If you are interested in men that lead to a relationship full of turmoil (for example, men who are verbally abusive), this is a deep problem.  A marriage counselor can help you explore your past in order to help you understand why you are attracted to such men.  Sometimes a woman will subconsciously deal with unresolved past trauma by getting into a dysfunctional relationship.  A marriage counselor can help you become conscious (aware) of what was once in your subconscious (things you were unaware of).  Once you understand yourself in a new light, you can begin to be more aware of the warning signs so that you can prevent yourself from getting involved in such dysfunctional relationships.  Also, I believe it is important for you to be comfortable with being alone.  Your alone time can be a vital opportunity for personal growth; such as getting closer to God, furthering your education, etc... It is important to be comfortable with being by yourself, because when you walk around giving off pheromones of loneliness, you are more apt to come across men who prey on lonely women.  Being involved with such a man is a setup for a dysfunctional relationship.

Take last week: My friend (let's call her Liz) and I decided to meet at noon for lunch. She's often late, so I took my time walking over to the café. But mid-stroll, I became paranoid that Liz would be punctual for once, so I rushed to be there on the dot. She was nowhere to be seen. I breathed deeply, rationalizing that now I had some coveted alone time. That lasted all of four minutes. At 12:08, I called Liz on her cell, convinced I'd given her the wrong address. She never picked up. Ten minutes later, she showed up with a big smile and zero apology.