Most dieters or people I see with weight issues actually perceive themselves to be quite positive about their weight and their lives. They are taking action and moving on but what they say will very much dictate the results they will get.
What they think is a positive mindset is actually based on fear and what they don't want, as opposed to optimism and what they do want.
Let me give you some examples.
How many times have you said or heard other people say
1. I don't want to die
2. I don't want to be the fat mum in the playground
3. I don't want people to laugh at me
4. I don't want to wear big clothes
5. I don't want to go to a wedding looking like I do now
6. I don't want to get on a plane when I can't fit in the seat
etc etc etc
But all of these require you to feel bad! They all require you to think about the thing that upsets you, hence you have to feel upset or uncomfortable. Therefore, if you desperately don't want people to laugh at you for being overweight, you then think about it, you then feel bad so you then use food to cheer yourself up. You then are in what is called a vicious circle.
So what do you really want? Most dieters don't know, or won't allow themselves to think about it, dream it, imagine it and then do it.
So let's turn around those six points above, what if you said instead.
1. I want to live
2. I want to look great in the playground
3. I want people to wolf whistle me
4. I want to wear that new dress I saw in the shop window
5. I want to look fantastic at that wedding
6. I want to bounce about in my airline seat with room for three others
It's just a decision to change what you don't want to what you do want. Even better of course is once you had decided what you do want is to make it even stronger by deciding to do it.
So
1. I will live my life and love it!
2. I will look amazing in that playground, in fact I'll look amazing wherever I am, and whatever I am doing.
3. I will have people say how great I look, and I'll know that I look great.
4. I will wear that dress I really want, and I will feel great in it.
5. I will look amazing on that wedding day.
6. I will get on that plane and make a point of sharing my seat with at least one of the cabin crew.
And then don't doubt it, go ahead and do it!
If you don't know what you want though then you will always be in neutral and not move forwards, let me give you another example of when most people know what they want!
When you sit down tonight in front of the TV then you are likely to make a decision on what you want to watch and not what you don't want to watch!
You may think, I want to relax and have a laugh so I'll watch X-Factor, or you might think I want to watch Brucie and the dancers on Strictly, and guess what! You will!
But would you sit there and think
I don't want to watch the shopping channels, I don't want to watch a documentary, or a quiz, I don't want to see a round of golf, and I definitely don't want to watch a movie, I don't want to view anything in black or white, or any programme with songs in it, I don't want to watch the news channels or anything with David Dickinson on it...
Of course not!!
Therefore if you know what you want to watch on the TV tonight and are happy to think of that, then what is stopping you think of what you want with one of the biggest things in your life! Your Health...
Have an amazing week
Mike :-)
