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When you expect success, your mind focuses on success - Unknown
Submitted by my Mum! :-)
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| What Are We Up To This Week? |
Been really busy this week, I am now well on my to full health and although a bit sore am back at work in the day and have rejoined the human race.
I am pleased to say that this week I have agreed to co-write a book with a good friend of mine (Steve Bates) who is a change therapist and hence we are beavering away writing it during the evenings. If anyone knows of a good agent and how you publish a book then do let me know!!
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Issue: # 8
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September 13th 2008 |
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Greetings!
I hope you had a fantastic week and are ready for a lovely weekend.
Firstly I have had a few E-mails from people saying they aren't getting this newsletter and are having to go to the website to read it even though they have subscribed. I have checked and I believe this is because of spam filters on people's E-Mail systems as the messages are definitely being sent ok. Therefore all I can recommend is that you put newsletter@emijo.co.uk in your address book as that should stop the problem and also to check your spam folder as my messages always go out by 9am on a Saturday morning.
Secondly I am very keen for any ideas and feedback for the newsletter. As it is becoming more popular I would like to know if you think anything is missing that would be useful, or whether anything in the newsletter would be better to be dropped. Also feedback on whether you want more articles or whether my quick two minute read is enough for a Saturday morning.
I have agreed now to write a book on the mindset of weight management and I intend to bottle what makes a successful dieter and maintainer in that book. I plan to use this newsletter to see whether your own experiences and knowledge confirm what I am thinking for content of the book, so I thank everyone who tells me what they think.
My article this week is on the best friend theory, this is something that I made up when I was training in NLP and I find it helps me all the time when I am faced with a decision and can't decide either way. I actually used it last night to decide to pull out of the Great North Run as I am simply not going to be strong enough to complete it but needed the technique just to give myself the reality check.
As a final thought this week, I am supposed to be in bed! The consultant said I should be in bed and my own doctor said I should be in bed, Jo said I should be in bed and even my Dad who hasn't seen me said I should be in bed. It would be very easy for me to take on that label and have sat in bed all week and been looked after by Jo, but I didn't actually feel that ill, so I made a decision that I was well enough, and the fact I told myself I was fine means I have been at work all week and felt perfectly ok. It has taught me that when someone tells me something, although I will listen to them, I will still make my own decision. So the next time someone says to me "You look tired" and I immediately yawn and say "Yes I am", I will actually stop and think "Am I ?"
Have a fantastic week!!!
Mike :-) |
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| Ask Your Best Friend |
Step outside of your normal thinking by pretending to be your best friend.
When you have a "difficult" decision to make then you tend to polarise your thinking, in other words you tend to see it as an either / or choice. With dieting this tends to be you think either you are a great success and sticking to it 100% or you have let yourself down and are a failure and should not bother.
When it comes to making decisions around your weight you can then pull yourself to bits by part of you wanting to be slim and healthy and part of you wanting to eat the food, go to the social event or have that late night nibble on the sofa. But everything you do in life is just a choice and usually there are a lot more choices available to you than just the ON or the OFF switch.
The difficulty is, when you are in the middle of that problem or decision you don't tend to see all the options as you have the "blinkers of panic" on. My offering to you is therefore to ask what your best friend would recommend.
You see most people are fantastic at offering good quality, well thought out, dynamic and intelligent advice to their friends but then tend to get stuck in a rut with their own "stuff", so therefore if you aren't sure what to do then pretend to be your friend and ask what they would recommend.
My example is this!
I am down to do the Great North Run in October, I have some sponsorship resting on it and I didn't make it last year due to injury so was really keen to complete it this year as a personal goal, also I saw it as excellent training for my climb in January.
On the other hand I know that I am not very strong because of the operation and I can't do anywhere near enough training to do the run properly and could injure myself and/or not complete the race and therefore would be unwise to attempt it.
So for the past 2 weeks I have been debating it with myself! Should I, Shouldn't I, and have absolutely dragged it round in my head with no decision.
Albert Einstein said "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it" which is so true. Therefore, last night I asked myself what would my best friend say to me? Quite quickly I thought that he would say definitely not to do it, it was silly, I was putting my health at risk and the only thing that would make me do it was personal pride, put that to one side and just admit that I am not yet well enough.
And hence my problem was solved! I need to break my normal thinking to find the answer and it took me seconds for the reality check I needed.
So how can you use this with weight management? Well the next time you are debating whether to go out for that meal, or whether to eat something or whether or not you should trim down then just think "What would my supportive best friend say?" and you will find you open up your thinking instantly and will get a rounded answer.
So when you come to a decision that you are struggling with just ask your best friend and see what you think
Have a great week!
Mike :-) |
Book Of The Week
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My first thought provoking read
This book was the first book I read when I qualified in NLP that really made me think. It makes you question everything about reality and what you believe is true about your world and your life.
The nice thing is it did it in an entertaining relaxed way and many of my friends have borrowed this now and also enjoyed it immensely.
The fact it explains that the whole human race can be squeezed into a lump the size of a sugar cube is not only interesting but made me laugh for days at the thought of it!
You can get it at Amazon here and I strongly recommend it!
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