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Human's Are Like Tea Bags, We Don't Know Our Own Strength Until We're In Hot Water - Sister Busche
What Are We Up To This Week? 
 
Well last weekend was a fantastic weekend training up a new set of Weight Management Coaches, they were a lovely bunch to train and work with and congratulations :-)
 
If you are in weight industry as a job and you fancy becoming a certified coach and get some really good results with your clients then the next course is two weeks away and more details at :-
 
 
Also looking forward to tomorrow where we are doing the first public day, this is a day for the general public covering all the topics around the mindset of dieting and weight so see you all in sunny Chesham!
 
 
And finally bowling!
 
Well after last week and the elation on a victory I played the league leaders last night and got absolutely trounced into the floor. The only highlight of the evening being when I completely missed all ten pins twice
Issue: # 28 January 31st 2009
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Greetings!

I hope you are doing fantastically and have had a great week both in terms of your weight, but more importantly, your general wellbeing.
 
Thanks to everyone who E-Mailed me questions after last week's newsletter, I received literally hundreds of them and it was much appreciated. It was also very interesting for me that the same two or three questions came up again and again.
 
They were
 
1. How can I have one biscuit/cake/treat without having the entire pack?
 
2. Why do I want to be slim so much but yet I don't seem to able to motivate myself to do it?
 
3. Why do I never quite get to goal weight? I seem to able to lose a few stones and then can't quite finish off the job.
 
Now, funnily enough, we covered questions two and three in the course I was running on Saturday, when you were E-Mailing me the questions, I was referring to them as I was teaching it. The first question was an excellent one and one that we hadn't covered in the book. We have spent part of this week analysing that and coming up with some answers.
 
This week's article is for people who seem to have a fantastic reason for wanting to be slim and healthy, they find a diet which fits their lifestyle and their budget, and yet still don't actually reduce their weight. Hopefully, this article will make them realise some of the reasons that could be.
 
Finally before I go, I was chatting with someone on Monday at work who said to me that they wanted to quit smoking but couldn't. It was a great conversation as they clearly didn't want to stop as they were telling me in the same sentence how much they enjoy smoking. When I asked them the question "So why do you want to stop?" they replied "Because my husband wants me to" and also "My doctor said I should" and finally "Because it isn't good for the kids". When I asked her about whether or not she wanted to stop for her she said that actually she didn't and she was only thinking about it because other people wanted her to. Therefore, the question I would ask you as I leave you is "Who are you really wanting to be slim for?"
 
Have a fantastic weekend and talk soon.
 
Mike :-)
The Problem Is ....
 
What Might Stop You Being Slim?
  
It always has fascinated me when I work with people 1-2-1 that they are so determined to be slim, they will tell me for literally hours how motivated they are and how they really want it more than anything else in their life. They have also done their research and have found the perfect diet that fits their lifestyle and hence they are ready to be slim....
 
But then nothing happens....
 
Either they just don't reduce their weight or the motivation and all that brilliant enthusiasm just goes....
 
When I studied this at first it didn't make a lot of sense. I would listen to the reasons for wanting to be slim and they always sounded so amazing that I struggled to see why they wouldn't go and do it.
 
But the fact is, that there is actually some other reason for not doing it that is more important than getting on and doing it.
 
For example...
 
I had a lady who came to see me some two years ago now. She wanted to be slim because she was going to live abroad in a very hot country and didn't want to struggle with her weight and overheat because of her size, so wanted to be slim. For me, that sounded very reasonable and also a great goal, she talked about a new life and new body and it all was perfect.
 
She did her research and had found the diet she wanted to do, it was realistic in terms of her timescales and fitted in with her life very well, so all was good.
 
A few weeks went by and she wasn't actually losing any weight, I closed the door and had a chat with her as it just didn't add up.
 
What she said was that her husband didn't want her to be slim as he liked her to be big. When she was dieting, he used to make her life much more difficult and it would bring up relationship issues.
 
Effectively what she was saying was she had a choice, she could either stay big and have a quiet life at home, or more worryingly for her, she could lose weight and maybe...just maybe, lose her husband.
 
So you can see why she wouldn't lose weight. What would seem a simple task to just trim down for a few pounds could actually rock the foundations of her relationship and ultimately her life.
 
Before they go through something, people will always  evaluate the rest of their life against it. If you want to be slim but also want to socialise and drink with your friends then you will make a decision on which is most important to you and then go and do that.
 
When somebody says that they are struggling to motivate themselves or lose weight then there is little point in chatting to them about why they want to be slim as that it very obvious! (for most). What I try and help them with is understanding what else in their life may be on the other side that is actually more important than being slim.
 
If I look at myself when I was big I valued being tough as part of being big. I felt that by being a big guy it offered me this protection, so when I was reducing weight I can remember numerous times being aware that I was getting weaker in my mind and debating whether I wanted to be slim or tough as I couldn't have both. I am glad that I decided slim and healthy was the best option and actually, the reality became staringly obvious, why would I want to be a big tough guy who struggled to walk up a set of stairs?
 
So my questons for you to ponder on this lovely Saturday morning is "What is really stopping you being slim?"
 
Have a great week and see you Saturday
 
Mike ;-)
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FTFA Book To Change Focus 
 
Steve Covey is well known for his books on highly effective people and is usually more geared towards the business market.

The thing I like about this book is that although it covers work it is more about work/life balance and makes you think about what is really important in your life and what your life goals should be.

It focuses on the final result and not the journey itself and generally made me think differently and open up new ideas and new areas to explore and is a good read for anyone who wants to make changes.

You can get it at Amazon at
 
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