Couples who really love one another will learn from the
negative to increase the positive. They will take the list and
consistently see what is lacking in their lives before turning
to a stranger.
They say most affairs happen within the first 7 years of a
marriage or when someone within the marriage gets close
to 50. Either way, instead of being reactive, be proactive
about not having affairs. Have an affair, but have it with
your spouse. Do not wait until the issue becomes a problem.
Go for it now and tackle it to ensure peace and happiness
in your home.
I cannot stress enough how fornicators and adulterers
(whether homosexual or heterosexual) are enjoying
something that in the very beginning was designed for
faithful married heterosexual couples. The original design of
marriage is to nurture and procreate. Since the creator is the
designer, ONLY HE can change the design. God does not
change because he is transcendent. What man has done is
taken a gift that belongs to one group and applied it to all
groups.
 

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Since God created and loves sex, then married couples
should love sex as well. Many may wonder why some
preachers are involved in sex crimes. It may be because they
want sex, but their spouses are haunted, for unknown reasons.
One, their introduction to sex was perverted. If either had a
horrible first time, that imprint stays until someone erases the
memory. Two, the spouse may not be requesting sex in a meek
spirit but in a controlling spirit. This may entail rebuking,
abusing, and not treating the spouse right. Three, when the sex
is done and only one person leaves satisfied, while the other
leaves very unhappy, then their next union could repeat an
unhealthy cycle. In other words, a prematurely ejaculating
husband will not give his wife the love she deserves and
desires. Too many wives have had sex with the scripture
rolling in their minds to be submissive instead of calling out
their husband's names (Colossians 3:18). Sisters and brothers,
this should not be. Talk about your sexual past and come to an
agreement and then make love as much as possible.

 

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But are there any broad differences between the sexes in the way that we argue? US research into marital stress on the heart has thrown up an intriguing finding about the way some are prone to "self-silencing" during arguments. The research by Elaine D. Eaker, published in Psychosomatic Medicine, found that more men than women had a tendency to bottle up their feelings during confrontations with their partners.

Tim Smith is a psychology professor at the University of Utah, whose own research has found indications that women's heart health is affected adversely by quarrels and men's when they feel they are losing control. There are clear indications, he says, that it is a male tactic to withdraw from arguments. "Women, on average, are more often in the role of the managers of relationship matters. They are often in the position of bringing up and pursuing things they would like to change. This is seen in wives making a request and pursuing it and husbands withdrawing and pulling back. The more of it a couple displays the weaker their relationship future is."

 

 

What turns women on has long been an elusive question. The authors of a new book hope that understanding why women have sex in the first place could go a long way toward answering it.

 

A 25-year-old woman has a friend who is a virgin. She's not physically attracted to him, nor does she want to be romantically involved. But she feels sorry for him, pities his inexperience. So she decides she will go home with her friend-to show him how it's done. As she undresses, she feels powerful and sexy-and that feeling (not the presence of her soon-to-be deflowered friend) turns her on. "It boosted my confidence to be the teacher in the situation and made me feel more desirable," the woman says.

The mystery of why women have sex, and what they want out of it, has long been an elusive study-something even Sigmund Freud called "the great question." Researchers have historically theorized that women's motives lie in love and commitment, while newer studies have shown they do it for pleasure, just like men.

 

But women are complicated creatures: their sexual health is determined as much by their emotions as by their physical state, which might help explain why as many as 50 percent of women have trouble getting aroused. Yet while scientists, in recent years, have labored over the "how" of female desire, no major study, until now, has actually asked women to describe why they have sex in the first place.

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It's hard when you've had a conflict with someone and it's never quite been resolved. Without an apology or other resolution, the trust on both sides is compromised, and you don't know what to expect from this person in the future. Also, references or reminders of past conflicts can sting and create new pain. Once a conflict has gone on awhile, even if both parties move on and remain polite, the feelings of pain and mistrust are usually lingering under the surface, and are difficult to resolve: bringing up old hurts in an effort to resolve them can often backfire, as the other party may feel attacked; avoiding the issue altogether but holding onto resentment can poison feelings in the present. So what do you do at a family gathering when there's someone there with whom you've had an unresolved conflict? Just be polite. A family gathering is not the time to rehash old conflicts, as such conversations often get messy before they get resolved-if they get resolved. In future dealings with this person, you can take one of three paths:

 

Another Point About Women


For men, the point of learning comes in
understanding that women deal with emotions while
men deal with logic. This is not a general statement.
It is just a point that men must keep in mind when
they communicate with their wives. At times, men
look at their wives with a different spirit when they
speak and say things that either come out of
nowhere or say things that make no sense.

Men, we must first remember that women are
different. You cannot deny this. The more you deny
this, the harder it will be for you to accept the way
your wife is. Your wife has her own mind, and it
works well and in overtime.

There will be times that she will say a word to you
that will have you flying and in the very same
breath say something that will crash-land your plane.
The way to fight this is to come away with a spirit
of knowing how you are first. When you know who
you are, then you will not fight what is reality, which is that your wife will switch on you in a
second.

 

 

WebMD Commentary from "Redbook" Magazine By Marion Winik

It's a simple and, yes, slightly sad truth: Although a new partner works long and hard to show you that he's a caring, attentive, and affectionate sort who loves nothing more than to give luxurious foot massages and make out for hours on end, in long-term relationships, the action tends to speed up considerably. You absolutely want - and need - more kissing, caressing, and all that assorted good stuff, but the thought of actually coming out and asking him for those sensual moves makes you cringe. Fortunately, no matter how shy you might be when it comes to X-rated topics, we've got some very effective words that you can bring yourself to say. Here's the plan:

 

All couples argue from time to time, and, in a general sense, turns out we're all arguing about the same things.

 

According to relationship psychotherapist Paula Hall, the top five things that couples argue about are (and roughly in this order):