Why Couples Fall Out of love
People marry expecting to stay in love forever. Changes come to a marriage that many misinterpret as falling out of love. If the expectations in marriage did not change over the years, all marriages would fail. The expectations change in both what is expected when entering the marriage and what is expected as the marriage continues. In the first case, the expectations change with each generation of people who choose to tie the knot. In the second case, as people mature and families grow, expectations change to meet the changing circumstances. Both are natural and should be anticipated.
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Parts of the Female Genitalia for Sexual Stimulation
- BRAIN
- Clitoris
- Vagina
- G-Spot
- Spinal Cord (Back)
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Bring Your Hopes, Doubts and Questions
It's the question in our hearts when things go wrong-when we're abandoned, disappointed, hurt, when there is injustice in the world. Does God exist? Did He just leave us here on our own? How could He be good and yet allow evil? At Restoration Springs Church we're inviting you to join us as we tackle the tough questions-and the doubts-head-on. This weekend, come explore a relationship with the God who cares.
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Stages of Sex
- Excitement (get ready- Arousal)
- Plateau (ready to engage)
- Orgasm (Climax)
If you want to be a better lover to your wife extend the Excitement stage.
For wives its knowing what turns her on. These questions are asked outside the bedroom and not in the bedroom. If she is not telling you read her body when you touch it, In addition notice how she touches her self.
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Have an Affair with your spouse?
Chapter from "Married Couples: Thou Shalt have Great Sex"
Couples who really love one another will learn from the
negative to increase the positive. They will take the list and
consistently see what is lacking in their lives before turning
to a stranger.
They say most affairs happen within the first 7 years of a
marriage or when someone within the marriage gets close
to 50. Either way, instead of being reactive, be proactive
about not having affairs. Have an affair, but have it with
your spouse. Do not wait until the issue becomes a problem.
Go for it now and tackle it to ensure peace and happiness
in your home.
I cannot stress enough how fornicators and adulterers
(whether homosexual or heterosexual) are enjoying
something that in the very beginning was designed for
faithful married heterosexual couples. The original design of
marriage is to nurture and procreate. Since the creator is the
designer, ONLY HE can change the design. God does not
change because he is transcendent. What man has done is
taken a gift that belongs to one group and applied it to all
groups.
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Why do women expect men to know what they are thinking? (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
There is no such thing as a perfect husband who knows what his wife is truly thinking without her expressing it to him. Such a man may exist in a fairytale, but not in real life. Even when men and women do communicate, they may take a while to understand each other because there may be a range of difference in which the man or women think (ranging from thinking logically to thinking emotionally). Thus, communication is a key component in making a marriage work; never assume your mate knows what you are thinking if you haven't expressed the thought to him/her. |
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Excerpt of "New Sheets"
Since God created and loves sex, then married couples
should love sex as well. Many may wonder why some
preachers are involved in sex crimes. It may be because they
want sex, but their spouses are haunted, for unknown reasons.
One, their introduction to sex was perverted. If either had a
horrible first time, that imprint stays until someone erases the
memory. Two, the spouse may not be requesting sex in a meek
spirit but in a controlling spirit. This may entail rebuking,
abusing, and not treating the spouse right. Three, when the sex
is done and only one person leaves satisfied, while the other
leaves very unhappy, then their next union could repeat an
unhealthy cycle. In other words, a prematurely ejaculating
husband will not give his wife the love she deserves and
desires. Too many wives have had sex with the scripture
rolling in their minds to be submissive instead of calling out
their husband's names (Colossians 3:18). Sisters and brothers,
this should not be. Talk about your sexual past and come to an
agreement and then make love as much as possible.
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How does one UNDO the negative traits that one has learned from their negative home environment? (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
It takes time and counseling to transform from a negative to a positive mind frame. The first step of change is acknowledging that you have a negative mind frame that needs to be changed. If you do not acknowledge you have a negative mind frame, you can not change it. Once you have identified that you have a negative mind frame, with the assistance of counseling, you can learn how to replace negative ways of thinking with positive ones. I believe that individuals will always have issues and challenges in life but when you lean on God's grace, you can overcome them and become a better person. |
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My husband hates for me to talk to guys. But he still has female friends. (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
It is amazing how such a man will have a double standard in regards to friendships while married, where he believes it is alright for him to have women friends, but does not want his wife to have any male friends. In such a case, I advise marriage counseling. Usually, when the husband takes on such a perspective, he is attempting to control his wife. If a husband is attempting control in such a manner, there most likely is a deep insecurity within him (counseling could help him address this issue). Controlling one's wife as an object is unscriptural; instead, the Bible advises married couples to submit one to another (Ephesians 5:21). It is important upon the final decision (in regards to having friends of the opposite sex), that the married couple comes upon a mutual agreement
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Furthermore, if you don't have a church home we invite you to
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church 1575 Thomaston Avenue in Waterbury.
www.rest.org
If you need baby blessings please contact me at 203-753-7377 or officiate weddings go to - S & M (Strong Marriages)
http://rest.org/SandMplus.htm
Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible)
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God, husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)
Pastor TC Brantley
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church
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Pastor TC with Stan Simpson and Jackie Brantley(wife). Recent interview will be on this Sunday at 10am.
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Is it Ok for my SAVED husband to hang out with unsaved friends all night and not be accountable to me? (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
NO
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Find Hope at Restoration Springs Intden'l Church
Sometimes the road of life can be pretty bumpy; economic downturns, job problems, even parenting can cause you to get stuck in a rut! That's where Restoration Springs Church can help! Our weekly services can provide you the hope and support you need to get your life running smoother. With a pit crew (of friends) and instructions from the master designer, the road ahead will look much brighter! So this weekend, pull over and see us! |
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Parts of the Male Genitalia for Sexual Stimulation
- Penis
- Scrotum
- Perineum
- PC Muscles
- Separate orgasm from ejaculation
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Sex Therapists Gauge Ideal Time for Sex
April 3, 2008 -- A new survey aims to set the record straight about how long heterosexual intercourse should last.
The verdict: 3 to 13 minutes, with 3-7 minutes deemed "acceptable" and 7 to 13 minutes dubbed "desirable."
Thirty-four sex therapists in the U.S. and Canada completed the survey. They had 26 years of clinical experience, on average; 45% of them were men.
One skipped the timing question, 25 mentioned specific amounts of time, and eight said time for intercourse depends on the couple.
"Many sex therapists consider coitus that lasts as little as 3 minutes to be of adequate length," write the researchers, who included Eric Corty, PhD, of Penn State Erie.
The survey may correct the public's "unrealistic" expectations for sexual performance to last longer, note Corty and colleagues in May's edition of The Journal of Sexual Medicine.
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I rarely orgasm and feel frustrated & feel bad for my husband. What should I do? (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
The first step is for the couple is to visit a medical doctor to determine whether there is a physical problem that is preventing the wife from having an orgasm.
If the medical doctor determines that she does not have any medical problems that prevent her from achieving orgasm, the couple should then seek a counselor to explore and overcome other deep-rooted issues; for example, she may have experience a traumatic event (such as being sexually assaulted) that is preventing her from having an orgasm.
A counselor can assist the married couple through this trying time with various recommendations to spice up levels of intimacy. Within this process, the couple needs to be patient and encouraging towards one another to prevent any possibility of depression setting in.
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I am spoiled; I keep going back to my parents and not husband for things. Is this wrong? (Questions from Randolph, MA Marriage Enrichment 072209)
Depending on your parents more than your spouse is detrimental to any marriage. The Bible clearly says that you must leave your parents and cleave unto your spouse. Instead of the parents allowing their married daughter to depend on them, they should significantly decrease access towards such dependence. When the father gave his daughter's hand to her husband, in essence that represents the parents handing over the responsibility to the husband to care for their daughter. The wife must trust her husband to be her main provider (not her parents). If a wife continues to depend on her parents more than her husband to provide for her, she is acting in a manner as if she never left her parent's home and she is undermining her husband's role of being the main provider. |
Alternatives to Hysterectomy
One-third of American women experience some type of pelvic health disorder by the time they're 60. And about 600,000 women every year have a hysterectomy -- removing their uterus to relieve troubling symptoms. Overall, an estimated 20 million women have had a hysterectomy.
But if you have painful periods with excessive bleeding, fibroids, endometriosis, or another pelvic health problem, you should know that there are new alternatives to hysterectomy to consider.
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Experts share suggestions for defusing marital disputes.
Suggestions for Keeping the Peace
Experts of wedded bliss -- some with the pedigree of education, and others with the scars of experience -- have these suggestions:
- Go to bed angry
- Take a break
- Own up to your part of the fight
- Find the humor
- Shut up and touch
- Ban the "but."
- Remember what's important
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| 30 Days Back to Love
You married a great guy. But you're stuck in a romance rut. Here's your road map to getting the relationship you want with the husband you still cherish.
A happily married woman told me recently that she has a secret way of recapturing the feeling of being in love that she had as a young bride. When she and her husband go out to dinner, she'll watch how other people - a waitress, a friend they're out with that night, an acquaintance who stops by their table - are responding to his good humor and good looks. If someone laughs at his jokes or listens intently to a story he's telling or (even better) flirts with him, she tries to absorb those feelings and make them her own.
"It's as if they're reminding me of things I lose sight of in the day-to-day," she said. "Maybe he's doing the same thing with the people around me." She chuckled. "I hope so. Does that sound strange?"
It didn't sound strange at all. We may continue to recognize wonderful traits in our partners, but after five, 10, 20, or more years of marriage, we see them too close-up for those things to take our breath away anymore. It's like the difference between swimming in the sea every day during the summer and being moved by the ocean's magic and power from a perch on land during a winter getaway.
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What happens when the wife does not see the new you? (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
When a husband has done wrong towards his wife for a long period of time, she may harbor those hurts deep within her mind. Even when the husband has begun to change for the better, his wife may see her hurts more than his positive change. In such a case, I recommend the couple seek counseling to help them adapt to this season of change (for the better) within the relationship. Within this process, the husband will have to be patient because his wife may need some time (along with the help of counseling) to get past the pain to accept and appreciate her husband's positive change
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My man wants to marry but he doesn't feel he has the money to do it (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
I applaud a man who explores various issues before marrying, such as financial issues. This is a sign of a man who thinks through his decisions, and financially wants to be able to provide for his wife and family. It is important that you sit down with your man to have a discussion about realistic financial goals (such as an affordable wedding). Within the financial discussion, be sure to prioritize both of your financial needs (such as paying mortgage and bills) over your financial desires/wants (vacationing in Hawaii). In assessing your financial situation, that vacation in Hawaii can wait until enough money is set aside and your bills and mortgages are paid up. A couple that has good communication in regards to finances will prevent many arguments down the line. | |
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Wipe off he Counter Top in Britain
According to mydeco.com the top spot for steamy married sex is the kitchen. Other famous places include the washing room and dining room table. Yet at the same type, a lot of injury is being reported. In other words be careful.
(From the Daily Sun)
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Excerpt
from "Real Men Don't Have Closets"
Pastor, Prophet,
Preacher, Priest
In no way am I making a swiping
condemnation spirit on my spiritual profession.
Yet, while the Catholic Church was hammered
due to the sins of messed-up priests having sex
with minors, the Protestant Church was quiet.
The issue is that there are preachers who are
lying not only to their congregations but also to
their wives. I have no documented statistics at
all concerning this problem. All I know is that
the down low problem is within some pulpits.
Yes, there are men and women in our pulpits
who must examine themselves about what
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persons or children they are messing up. May I
add that no preacher is without sin, but to go
around and spread your sin to people who
depend upon thy word is a problem. This
portion is also extended to preachers who say
one thing, but do exactly the opposite. In other
words, if you are going to preach on a sin that
you struggle with, you had better come with
grace and not damnation.
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What do you do when your spouse does not want to combine income to pay bills? (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
When couples do not become ONE in all areas, then mental, emotional, and sexual problems will arise. In fact, the bible says that "two are better than one" (Ecclesiastes 4:9). In working together, more things can be accomplished to the glory of God. When you get married, one main objective is to do things on one accord. When things are done selfishly and separately in a marriage, the couple will spend a majority of the relationship arguing and they will have problems that will continue to grow like weeds. |
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Making Marriage Matter
Marriage is more than just wearing a ring on your finger. Marriage is an intimate and enduring relationship that grows over time and makes you a better person, says Harvard psychologist and psychotherapist Mark O'Connell, PhD.
"We hold this conservative view of marriage as a safe but boring choice," says O'Connell, author of the Marriage Benefit: The Surprising Rewards of Staying Together in Midlife. "But there has to be a more compelling reason to get married, and to stay married, and my experience points to the value of intimacy and personal growth."
From the benefits of marriage therapy, which helps couples resolve their differences, to taking it one step further and focusing on more than just getting along, experts tell WebMD how you and your spouse can build a stronger bond and make your marriage matter.
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Excerpt from "Successful Marriages for Successful Men"
Another Point About Women
For men, the point of learning comes in understanding that women deal with emotions while men deal with logic. This is not a general statement. It is just a point that men must keep in mind when they communicate with their wives. At times, men look at their wives with a different spirit when they speak and say things that either come out of nowhere or say things that make no sense.
Men, we must first remember that women are
different. You cannot deny this. The more you deny
this, the harder it will be for you to accept the way
your wife is. Your wife has her own mind, and it
works well and in overtime.
There will be times that she will say a word to you
that will have you flying and in the very same
breath say something that will crash-land your plane.
The way to fight this is to come away with a spirit
of knowing how you are first. When you know who
you are, then you will not fight what is reality, which is that your wife will switch on you in a
second.
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Seven Signs Its Time to Move On (Singles)
- Cheater - Constant
- Fuss about everything
- Bromance over Romance (They will choose their friends over you -constantly)
- They are checking out others more than you.
- They have no point of view about anything.
- No romance at all.
- Don't return phone calls or text messages.
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Extend Marriage SEX
- Extend Marriage sex by EXTENDING the arousal part of sex.
- Learn to FORGIVE
- Wear different underwear (knowing what your spouse has on before and during the day will heighten the deed when it happens)
- Tease Each Other
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Benefits of Marriage SEX
- Loose 100 calories
- Relieves hypertension & stress
- Husband decrease heart attack by half
- Kissing reduces gum disease
- Hugging stimulates oxytocin
- Lowers blood pressure
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She says she needs time to recover from sex. I want it more than once a week? (From 082209 Marriage Enrichment in Randolph, MA)
Compromise is the key component within this situation. In regards to the frequency of sex, you must communicate your desires to your wife and find out her desires in order to come to a mid-ground resolution.
For example, she may not want to have intercourse, but may be open to other forms of sex. Such a compromise will satisfy both the husband's and wife's desires. The key is to compromise; otherwise, there may be arguments that led to no sex at all.
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