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Your Mental Health Nugget
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Characteristics of a Healthy Family
In a healthy family:
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Feelings are accepted and expressed appropriately.
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Needs of each member are accepted and supported.
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Communication is open; listening is routine rather than a pattern of closed communication and secrets being common.
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Family members are generally healthy rather than members experiencing compulsions, addictions or frequent illnesses.
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Grieving of loss and hurt is supported within the family.
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Healthy self-esteem is encouraged and supported rather than members being shame-based and judgmental.
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Rules are clear and explicit, yet flexible when appropriate versus being unspoken, vague or rigid.
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Boundaries are clear and flexible instead of vague, rigid, enmeshed or too loose.
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Members give each other constructive feedback without resorting to criticism, manipulation or the need to control.
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Each member in the family is free to be unique and individual instead of having to conform to pre-set ideas of who he or she should be.
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The home environment is trusting, loving and pleasant versus suspicious, jealous and unpleasant.
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Members' privacy is respected and supported.
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Mistakes are allowed versus message that members have to be perfect or he/she is flawed.
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Members' roles are individualized rather than dictated by family's needs.
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Love is in abundance rather than absent or conditional.
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Conflict may be occasional but is faced directly and resolved.
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Family functions in a fair and authoritative style rather than authoritarian, mistreating or neglectful styles.
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Quotes To Ponder:
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.
-Emily Post
Never try to reason the prejudice out of a man. It was not reasoned into him, and cannot be reasoned out. - Sydney Smith, 1771-1845
The truth is that there is nothing noble in being superior to somebody else. The only real nobility is in being superior to your former self. - Whitney Young, 1921-1971
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