn't then why would you be reading this? If you were a total failure then you wouldn't be wanting to make a difference.
I was chatting with someone on Facebook yesterday who said could they come and see me as they were a total failure...I said how can you have failed if you are coming to see me, you are still on the journey and still in the game?
You can change your life today! You can decide today to be slim and then diet to get to your ideal weight, then just eat the amount of calories your body needs and you will be set....Now it sounds so simple, the reality is that it is simple, but if you are going to beat yourself up and see yourself as broken then you won't do it.
So let's look at you....you are great! At your core you are a nice person who wants to be healthy and happy and really do some great things with your life. OK, you may have some behaviours that aren't working for you such as eating a bit too much in the past, but start looking in the mirror and realising that the true magic is inside you...You just have to realise you can be, and do, so much more than maybe you currently believe.
Why not make April 11th 2009 the day you decided to be slim?
Have an amazing easter and talk next Saturday
Mike :-)
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