Death is a very serious subject to most children, and the death of a pet, no matter how inconsequential it might seem to you or your older children, can be a very big deal to the pet's owner. In fact, dealing with death on any level can raise some big questions -- and fears -- in young children.

So how do you help your child cope and answer the questions he or she may have?

First of all, don't try to secretly replace the pet. Death is a natural part of life. Your child will grieve, but letting him or her go through the process is better than hiding it or covering it up.

Next, let your child ask any questions she might have about the death.  Answer honestly (according to your personal beliefs), but keep it simple and on a level that she can understand.

Allow your child to say good-bye in the way that is most appropriate for him.  If he wants a funeral, then by all means, let him have it.  Let him be responsible for planning it, and offer to help, but don't take over. If you've got a picture of "dearly departed" put it into a frame and let him keep it by his bed or on a desk.

The death of a pet often brings up questions about other people in the child's life dying -- including you. Do your best to reassure your child that you're not going to die. Listen for questions or actions that show your child is still worried or afraid, and again, provide reassurance.

Don't try to replace the pet right away. Because no parent likes to see their child hurt or sad, parents will often offer to get a new pet to replace this one right away. Your child needs time to grieve, and experience the loss. Replacing a pet right away can send a message that your child's feelings of sadness, regret and loneliness aren't of value or that the pet wasn't important. Instead, allow your child to go through the healing process. He or she will tell you when they're ready to get a new pet.

Giving your child time to grieve, and honoring the feelings of loss and sadness at the death of a beloved pet will help your child learn more about love and life. Helping your child to deal with loss gives him or her skills for coping later on in life.