When I work with clients 1-2-1 it is very common for them to say "I would do anything to lose weight."

 

So my question for you this week is "Would you really do everything you know you have to do to be slim long term, even the bits you know are going to be tough? "

 

Let me give you an example....

 

I worked with a lady some three years ago now who was quite open to me about the real reasons she was big. She was very unhappy in her relationship at home. She and her husband were basically in a loveless marriage but stayed together for the children.

 

She missed the affection and craved attention that she wasn't getting. To quieten down and help herself she used to eat to make herself feel better. She knew why she did it (although initially she pretended she didn't know). She knew that until she dealt with the real problem she was never going to be happy and not need food anymore to help her with her emotional void.

 

She said the very first time I saw her... "I would do anything to look good"

 

So when she told me what the real problem was in her life I asked her whether she would be prepared to deal with that issue. Would you she really rock the foundation of her world to look good? She said that she would and went on to lose a few stones and was on top of the world.

 

I saw her a few months later at the local DIY store. She was still looking slim and said to me she was doing well but "missing food". I can remember thinking when she said it that it wasn't a good sign, if you miss something then you feel loss and want it back. The more you crave it, the more you want it back and, ultimately, will go and find it.

 

She called me around the middle of last year to ask for some advice as she had put a few stone back on. She said "I would do anything to get back to the slim person I was when I finished before". I then asked her if she had dealt with the real problems and she said no......

 

Now this is really really REALLY common! People are overweight and they know why they are overweight, they know what to do to not be overweight and ultimately know what to do to stay slim, BUT, the majority of people will not do everything they need to do to actually deliver the success they desire.

 

If you really want something enough then you will always do whatever it takes to get it. I used to drive a seventy mile round trip every Sunday night at 9pm when I was reducing weight because I wanted it so much. I would have flown to Australia and back if that was what was required to deliver the result.

 

When people say they stopped a diet because someone bought some cake into work and they felt rude to say no, or that they couldn't go to a wedding without drinking, or their best friend wants them to stop because they look ill, or whatever reason people come up with to avoid being successful, then ultimately, they wouldn't do anything.

 

When I first worked with Steve I remember saying to him "I would do anything to be happy" and he said "OK would you strip naked and walk down the high street"

 

I said "NO!!" (This was before my tummy tuck!!)

 

He said "Therefore you wouldn't do anything to have success."

 

To sum up, people who succeed are those that will take every single step they need to until they reach the goal. Whether that step is fun, boring, painful, tedious, emotional, fearful etc etc, they won't stop until they get the prize at the end.

 

So, are you really prepared to do anything to be slim?

 

Have an amazing week

 

Mike :-)