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Question from Marriage Seminar: Why is it that when I ask my husband a question, he gets upset with me?
Usually, this is a sign of a Usually, this is a sign of a husband who has had a bad experience in a past relationship (for example, being cheated on). So when you ask your husband, 'can we talk?' he gets triggered to be on the defensive because of his bad experience with a previous relationship where she wanted to 'have a talk'. Also, for a husband, the thought of 'having the talk' with his wife could be a scary thing for him, if he perceives 'the talk' as being potentially confrontational where she wants to go toe to toe with him to make her point. Before you ask him to 'talk', approach is so important; I teach couples the art of setting up the plot before you talk. First, lovingly express to your husband what you are feeling and then follow it up with the question or questions you may have. It is important that when it comes to communicating in a relationship, husbands and wives typically have a different outlook to communication. Men tend to want to communicate more briefly, and get straight to the point. On the other hand, women tend to want to communicate at longer lengths with more detail. With such an understanding about each others communication style, it is important to have a loving compromise in regards to how best to communicate with each other. A loving communication will bring about a loving relationship with positive growth. |
If you don't have a church home we invite you to
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church 1575 Thomaston Avenue in Waterbury.
www.rest.org
If you need baby blessings please contact me at 203-753-7377 or officiate weddings go to - S & M (Strong Marriages)
http://rest.org/SandMplus.htm
Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible)
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God, husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)
Pastor TC Brantley
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church
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| Fox on Sex: How to Score Points With Her
From the moment she meets you, she starts a virtual bank account in her mind. But you'd never know. She's adding and subtracting with a pro poker face, using a complex labyrinth of mathematical axioms in which you have emotional credits or debits. You have no clue until you reach an extreme - you find yourself locked out on the front porch or you get handed a fistful of get-out-of-jail-free cards. What are some of the moves that will keep you out of the red?
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Question from Marriage Seminar: What can you do when you have a good husband, but no sexual satisfaction?
In this case, I advise you and your husband to do two things: 1) go to marriage counseling to help resolve the situation. 2) Communicate with your spouse and express your ideas of what can be done to bring about sexual satisfaction within the marriage. Husbands, if your wife has ideas to increase sexual satisfaction with the marriage, view this as a wonderful journey where the both of you can reach a higher level of intimacy. Husbands, on occasions, it is alright to let your wife be the director and for you to be the star of her fantasy. Know your target audience. Who are your most important customers, clients or prospects, and why? |
Question from Singles Seminar: How long should one date before marriage?
I believe that after about 1 year of a serious relationship, the couple should be able to determine whether their mate is marriage material or not. I also must add that I do not believe that the couple should live together before marriage; doing so, will only cloud your judgment in regards to your marriage decision. Also, it is important to assess your intimacy quantity within the relationship. For example, if a majority of your relationship consists of the physical component where a majority of the time is spent in deep kisses instead of exploring the depth of one another's character, then you must assess whether your relationship is more about love or lust. If the relationship is based more on lust than love, you should consider not moving into marriage. Another point, a couple should express their qualities, standards and goals that they look for in a mate. It is important to express such things, because over time you will see whether the two of you are compatible for that next step of marriage. |
Question from Marriage Seminar: Why do good girls like bad boys?
They like the adventure that a bad boy brings. Yet in the end, the bad boy wants more adventure while the good girl wants to settle down. This ends up in a conflict of interest, many arguments, and much emotional pain. | |
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Question from Marriage Seminar: Why Do Women Have to Please Their Man?
Well, I believe the man and woman must PLEASE EACH Other. In Ephesians 5:33, the Bible says in essence, the husband should love the wife and the wife should give reverence to the husband. It's a mutual thing. The love that the Bible talks about is one that is unwavering. Even if she is not showing you love at a particular moment, you are supposed to love her anyway. When she is mean towards you, do not ever disrespect her. In return, a wife should give her husband reverence, which means honor and respect. Realize that in Ephesians 5:33, the husband loving his wife and the wife showing respect to her husband go hand in hand. The woman can't give honor if the husband is not giving the love first. Also read Ephesians 5:21 |
Question from Singles Seminar: How do I deal with my broken heart that I got from my broken home or past relationship?
I advise that you get a counselor who will take time to help you explore and recognize your broken home or past negative relationships. Once you do that, the healing process has begun. So many people run into a relationship and never get the healing that they really need in order to move forward within their life. I say to all, you must first be individually healed before you get into a relationship. If you allow God to heal you, you can then begin to see God move you with the ability to get into a loving relationship. |
Question from Singles Seminar: How do you tell a person you no longer want to be in a relationship without hurting them?
You just tell them the truth in a very loving tone. It's better to speak the truth than lie about your feelings that you don't have toward that person. If you lie about your feelings toward that person, you are setting both of yourselves up for emotional turmoil when in time your true feelings are unveiled through your actions (or lack of actions); for example, you increase in your criticism towards your mate or you not longer give them compliments as you once did. Speak the truth and you will eliminate feeling stuck in a broken relationship filled with heartaches and problems. Even if the person is hurt by your announcement, they will know you spoke truthfully in a loving tone and you did not lie about your feelings of the relationship. | |
