Learn From The Past, Plan For The Future But Live In The Present

Focussing On Past Failures Will Mean You Have To Feel Bad And Then Fail Again

It is very, very common for dieters to focus totally on the fact they are overweight. Because you put weight on in the past, then you will focus on the past. When I speak to dieters, they are always talking about how they lost weight before and put it back on, or that they have tried numerous diets in the past.

The key to success is not to feel the emotion of the past. You need to get rid of the negative thoughts about yourself and your weight and just take learnings from the past. So, for example, if in the past you had a very stressful job and overate because of it, instead of beating yourself up over being big and what a failure you are, you just need to learn that you have an emotional link between stress and food and remove the emotion.

Therefore, if you have failed at diets in the past then learn from them. What went wrong? What could you have done better? What do you need to do to succeed the next time? The most successful people in the world are often actually those that fail the most. The difference is that every time they fail, they learn what went wrong and get up and do it better the next time, until they succeed.

If you spend your life just focussing on what a failure you are then you constantly feel the emotions related to failing, and therefore never change what you do, learn from what went wrong and don't move on.

The other common thing with dieters are daydreamers. These are the people who focus on the future and have a perfect picture of what they want to look like. The problem is they spend so much time dreaming of what they want that they don't actually take action in the present to get there.

Someone said to me on Christmas Day that one chocolate doesn't do any harm, but actually, if you want to be slim and you have, let's say, five stone to lose, then yes it does! I spent fifteen years just having a nibble here, and a nibble there and it got me to a size where I struggled to walk up a set of stairs. Therefore, if you want, and need, to lose weight then live in the present and take action now.

Do you live in the present? Are you living for today? Or do you spend a lot of time focussing on what is wrong from your past? Or do you dream of something but never take action?

If you do, then until you live in the present and take action now, nothing will change. As soon as you realise you are the secret, you are the magic and you are in control of your own life and destiny, that's the day when food suddenly becomes no issue for you.

Have a great weekend.

Mike :-)